How do I make it up to my wife?
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Anonymous
| A little back story, my wife has a few annoying habits that I tend to tease her about. One of them is she doesn't use condiments on her food. Yesterday we went to a bbq at my uncle's house and usually she'll avoid eating certain food like hamburgers or hot dogs in front of them because she doesn't want my family to talk about how she eats. Yesterday she had an Italian sausage (just the sausage alone) and I asked her if she wanted a bun and she said no. Then one of my cousins asked her if she wanted mustard or relish and she said no thanks so she said you're just going to eat it plain, that's weird. I told her she eats all of her food like that, then I joked saying she doesn't eat like a human (something I always tell her) and she was really quiet the rest of the time we were there. She's usually quiet so I didn't think anything of it. On the car ride home, she started crying and said I embarrassed her in front of my family and she said this is why she doesn't like going to their events or eating around them. I apologized and told her we always joke like that, but she said she didn't take it as a joke. She hasn't spoken to me since. How can make this up to her? |
Anonymous
| Give up condiments in solidarity for a while. |
Anonymous
| How about flowers and a sincere apology and then STOP DOING IT?? There's actually nothing wrong with eating a plain sausage. Just let the woman eat in peace. Think how annoying it would be if she constantly commented on/criticized your eating habits. |
Anonymous
| I would say just stop making such jokes since she's obviously sensitive about it. I don't get why it's hard for men to do that. BUUUTTT, if the way you described it is accurate, she's being absurdly over sensitive. But who cares, if this is the one issue, indulge her and drop it. |
Anonymous
She has habits that I find annoying, just like I have habits she finds annoying. We tease each other about them all the time. |
Anonymous
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I don't like condiments on sausage either. Your family is weird thinking it's so strange, enough to comment on.
Apologize sincerely and show her you love her. |
Anonymous
| I don't get it. Why do you have to comment on how she eats? Next time, just make sure she has drinks, napkins, and she doesn't need anything else and let her be. |
Anonymous
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"my wife has a few annoying habits that I tend to tease her about"
"she doesn't eat like a human (something I always tell her)" You sound like a joy to be married to. Do you put down other people as well to make yourself feel superior? How about your kids? Do you enjoy making fun of them as well? |
Anonymous
Doing it in front of other people is crossing the line. You and your relatives ganged up on her. |
Anonymous
How is her not using condiments annoying to you? It has 0 impact on you or your life. My DH and I tease each other about stuff all the time but we both have things that are off limits for teasing. She has clearly expressed to you that she is sensitive about this, to the point of avoiding certain pretty common foods around your family because she doesn't want to be teased. Yet you still make fun of her. Grow up. |
Anonymous
Just curious, which of your habits does she tease you about? Does she also do it in front of her family? |
Anonymous
I guess I didn't look at it that way. |
Anonymous
| WTF? I eat all my hot dogs, hamburgers, brats plain too. No one EVER commented on that. Least of all my DH. You owe her a big apology, promise not to ever tease her about such things again and next time stand up to your family for her! |
Anonymous
Well it's not exactly annoying, it's weird to me. |
Anonymous
| She had a plain sausage without a bun. That's not weird. Makeing fun of her for not putting stuff on it is weird. Who does that?? I can't stand ketchup on my hotdogs. If my DH commented on it every single time I ate one, I'd be super annoyed too. |