My DH is asking me to break off a friendship because her husband is cheating on her

[Anonymous]

Your husband is 100% right. Step away from the train wreck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can this man ruin your husband's career somehow? That would be my only concern. But I wouldn't distance myself from her. She needs friends. And I agree about anonymously telling her somehow. If you are the bearer of the bad news, she could turn on you. Not uncommon.

No he couldn't. They are on equal footing and in my understanding after this guy's rant about his wife a lot of his colleagues are giving him a wide berth now.

I think this woman is going to need friendship and support, I wouldn't shut her out. I'd also make sure she knows of her asshole husband's master plan

This. I am appalled at the number of people who think you should distance yourself from a friend simply because she is facing problems. I certainly hope I don't know any of you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree to not MYOB. I also disagree with your DH and wouldn't stop being her friend. Why should she have to lose even more than she already will?

I think my DH just really does not want me involved in this situation. I am the type to get emotionally invested and want to help. I was actually crying and broken hearted as he was telling me this.

I agree with you. No matter what happens she needs her friends now more than ever.

But he's the one that got you involved by telling you. How does he expect you to not be involved now?
God, men can be so stupid!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can this man ruin your husband's career somehow? That would be my only concern. But I wouldn't distance myself from her. She needs friends. And I agree about anonymously telling her somehow. If you are the bearer of the bad news, she could turn on you. Not uncommon.

No he couldn't. They are on equal footing and in my understanding after this guy's rant about his wife a lot of his colleagues are giving him a wide berth now.

If a lot of his colleagues know about it, odds are they've vented to their wives as well. It's only a matter of time before your friend finds out, from you or someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My goodness.

I am not sure where some posters got that my husband asked me to abandon a friend. First of all she is a casual friend and secondly he asked me to distance myself from her and the situation not go no contact and shun her. He didn't demand that I never speak to her again. He simply told me that he was distancing himself from his coworker because he finds him disgusting and mentioned I should do the same with the situation.

She is away this week moving her oldest into college. When she returns I intend to tell her what I know, which my husband fully supports and offered to be there but I feel it is best just coming from me. While I would never turn away a friend I am also not this woman's best friend or even in her close circle so yes, I intend to distance myself from what will likely be both a volatile and hopefully private situation.

I know the relationship forum just loves to say that every husband is cheating. Thank you for your concern. My love is my best friend and a good man and I don't have a single worry or doubt.

They probably got it from the title of your post -

My DH is asking me to break off a friendship because her husband is cheating on her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree to not MYOB. I also disagree with your DH and wouldn't stop being her friend. Why should she have to lose even more than she already will?

I think my DH just really does not want me involved in this situation. I am the type to get emotionally invested and want to help. I was actually crying and broken hearted as he was telling me this.

I agree with you. No matter what happens she needs her friends now more than ever.

But he's the one that got you involved by telling you. How does he expect you to not be involved now?
God, men can be so stupid!

I'm sure OP would be wondering, "Hey what happened to your friend from work X?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is your husband a good one? I am not saying he is cheating, but I would question what type of person thinks it is cool to dump a friend because it isnt a convenient situation.

Someone who has standards...

The cheating Jewish lawyer husband is planning to go nuclear and you want to get involved???

Anonymous or hire her a PI and let home drop the note/pics/report.

Meanwhile, play dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree to not MYOB. I also disagree with your DH and wouldn't stop being her friend. Why should she have to lose even more than she already will?

I think my DH just really does not want me involved in this situation. I am the type to get emotionally invested and want to help. I was actually crying and broken hearted as he was telling me this.

I agree with you. No matter what happens she needs her friends now more than ever.

But he's the one that got you involved by telling you. How does he expect you to not be involved now?
God, men can be so stupid!

Anonymous until she tells you and gets you involved.
Tell her to hire the private investigator if she ever hints at something.