How did you get over your AP?

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's been over two years for me, and I'm still not over her.[/quote]

How long was your affair? Who broke it off and why?[/quote]

It was short, but intense - two and a half months. She ghosted. I'm sure she had her reasons.[/quote]

Why do you think you still think about her? And do you think your wife can tell?[/quote]

Because she was beautiful, and witty, and smart, and we had this amazing connection. She awakened something in me that I didn't know existed.

And no, my wife has no idea. Life goes on ...[/quote]

Do you think you will have another affair?[/quote]

No. I wouldn't want anyone else.[/quote]

There is something about your story that is very compelling. Do you think you have been thinking about your AP for two years after a brief affair because she ghosted? Maybe you would feel differently if the affair went on longer and you were the one to let her go.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's been over two years for me, and I'm still not over her.[/quote]

How long was your affair? Who broke it off and why?[/quote]

It was short, but intense - two and a half months. She ghosted. I'm sure she had her reasons.[/quote]

Why do you think you still think about her? And do you think your wife can tell?[/quote]

Because she was beautiful, and witty, and smart, and we had this amazing connection. She awakened something in me that I didn't know existed.

And no, my wife has no idea. Life goes on ...[/quote]

Do you think you will have another affair?[/quote]

No. I wouldn't want anyone else.[/quote]

There is something about your story that is very compelling. Do you think you have been thinking about your AP for two years after a brief affair because she ghosted? Maybe you would feel differently if the affair went on longer and you were the one to let her go.[/quote]

I think about her because I'm still in love with her. I knew pretty much immediately, and it was a kind of love I'd never felt before. Whether the affair lasted months or years, or whether I'd been the one to let her go, it wouldn't have changed how I felt about her. Or how I still feel, after all this time.

[Anonymous]

Mostly, time passes and it gets easier to the point its just in the past. Like all exes, it just becomes someone you used to love but now just think fondly of. Give it a month, you will feel better. Also, pour yourself back into your marriage.

Since OP's ex AP is single, you can also imagine him having sex with others, which I am sure he is doing.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's been over two years for me, and I'm still not over her.[/quote]

How long was your affair? Who broke it off and why?[/quote]

It was short, but intense - two and a half months. She ghosted. I'm sure she had her reasons.[/quote]

Why do you think you still think about her? And do you think your wife can tell?[/quote]

Because she was beautiful, and witty, and smart, and we had this amazing connection. She awakened something in me that I didn't know existed.

And no, my wife has no idea. Life goes on ...[/quote]

Do you think you will have another affair?[/quote]

No. I wouldn't want anyone else.[/quote]

There is something about your story that is very compelling. Do you think you have been thinking about your AP for two years after a brief affair because she ghosted? Maybe you would feel differently if the affair went on longer and you were the one to let her go.[/quote]

I think about her because I'm still in love with her. I knew pretty much immediately, and it was a kind of love I'd never felt before. Whether the affair lasted months or years, or whether I'd been the one to let her go, it wouldn't have changed how I felt about her. Or how I still feel, after all this time.[/quote]

This is why affairs are so devastating. They can go beyond the physical and it's not just about sex or getting laid but you've so damaged your marriage.

How do you feel about growing old with your wife when you're in love with another woman?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]
This is why affairs are so devastating. They can go beyond the physical and it's not just about sex or getting laid but you've so damaged your marriage.

How do you feel about growing old with your wife when you're in love with another woman?[/quote]

NP here. I feel devastated, to be honest.

[Anonymous]

You are not alone in your devastation.

Everyone thinks affairs are just about sex. They may start that way. But if it becomes more, and you can't take it further...it haunts you forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone in your devastation.

Everyone thinks affairs are just about sex. They may start that way. But if it becomes more, and you can't take it further...it haunts you forever.

GMAFB, You act like you are the only one to have to break up with a SO. Almost everybody has a SO and they love them but break up. It's not some huge deal. People date, they break up, it sucks, ... NORMAL PEOPLE move on... people with mental issues imagine their relationship was something it wasn't and ponder it for weeks, months, years.

ALL DATING IS ABOUT SEX... and then sometimes you end up having feelings.... even 16yo's know this.

You have affairs because there is something wrong with you and you can't move on because there is something wrong with you.

You are mental, get some help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone in your devastation.

Everyone thinks affairs are just about sex. They may start that way. But if it becomes more, and you can't take it further...it haunts you forever.

