How did you get over your AP?
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
It was short, but intense - two and a half months. She ghosted. I'm sure she had her reasons. |
Anonymous
Why do you think you still think about her? And do you think your wife can tell? |
Anonymous
It did for a bit. Then it went right back. They say cheaters repeat their behavior. Honestly I won't. I did feel guilt and stress. I'll just leave at this point. I'm not going through it again. I felt guilty for cheating, but in a way felt justified as I'm a person who needs that physical connection and I wasn't getting it. I felt alone and other than my kid, the only other thing I had I enjoyed was working out. That's how I met her. She approached me actually and I was shocked. Here was this great looking, fit, funny woman who thought I was hot, laughed at my silly jokes, liked the same things and used to blow off dates with other guys just to come work out with me or hang out. When she started doing that I knew she liked me. I just went for it and it happened. I knew it was a risk as we had become friends, but she was receptive. She later told me she was conflicted about her feelings - me being married - but that she liked the way I made her feel. It was nice and validating for me to have someone as attractive and type A as her so into me. She looked up to me and respected my opinions. There want the constant fighting, nagging and so on. It was nice to be told "hey you're looking really good today, I really want to kiss you and have you". In the end, I had to end it. It wasn't going to end well, and I missed her - or the idea of her - for a long time. I'll always remember what it's like to be wanted by someone so much. It did make me realize that I am worth something though. There are other people that will find me attractive and want to be with me. |
Anonymous
Because she was beautiful, and witty, and smart, and we had this amazing connection. She awakened something in me that I didn't know existed. And no, my wife has no idea. Life goes on ... |
Anonymous
| it would be poetic justice if he becomes your supervisor |
Anonymous
Do you think you will have another affair? |
Anonymous
No. I wouldn't want anyone else. |
Anonymous
|
Do not tell your husband. You ladies advocating for that are just being bitches to the OP or projecting your own marriage insecurity. OP fucked up and she knows it. Telling her husband would only destroy him
Emotionally. How does that help?if my husband had a Fling but ended it and was committed to our family I do t think I would want to know because I would NEVERget past it. You need a new job OP. |
Anonymous
| I haven't yet. It is better. I don't feel the grief so raw or intensely any more, but it still hurts. |
Anonymous
|
It's been 4 months here and I miss him like crazy. I miss talking to him and I miss the connection. We do acknowledge that each other is alive and have quick passing glances, but we never talk.
I don't know how much longer it will take, but I am hoping that this goes away soon. And, DO NOT tell your husband. It will only hurt him, and that serves no one. |
Anonymous
| I couldn't get over him. I tried lost a ton of weight. We left our spouses. |
Anonymous
And lived happily ever after? |
Anonymous
One hopes. Somebody should be happy. |
Anonymous
are you together, are you engaged, are you living together... if not his wife kicked him out and he is using you until he can find better. |
Anonymous
|
You will never get over him. If you really loved him, it will be an emptiness that you live with forever. I feel like it is the deserved karma for being a cheater.
|