MIL and SIL stay for Thanksgiving- say anything?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP is a total user and abuser, that much is clear. She has friends bringing dinner, so she is open to company as long as it suits her, what are two more people to this mix? It is all about her, god forbid her SIL spoke two words to her friends, who are coming over. What possible reason is it to cancel friends coming over? Even if they are bringing dinner(which I don't quite get) isn't it extra work hosting friends? Perfect opportunity for MIl to step in and help out, but no, OP must be prima donna through and though. She wants to be center of attention, and creates drama whenever it suits her.

LOL! Whoa! Op here- I have a newborn! Friends have been bringing dinner to meet the baby for months now! We do the same when our friends have babies! And our friends' mils and Sils are never present to hang out, eat, and chat when we do so!

OP, long-time DCUMer here. The previous pp is clearly baiting you. Ignore the troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is a total user and abuser, that much is clear. She has friends bringing dinner, so she is open to company as long as it suits her, what are two more people to this mix? It is all about her, god forbid her SIL spoke two words to her friends, who are coming over. What possible reason is it to cancel friends coming over? Even if they are bringing dinner(which I don't quite get) isn't it extra work hosting friends? Perfect opportunity for MIl to step in and help out, but no, OP must be prima donna through and though. She wants to be center of attention, and creates drama whenever it suits her.

LOL! Whoa! Op here- I have a newborn! Friends have been bringing dinner to meet the baby for months now! We do the same when our friends have babies! And our friends' mils and Sils are never present to hang out, eat, and chat when we do so!

So what? You can't have your MIL and SIL be present once? Your friend's MIL and SIL are never present? What are you in highschool?

Sure you're s great MIL, sweetie.

Dearie, two can play this part. If you don't like what you are hearing, why post here? I call a spade a spade, world doesn't revolve around you. I am neither sweet nor a MIL. I do, however, pity you. Must be lonely inside that selfish head. You know you are wrong, and coming up with excuses is pathetic and sad. "Our friend's MILs and SILs are never present to hang out, eat and chat when we do so!" "Mom, MIL, leave me alone, I want to have time with my friends... I want to be a grown up, but I can't act like one, I can't have my MIL and SIL here because then I can't gossip them to my friends, being a self centered biatch that I am"....Is that clear enough for you? You act like a teen, you get treated like one.

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OP,
You have a newborn and no one is expecting much from you. Order your meals from Boston Market and do not muddy the waters by being less than gracious to your relatives. Why are people on DCUM so angry when they are even a little inconvenienced? The entire Nation will be visiting/hosting this TG. You are not a special snowflake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is a total user and abuser, that much is clear. She has friends bringing dinner, so she is open to company as long as it suits her, what are two more people to this mix? It is all about her, god forbid her SIL spoke two words to her friends, who are coming over. What possible reason is it to cancel friends coming over? Even if they are bringing dinner(which I don't quite get) isn't it extra work hosting friends? Perfect opportunity for MIl to step in and help out, but no, OP must be prima donna through and though. She wants to be center of attention, and creates drama whenever it suits her.

LOL! Whoa! Op here- I have a newborn! Friends have been bringing dinner to meet the baby for months now! We do the same when our friends have babies! And our friends' mils and Sils are never present to hang out, eat, and chat when we do so!

So, talk with your MIL and SIL. Tell them that they are welcome to extend their stay, but that you have friends coming to see the baby and offered to make us dinner that night. Since you don't want to impose, they'll need to provide their own dinner that night, but otherwise are welcome to stay. They can opt to go out for dinner, eat before the friends arrive, or make/order dinner to eat with the guests.

In my case, most of my good friends have already met my parents and would be happy to socialize with them again. My mother would probably offer to cook for everyone that night and suggest that the friends provide a freezer meal for us or a later meal for us for after parents have gone home.

It's not her parents--it's her DHs. Completely different dynamic at play here with MIL and SIL.

Sorry I didn't't me then it, but I'm a dad. If friends were coming to see my wife and baby after birth and my mother was visiting, she'd offer to cook dinner for everyone including guests and suggest the friends make a freezer meal that we could eat after she went home.