GMAFB, You act like you are the only one to have to break up with a SO. Almost everybody has a SO and they love them but break up. It's not some huge deal. People date, they break up, it sucks, ... NORMAL PEOPLE move on... people with mental issues imagine their relationship was something it wasn't and ponder it for weeks, months, years.

ALL DATING IS ABOUT SEX... and then sometimes you end up having feelings.... even 16yo's know this.

You have affairs because there is something wrong with you and you can't move on because there is something wrong with you.

You are mental, get some help.

Dating isn't always about sex. It may be initially, but when you fall for a person sometimes it's hard to ignore what could be. If you've never experienced that in your life then I can't explain it. There will always be a place in my heart especially for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone in your devastation.

Everyone thinks affairs are just about sex. They may start that way. But if it becomes more, and you can't take it further...it haunts you forever.

GMAFB, You act like you are the only one to have to break up with a SO. Almost everybody has a SO and they love them but break up. It's not some huge deal. People date, they break up, it sucks, ... NORMAL PEOPLE move on... people with mental issues imagine their relationship was something it wasn't and ponder it for weeks, months, years.

ALL DATING IS ABOUT SEX... and then sometimes you end up having feelings.... even 16yo's know this.

You have affairs because there is something wrong with you and you can't move on because there is something wrong with you.

You are mental, get some help.

+ 1 million. These people pining for their affair partners make me want to vomit. Enough already. You had some hot extramarital sex at the expense of your husband who was toiling and holding up his end of the bargain. (And if he wasn't the answer is still not an affair.). Now move on. Don't confuse hormones with love. Clowns.

[Anonymous]

I think the mistake that you make is assuming that everyones spouse is perfect. Perhaps, they aren't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone in your devastation.

Everyone thinks affairs are just about sex. They may start that way. But if it becomes more, and you can't take it further...it haunts you forever.

GMAFB, You act like you are the only one to have to break up with a SO. Almost everybody has a SO and they love them but break up. It's not some huge deal. People date, they break up, it sucks, ... NORMAL PEOPLE move on... people with mental issues imagine their relationship was something it wasn't and ponder it for weeks, months, years.

ALL DATING IS ABOUT SEX... and then sometimes you end up having feelings.... even 16yo's know this.

You have affairs because there is something wrong with you and you can't move on because there is something wrong with you.

You are mental, get some help.

Dating isn't always about sex. It may be initially, but when you fall for a person sometimes it's hard to ignore what could be. If you've never experienced that in your life then I can't explain it. There will always be a place in my heart especially for them.

You are an emotional cripple, you need therapy.

OMG! Yes dating is about sex and then sometime you fall for a person. It happens all the time this is not new or something novel. The problem is YOU never experienced it before your AP. Why ... why is that... why is nobody interested in you except this one person. There is something seriously wrong with you, that is why. That is why your AP does not want you any more.

Fix yourself and then you can find this in somebody in a healthy way.

I have a special place in my heart for my BF in college, and the dude I had as a FWB all my 20's and my BF in HS and a few others. That is normal. SO WHAT! This is not some huge thing others don't experience. Go find somebody else to date and fall in love with, there is a whole world out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone in your devastation.

Everyone thinks affairs are just about sex. They may start that way. But if it becomes more, and you can't take it further...it haunts you forever.

GMAFB, You act like you are the only one to have to break up with a SO. Almost everybody has a SO and they love them but break up. It's not some huge deal. People date, they break up, it sucks, ... NORMAL PEOPLE move on... people with mental issues imagine their relationship was something it wasn't and ponder it for weeks, months, years.

ALL DATING IS ABOUT SEX... and then sometimes you end up having feelings.... even 16yo's know this.

You have affairs because there is something wrong with you and you can't move on because there is something wrong with you.

You are mental, get some help.

Dating isn't always about sex. It may be initially, but when you fall for a person sometimes it's hard to ignore what could be. If you've never experienced that in your life then I can't explain it. There will always be a place in my heart especially for them.

You are an emotional cripple, you need therapy.

OMG! Yes dating is about sex and then sometime you fall for a person. It happens all the time this is not new or something novel. The problem is YOU never experienced it before your AP. Why ... why is that... why is nobody interested in you except this one person. There is something seriously wrong with you, that is why. That is why your AP does not want you any more.

