Obsessed with guy I met on vacation...

[Anonymous]

Met a cute guy on vacation... Sat next to him on a tour bus... had some fun conversations and he flirted with me but for various reasons we didn't get too in depth and lost track of each other at the end of the day. Now, through the power of the Internet I found him online just knowing his first name and some random details. Should I reach out or would that be just too creepy? Maybe I should just leave it as a vacation crush and nothing more. wwyd?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Met a cute guy on vacation... Sat next to him on a tour bus... had some fun conversations and he flirted with me but for various reasons we didn't get too in depth and lost track of each other at the end of the day. Now, through the power of the Internet I found him online just knowing his first name and some random details. Should I reach out or would that be just too creepy? Maybe I should just leave it as a vacation crush and nothing more. wwyd?

Creepy

[Anonymous]

No that's super stalker.

[Anonymous]

Extremely creepy.

[Anonymous]

Go for it.

It isn't creepy or stalkerish the first time. You spent the day chatting and had a good time. He'll be flattered!

If he says not interested and you keep going, then it's stalkerish.

[Anonymous]

Wayyy creepster

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go for it.

It isn't creepy or stalkerish the first time. You spent the day chatting and had a good time. He'll be flattered!

If he says not interested and you keep going, then it's stalkerish.

+1

[Anonymous]

Go for it. But if he doesn't respond DROP IT. Then you won't be creepy for real.

[Anonymous]

It's not stalking yet, but chances are he'll think you're "some crazy chick". If he'd liked you as much, he would have given you his contact info.

[Anonymous]

Speaking as a guy, I'd say go for it. I wouldn't think you were a stalker. I think many women are responding here and would themselves be creeped out if a guy did this, but it doesn't work that way for men.

[Anonymous]

What do you have to lose? Even if he decides it's creepy and never talks to you again. If you don't reach out, the result is the same - he never talks to you again. Maybe he likes you too. Maybe this will the an incredible story of how you two found love. It's worth a shot. Be brave!

[Anonymous]

Won't be creepy at all. I'm wondering how old posters are in this thread? As a millennial, nothing about finding a person on social media is creepy, especially if you met them irl first and had a good time. I bet dude would be really flattered. You can always drop contact if he doesn't seem into you.

[Anonymous]

I don't know though - if he was really interested beyond flirting, wouldn't he have pursued getting your info at some point during the tour? It sounds like you were together during the tour, then parted ways without making that connection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know though - if he was really interested beyond flirting, wouldn't he have pursued getting your info at some point during the tour? It sounds like you were together during the tour, then parted ways without making that connection.

Go back to Leave it to Beaver. Remember - cross your legs when you sit, smile coyly and giggle and bat your eyelashes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as a guy, I'd say go for it. I wouldn't think you were a stalker. I think many women are responding here and would themselves be creeped out if a guy did this, but it doesn't work that way for men.

Yes, I agree. I wrote go for it (I'm a woman) because I've always had good luck with that. And at this stage you aren't invested so it is easy to drop it if it doesn't pan out. He'll be flattered.