How do I make it up to my wife?

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Anonymous wrote:How about flowers and a sincere apology and then STOP DOING IT?? There's actually nothing wrong with eating a plain sausage. Just let the woman eat in peace. Think how annoying it would be if she constantly commented on/criticized your eating habits.

She has habits that I find annoying, just like I have habits she finds annoying. We tease each other about them all the time.

Just curious, which of your habits does she tease you about? Does she also do it in front of her family?

One thing she teased me about is talking in my sleep. She recorded it once and showed her sister the video. We all laughed about it.

So your wife thinks it's ok to videotape you in your sleep and show it to her sister, then laugh about it....but cries when you mention that she doesn't put condiments on her food.

What a dingbat.

This is why I'm shocked that she got so upset. We tease each other like this all the time.

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How do you make it up to her? Apologize and don't do it again... in private or in front of family. In the meantime, ask your wife how you could make it better. DCUM doesn't know if chocolate, sex, jewelry, time, apology, etc will make it better. You know your wife better than us.

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I grew up in a family of picky eaters, and think that your family mocking her lack of condiments really bizarre... I have seen weird, and this is not weird. But I will say, with my extreme picky eater family, you don't bring it up in front of other people, they have been made fun of about their eating their whole life and are quite defensive/self- conscious about it. But it doesn't sound like your wife is a picky eater, it sounds normal- what sounds weird is you all picking on it at all. Like I get having fun, but come up with something real not this condiment BS

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You both sound lame AF

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She probably has an eating disorder which is why she is so sensitive about the topic.

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? I eat all my hot dogs, hamburgers, brats plain too. No one EVER commented on that. Least of all my DH. You owe her a big apology, promise not to ever tease her about such things again and next time stand up to your family for her!

Ditto! My DH and DS eat all of their hot dogs and hamburgers plain and it has NEVER occurred to me to tease them, and I am pretty sure no one else has ever teased them. Why do you care enough to comment on it? Are you controlling in all aspects of her life or just this one?

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I had something like this happen the other day. We were over visiting one of DHs friends, and I asked to see his baby's nursery. My husband said that I shouldn't just waltz into peoples homes and ask to see their bedrooms. It was a five second interaction that he didn't even notice, but I was so embarrassed. I had trouble focusing on the rest of the conversation, and they didn't make any attempt to draw me in, and just asisumed I as being "quiet." Eventually, I left to take a walk around the neighborhood and collected myself. At that point, my husband made a comment about missing his beautiful wife and asked my opinion on something he and his friend were talking about. I was able to enjoy the night. But if he had jumped down my throat for leaving or insisted on having a big apology or conversation about it, I would have continued being embarrassed the rest of the night.

This would have been completely different if it had been my friends or even if he had his friend over to our house. I would have felt more comfortable initially and not been embarrassed as easily.

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Anonymous wrote:A little back story, my wife has a few annoying habits that I tend to tease her about. One of them is she doesn't use condiments on her food. Yesterday we went to a bbq at my uncle's house and usually she'll avoid eating certain food like hamburgers or hot dogs in front of them because she doesn't want my family to talk about how she eats. Yesterday she had an Italian sausage (just the sausage alone) and I asked her if she wanted a bun and she said no. Then one of my cousins asked her if she wanted mustard or relish and she said no thanks so she said you're just going to eat it plain, that's weird. I told her she eats all of her food like that, then I joked saying she doesn't eat like a human (something I always tell her) and she was really quiet the rest of the time we were there. She's usually quiet so I didn't think anything of it. On the car ride home, she started crying and said I embarrassed her in front of my family and she said this is why she doesn't like going to their events or eating around them. I apologized and told her we always joke like that, but she said she didn't take it as a joke. She hasn't spoken to me since. How can make this up to her?[/quote

Not using mustard is an annoying habit? You're an ass

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife cries because someone thought it was weird she doesn't use condiments? God I can't stand babyish grown women who act like that.

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He is wrong for teasing her, but who cries because of something like that. I swear many wives on dcum are like that. So sensitive about everything, I'm a woman, and I'm annoyed just thinking about it. I bet she cries when your child screams at her.

