Obsessed with guy I met on vacation...

[Anonymous]

Super creepy... but he'll probably bang you at least once before telling you to get lost.

[Anonymous]

I would probably take the risk & contact him.

This may or may not be the proper answer but I like to take risks.

Especially in regards to affairs of the heart.
Because if you do not, I know you will always wonder...."What if.....??"

In movies when this occurs, no one bats an eye.
If it happens in real life & it ends up great, then everyone says, "Ahh....How sweet + romantic....!!"

It would only be considered stalker(ish) if you actually continuously contacted him after he told you not to.
And if you had him under your own surveillance.

People tend to throw the term around erroneously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Met a cute guy on vacation... Sat next to him on a tour bus... had some fun conversations and he flirted with me but for various reasons we didn't get too in depth and lost track of each other at the end of the day. Now, through the power of the Internet I found him online just knowing his first name and some random details. Should I reach out or would that be just too creepy? Maybe I should just leave it as a vacation crush and nothing more. wwyd?

Of course reach out to him if that's what you want to do. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. It sounds like there was mutual attraction but not really the time or place to try to get to know each other better especially if you had kids with you.

In this situation hit him up with a facebook message and say something like "listen my name is .... and I met you on that bus trip the other day. I enjoyed our conversation but forgot to give you my contact info as I had the kids with me. On a whim I tried to look you up on facebook and it worked. If you'd like to touch base with me to continue the conversation we were having I'm open to it. My cell is..."

Either he will or won't respond. If he does u can take it from there.

[Anonymous]

I'm a hopeless romantic. Please reach out to him then report back to all of here on dcum what happens next.

I already have you married and can imagine the WaPo wedding announcement. I'll help you write it!

[Anonymous]

I'm another vote for creepy. Let it go. Lesson learned. Next time, speak up in person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Met a cute guy on vacation... Sat next to him on a tour bus... had some fun conversations and he flirted with me but for various reasons we didn't get too in depth and lost track of each other at the end of the day. Now, through the power of the Internet I found him online just knowing his first name and some random details. Should I reach out or would that be just too creepy? Maybe I should just leave it as a vacation crush and nothing more. wwyd?

Of course reach out to him if that's what you want to do. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. It sounds like there was mutual attraction but not really the time or place to try to get to know each other better especially if you had kids with you.

In this situation hit him up with a facebook message and say something like "listen my name is .... and I met you on that bus trip the other day. I enjoyed our conversation but forgot to give you my contact info as I had the kids with me. On a whim I tried to look you up on facebook and it worked. If you'd like to touch base with me to continue the conversation we were having I'm open to it. My cell is..."

Either he will or won't respond. If he does u can take it from there.

Well put. What do you have to lose, other than a bruised ego, if he doesn't reply?

[Anonymous]

Do it! What's the worst that could happen? He thinks you're weird? Ok you never have to see him again.

Hi John- we recently got back from vacation and I realized that after chatting with you all day on the bus we got separated and I never got to say goodbye. Through the magic of Facebook I found you so I just wanted to say: thanks for the fun day, goodbye. And hello. Hope you're well. -Jen from the Bus

[Anonymous]

Contact him once, and that's it.
I don't understand the issue of coming off desperate-you are never going to see him again, so if he doesn't respond or responds with a "I'm taken" or whatever, you have lost nothing.

A simple "Hey, had a nice time talking to you and realized I would love to see you again if you're in ______. Hope you had a safe trip home."

Not creepy, and who cares if someone finds it creepy anyways?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do it! What's the worst that could happen? He thinks you're weird? Ok you never have to see him again.

Hi John- we recently got back from vacation and I realized that after chatting with you all day on the bus we got separated and I never got to say goodbye. Through the magic of Facebook I found you so I just wanted to say: thanks for the fun day, goodbye. And hello. Hope you're well. -Jen from the Bus

PP here, yours is better! OP, do this.
It's fine!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Contact him once, and that's it.
I don't understand the issue of coming off desperate-you are never going to see him again, so if he doesn't respond or responds with a "I'm taken" or whatever, you have lost nothing.

A simple "Hey, had a nice time talking to you and realized I would love to see you again if you're in ______. Hope you had a safe trip home."

Not creepy, and who cares if someone finds it creepy anyways?

This is how I feel but I respect that I have always been a bit... devil may care about stuff like this. I had zero problem calling the boy I had a crush on at 11 and telling him so. Or actually, relaying the message to his mom to have him call me back so I could tell him. I have always just written the letter, sent the message, said the thing to the stranger at the store. Oh, who cares! Live a little! It's so much more interesting knowing what happens when you do it (good or bad) than always wondering.

[Anonymous]

OP - when was your vacation? If you're going to go for it, do it sooner rather than later. If this guy hears from you weeks (months?) after you parted ways, that's definitely much creepier in that you were thinking about him all that time.