Obsessed with guy I met on vacation...

[Anonymous]

another guy here - i don't think i'd mind. give him a call.

[Anonymous]

I can't think of a good reason NOT to reach out. Because he might think its creepy and stalkerish? WHO CARES. Worst case scenario: Ends up as if you never reached out in the first place

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't think of a good reason NOT to reach out. Because he might think its creepy and stalkerish? WHO CARES. Worst case scenario: Ends up as if you never reached out in the first place

plus 1/ You won't know unless you try, and may regret not taking advantage of the opportunity

[Anonymous]

There's one of two reasons why he didn't give you his contact information:

1) He's not interested
2) He for whatever reason didn't give it to you and now he's cussing himself for not being more forward.

You'll never get what you want if you don't ask for it.

[Anonymous]

What's the worst that happens? He never responds? He calls you a creeper and you never see him again?

What's the best that happens? You go on a few dates? You fall madly in love?

I say try it. If it doesn't work out, you're back where you started. If it does work out, AWESOME.

[Anonymous]

Guy here, if I hit it off with someone on vacation, I may have been shy providing my info since it may not go anywhere. But if I heard from that person and we connected, I would definitely be flattered and respond.

[Anonymous]

I'm 39 and female.

My first instinct is no, don't do it. I'm married now, so maybe I've been out of the game for too long.

But my experience and observations tell me that at the least, he would've given you his last name if he was interested.

I understand lots of people google other people on social media, but usually they know the person's full name.

OP only got this guy's first name and did some cyber stalking to get his full name.

Usually, if a guy doesn't give you his last name, it's because he's in a relationship or not interested.

I'm not prudish or a pearl clutcher. I'm not opposed to using social media to reach out to people. But if a person talks to you enough for you to be interested but doesn't give you his or her last name (at the least), then I think that it is beyond creepy to do some super sleuthing and find them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Won't be creepy at all. I'm wondering how old posters are in this thread? As a millennial, nothing about finding a person on social media is creepy, especially if you met them irl first and had a good time. I bet dude would be really flattered. You can always drop contact if he doesn't seem into you.

+1

[Anonymous]

12:37 again. I agree with the PP who says guys are saying it would be cool because they'd be flattered that a woman would go out of her way to find them. My guess is that none of them would end up taking that woman seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Won't be creepy at all. I'm wondering how old posters are in this thread? As a millennial, nothing about finding a person on social media is creepy, especially if you met them irl first and had a good time. I bet dude would be really flattered. You can always drop contact if he doesn't seem into you.

+1

Okay, millennials, is it normal to search for a person without knowing their last name? I mean, essentially, this guy only told OP his first name. She gleaned some other details about his life from conversations and hunted him down.

How is that not creepy? It's no like he gave her a last name.

[Anonymous]

I personally think it's creepy, BUT it can't hurt to reach out as long as you don't mind if he rejects your communication.

If he responds, great, though I'd think it would look desperate and possibly like an easy booty call. If that's fine with you, then again no problems.

The best case scenario would be that you guys hit it off and it works out.

So go for it, just be prepared for the best and worst case scenarios.

I'm a in my late 30s and married for a long time so this would not have been my game plan way back when, but online meeting and dating is so common now that it's definitely worth a shot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:12:37 again. I agree with the PP who says guys are saying it would be cool because they'd be flattered that a woman would go out of her way to find them. My guess is that none of them would end up taking that woman seriously.

Your guess would be wrong.

It shows initiative. Asking for what she wants. Not being a wall flower.

The list of positive traits goes on and on.

Maybe he is involved with someone. Then end it.

Maybe you're super hot and he figured he was punching way above his weight.

Who knows? Don't be creepy about it , . . Just do it.

[Anonymous]

It's not creepy but looks desperate.

Better really be creepy and not desperate. Like arrange a "chance" meeting based on info you gather. If you know where he works bump on him etc. if he is into you he will seize the opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Most of us would be flattered.

Take a chance. The worst that can happen is that it won't go anywhere, which is where you would be if you hadn't taken a chance anyway.

Good luck.

yeah. but what's in there for OP in you being flattered?

[Anonymous]

Millennial here and OP sounds desperate. He didn't even give you his full name... You legit cyber stalked him based on first name and facts about him and that's creepy. If he wanted you to find him, he would've given you at least his last name. But he didn't give you that or his number or his email address. Probably for good reason. Leave him alone.