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Anonymous wrote:A little back story, my wife has a few annoying habits that I tend to tease her about. One of them is she doesn't use condiments on her food. Yesterday we went to a bbq at my uncle's house and usually she'll avoid eating certain food like hamburgers or hot dogs in front of them because she doesn't want my family to talk about how she eats. Yesterday she had an Italian sausage (just the sausage alone) and I asked her if she wanted a bun and she said no. Then one of my cousins asked her if she wanted mustard or relish and she said no thanks so she said you're just going to eat it plain, that's weird. I told her she eats all of her food like that, then I joked saying she doesn't eat like a human (something I always tell her) and she was really quiet the rest of the time we were there. She's usually quiet so I didn't think anything of it. On the car ride home, she started crying and said I embarrassed her in front of my family and she said this is why she doesn't like going to their events or eating around them. I apologized and told her we always joke like that, but she said she didn't take it as a joke. She hasn't spoken to me since. How can make this up to her?

Apologize sincerely and then stop doing it.

Also, this is NOT an annoying habit. How does her not using ketchup at BBQ (and plenty of people don't like ketchup or can't eat it due to a number of reasons, such as reflux) annoy anyone else?

My husband did this all the time and it was embarrassing as hell and frankly, offensive.

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Anonymous wrote:A little back story, my wife has a few annoying habits that I tend to tease her about. One of them is she doesn't use condiments on her food. Yesterday we went to a bbq at my uncle's house and usually she'll avoid eating certain food like hamburgers or hot dogs in front of them because she doesn't want my family to talk about how she eats. Yesterday she had an Italian sausage (just the sausage alone) and I asked her if she wanted a bun and she said no. Then one of my cousins asked her if she wanted mustard or relish and she said no thanks so she said you're just going to eat it plain, that's weird. I told her she eats all of her food like that, then I joked saying she doesn't eat like a human (something I always tell her) and she was really quiet the rest of the time we were there. She's usually quiet so I didn't think anything of it. On the car ride home, she started crying and said I embarrassed her in front of my family and she said this is why she doesn't like going to their events or eating around them. I apologized and told her we always joke like that, but she said she didn't take it as a joke. She hasn't spoken to me since. How can make this up to her?

Your family sounds a lot like mine. A lot of fun. We kid around a lot. If we make fun of you, it means we like you. If I take a guy around my family and they don't make fun of him by the end of the day, they don't like him. If you are a little sensitive then families like this are going to be hard on you. I assume your wife knew about your family before marrying you. If she knew this then she also needs to grow a little tougher knowing who she is dealing with. Can you and your family take it a little easier on her? Sure but she has to give some too. Maybe make a little fun of herself about her condiment use and then that takes the attention off her. You didn't embarrass her in front of your family, she got treated like the rest of the family. You don't want your wife to be that one person the whole family has to tiptoe around all the time. That causes way to many problems and the family will start to think she isn't really part of them. You could back of a bit but she needs to grow a little armor around your family and be able to take and give it back when she is around them.

+1 You don't seem well matched. If you don't have kids then just get a divorce.

We have two kids. I wouldn't divorce her over that.

Maybe she should divorce you

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People suggesting divorce over such a small thing as this are nuts. This doesn't suggest some fundamental incompatibility.

OP, I would sit down with your wife and sincerely apologize. Tell her that you realize she must have felt ganged up on and embarrassed and that you are sorry you were insensitive to this at the time. Assure her that you will put a stop to it with your family if it happens again, now that you know it bothers her so much.

I also don't get why lack of condiments is weird or "annoying." Unless she's acting this out by refusing to buy condiments for anyone else in the house, it doesn't affect anyone but her, so how can it be annoying? And plenty of people don't like condiments.

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Anonymous wrote:A little back story, my wife has a few annoying habits that I tend to tease her about. One of them is she doesn't use condiments on her food. Yesterday we went to a bbq at my uncle's house and usually she'll avoid eating certain food like hamburgers or hot dogs in front of them because she doesn't want my family to talk about how she eats. Yesterday she had an Italian sausage (just the sausage alone) and I asked her if she wanted a bun and she said no. Then one of my cousins asked her if she wanted mustard or relish and she said no thanks so she said you're just going to eat it plain, that's weird. I told her she eats all of her food like that, then I joked saying she doesn't eat like a human (something I always tell her) and she was really quiet the rest of the time we were there. She's usually quiet so I didn't think anything of it. On the car ride home, she started crying and said I embarrassed her in front of my family and she said this is why she doesn't like going to their events or eating around them. I apologized and told her we always joke like that, but she said she didn't take it as a joke. She hasn't spoken to me since. How can make this up to her?

The bolded is 100% absurd and indicative of someone with full-blown issues.

You want to make it up to her? Apologize for teasing and give her a gift cert for free therapy sessions.

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5 pages of posting on condiments?