Obsessed with guy I met on vacation...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as a guy, I'd say go for it. I wouldn't think you were a stalker. I think many women are responding here and would themselves be creeped out if a guy did this, but it doesn't work that way for men.

Not all men work the same. 3 of my 4 brothers are very tall, good looking single men. They have all been nice to women they met on trips and then were approached over SM by some women after returning home. They were not flattered by it although the women were reasonably attractive. They thought the women were desperate at best and potentially dangerous.

[Anonymous]

Beyond creepy

[Anonymous]

Another guy here, I say go for it, assuming the guy is single.

Between Facebook, LinkedIn, and all the other social media, it's real easy to find people with their first name and company, or first name and college, etc. I'm in my early 30's and nearly all of my single friends--male and female--Google their potential suitors. So, I don't think this aspect in and of itself is stalkerish.

It also kind of depends what your end goal is. Do you guys live in the same city? If so, you have nothing to lose. If not, and you are trying to strike up this Disney-fantasy long distance relationship off of a 1-day meeting, it may be closer to the stalker side of the spectrum.

[Anonymous]

It's already creepy because you're using the word "obsessed."

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you just ask him for his email or number when you were actually with him? That would have been fine, but it is creepy to stalk him and reach out now, not having done so.

[Anonymous]

Even though IRL you might not be... it comes off as desperate and creepy. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as a guy, I'd say go for it. I wouldn't think you were a stalker. I think many women are responding here and would themselves be creeped out if a guy did this, but it doesn't work that way for men.

Not all men work the same. 3 of my 4 brothers are very tall, good looking single men. They have all been nice to women they met on trips and then were approached over SM by some women after returning home. They were not flattered by it although the women were reasonably attractive. They thought the women were desperate at best and potentially dangerous.

Your brothers sound weird and very uptight. Are you Mormons by any chance?

[Anonymous]

Guy here. Most of us would be flattered.

Take a chance. The worst that can happen is that it won't go anywhere, which is where you would be if you hadn't taken a chance anyway.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Screams desperation and would scare the shizzle out of me because 9 times out of 10 desperate woman and crazy woman are one in the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Most of us would be flattered.

Take a chance. The worst that can happen is that it won't go anywhere, which is where you would be if you hadn't taken a chance anyway.

Good luck.

+1. What's the worst that will happen? He doesnt reply? You already arent connected anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Screams desperation and would scare the shizzle out of me because 9 times out of 10 desperate woman and crazy woman are one in the same.

You say "shizzle". No one but the desperate is attracted to you.

[Anonymous]

Very desperate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Won't be creepy at all. I'm wondering how old posters are in this thread? As a millennial, nothing about finding a person on social media is creepy, especially if you met them irl first and had a good time. I bet dude would be really flattered. You can always drop contact if he doesn't seem into you.

Interesting point. I'm 40, and I said it would be stalker.

[Anonymous]

If it's a social media page like Facebook drop him a message.

If it's a work related email don't do it.


I'm mostly in the camp of if he wanted your details he would have given them to you.

Also the guys saying they would be flattered are the type to brag about having so many chicks after them sleep with you and dump you so take what they say with a grain of salt.

[Anonymous]

If he lives near you, yes. If not, WHY would you bother??!??!