Fix yourself and then you can find this in somebody in a healthy way.

I have a special place in my heart for my BF in college, and the dude I had as a FWB all my 20's and my BF in HS and a few others. That is normal. SO WHAT! This is not some huge thing others don't experience. Go find somebody else to date and fall in love with, there is a whole world out there.

First off, I was not the PP you originally quoted. Secondly, my post was not describing an AP. Thirdly, you forgot to take your meds this morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone in your devastation.

Everyone thinks affairs are just about sex. They may start that way. But if it becomes more, and you can't take it further...it haunts you forever.

GMAFB, You act like you are the only one to have to break up with a SO. Almost everybody has a SO and they love them but break up. It's not some huge deal. People date, they break up, it sucks, ... NORMAL PEOPLE move on... people with mental issues imagine their relationship was something it wasn't and ponder it for weeks, months, years.

ALL DATING IS ABOUT SEX... and then sometimes you end up having feelings.... even 16yo's know this.

You have affairs because there is something wrong with you and you can't move on because there is something wrong with you.

You are mental, get some help.

Dating isn't always about sex. It may be initially, but when you fall for a person sometimes it's hard to ignore what could be. If you've never experienced that in your life then I can't explain it. There will always be a place in my heart especially for them.

You are an emotional cripple, you need therapy.

OMG! Yes dating is about sex and then sometime you fall for a person. It happens all the time this is not new or something novel. The problem is YOU never experienced it before your AP. Why ... why is that... why is nobody interested in you except this one person. There is something seriously wrong with you, that is why. That is why your AP does not want you any more.

Fix yourself and then you can find this in somebody in a healthy way.

I have a special place in my heart for my BF in college, and the dude I had as a FWB all my 20's and my BF in HS and a few others. That is normal. SO WHAT! This is not some huge thing others don't experience. Go find somebody else to date and fall in love with, there is a whole world out there.

First off, I was not the PP you originally quoted. Secondly, my post was not describing an AP. Thirdly, you forgot to take your meds this morning.

Yea, I'm the one that need meds.

Yes dating is always about sex, if there is no sex it's just friends.

If you fall for a person and it ends it sucks. Yes, we get it. AP or not an AP it is not different, why act like it is some cosmic different relationship. It isn't. You are not talking about an AP but the thread is titled 'how did you get over your AP" ... here is how... date somebody else... preferably somebody that is not married. #mindblown

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not alone in your devastation.

Everyone thinks affairs are just about sex. They may start that way. But if it becomes more, and you can't take it further...it haunts you forever.

GMAFB, You act like you are the only one to have to break up with a SO. Almost everybody has a SO and they love them but break up. It's not some huge deal. People date, they break up, it sucks, ... NORMAL PEOPLE move on... people with mental issues imagine their relationship was something it wasn't and ponder it for weeks, months, years.

ALL DATING IS ABOUT SEX... and then sometimes you end up having feelings.... even 16yo's know this.

You have affairs because there is something wrong with you and you can't move on because there is something wrong with you.

You are mental, get some help.

Dating isn't always about sex. It may be initially, but when you fall for a person sometimes it's hard to ignore what could be. If you've never experienced that in your life then I can't explain it. There will always be a place in my heart especially for them.

You are an emotional cripple, you need therapy.

OMG! Yes dating is about sex and then sometime you fall for a person. It happens all the time this is not new or something novel. The problem is YOU never experienced it before your AP. Why ... why is that... why is nobody interested in you except this one person. There is something seriously wrong with you, that is why. That is why your AP does not want you any more.

Fix yourself and then you can find this in somebody in a healthy way.

I have a special place in my heart for my BF in college, and the dude I had as a FWB all my 20's and my BF in HS and a few others. That is normal. SO WHAT! This is not some huge thing others don't experience. Go find somebody else to date and fall in love with, there is a whole world out there.

First off, I was not the PP you originally quoted. Secondly, my post was not describing an AP. Thirdly, you forgot to take your meds this morning.

Yea, I'm the one that need meds.

Yes dating is always about sex, if there is no sex it's just friends.

If you fall for a person and it ends it sucks. Yes, we get it. AP or not an AP it is not different, why act like it is some cosmic different relationship. It isn't. You are not talking about an AP but the thread is titled 'how did you get over your AP" ... here is how... date somebody else... preferably somebody that is not married. #mindblown

That is correct.