[Anonymous]

The comment on the SIL's marital status and age was really bitchy OP. She and your MIL want to spend two extra days with your family and you go into nuke mode?? Very spiteful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Suck it up to keep the peace. Ask them to help with the kids (i.e., spend time with them) when it makes sense. Tell your husband he needs to step it up as host.

+1

And hide out with the newborn in your bedroom if you need space. All hosting and older kid care falls on DH.

[Anonymous]

I have to say you are a whiny biatch OP.

[Anonymous]

I hope OP's husband sees this comment and realizes that she is a bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is a total user and abuser, that much is clear. She has friends bringing dinner, so she is open to company as long as it suits her, what are two more people to this mix? It is all about her, god forbid her SIL spoke two words to her friends, who are coming over. What possible reason is it to cancel friends coming over? Even if they are bringing dinner(which I don't quite get) isn't it extra work hosting friends? Perfect opportunity for MIl to step in and help out, but no, OP must be prima donna through and though. She wants to be center of attention, and creates drama whenever it suits her.

LOL! Whoa! Op here- I have a newborn! Friends have been bringing dinner to meet the baby for months now! We do the same when our friends have babies! And our friends' mils and Sils are never present to hang out, eat, and chat when we do so!

So, talk with your MIL and SIL. Tell them that they are welcome to extend their stay, but that you have friends coming to see the baby and offered to make us dinner that night. Since you don't want to impose, they'll need to provide their own dinner that night, but otherwise are welcome to stay. They can opt to go out for dinner, eat before the friends arrive, or make/order dinner to eat with the guests.

In my case, most of my good friends have already met my parents and would be happy to socialize with them again. My mother would probably offer to cook for everyone that night and suggest that the friends provide a freezer meal for us or a later meal for us for after parents have gone home.

It's not her parents--it's her DHs. Completely different dynamic at play here with MIL and SIL.

Sorry I didn't't me then it, but I'm a dad. If friends were coming to see my wife and baby after birth and my mother was visiting, she'd offer to cook dinner for everyone including guests and suggest the friends make a freezer meal that we could eat after she went home.

Yeah, OP already mentioned that her in-laws expect to be waited on and get into rude arguments. Not the same thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here- we did have plans on Saturday night for friends to bring dinner and meet the baby. I will have to cancel them.

Op, why cancel? You can't socialize with your friends and with your MIL and SIL? I don't really see what the issue is. You're just trying to make life difficult and create obstacles and problems where there are none.

NP but I would think it's weird if I went to my friend's house to bring food and had to feed extra people. I probably wouldn't have made enough. And yes, I enjoy my friend's company by themselves not with an older generation present.

It would be super weird! If I was bringing dinner to help out the new parents (which my friend group also does!) it would be very very awkward to show up and see that the friend's able-bodied MIL and SIL were there, but somehow incapable of helping.

Yes, I would feel sorry for my friend for having crappy family members, but it would also be super awkward. Especially, if I had to watch the new parents waiting on them, and hearing them say rude things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here- we did have plans on Saturday night for friends to bring dinner and meet the baby. I will have to cancel them.

Op, why cancel? You can't socialize with your friends and with your MIL and SIL? I don't really see what the issue is. You're just trying to make life difficult and create obstacles and problems where there are none.

NP but I would think it's weird if I went to my friend's house to bring food and had to feed extra people. I probably wouldn't have made enough. And yes, I enjoy my friend's company by themselves not with an older generation present.

It would be super weird! If I was bringing dinner to help out the new parents (which my friend group also does!) it would be very very awkward to show up and see that the friend's able-bodied MIL and SIL were there, but somehow incapable of helping.

Yes, I would feel sorry for my friend for having crappy family members, but it would also be super awkward. Especially, if I had to watch the new parents waiting on them, and hearing them say rude things.

It would be weird to have family around when you visit your friends? How old are you? Do your mom and dad have to close the door to your room when they bring you and your friends snacks?