Jewish couple adopting AA baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:AA Muslims are rare too but still exist. I have met Black Jewish and Muslim kids as a youngster and it's different but not a big deal. We're AA and DD is often the only vegetarian kid. Sometimes she wants to be like her friends and eat meat. That's life. I don't see a problem here. I think the biggest challenge you might find is exposing your child to other AAs in general so that they aren't isolated and having honest conversations when race interjects itself over the years. Go for it! You can probably find other Jewish AAs if you search.

Your comparison makes no sense. There is a big difference from what OP is asking about adoption to vegetarianism. I know several vegetarian kids, including mine.

Yeah, I only discussed vegetarianism. My point was kids like blending in with their kids, but differences are a part of life. In the DC area, Black kids with White parents aren't highly unusual anymore. Most of us are living some version of a modern family.

Your're not getting it. While it is more common its not common and it can be very hard on the kids culturally and socially. One can successfully do it but you need to expose kids to their own culture and heritage and share both and not just the parents. Vegetarianism is a lame comparison.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you adopt, go Asian. Plenty of Asian girls at temple.
And none of the non sense of having to make the kids life
More Black. oy what a headache.

That's just dumb. How can anyone arrive at adulthood and think it's acceptable to adopt a minority child into a majority family and just think, eh, they need no sense of their heritage. Why not just time travel back to the 1880s so you can really participate in a good old fashioned American genocide?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you adopt, go Asian. Plenty of Asian girls at temple.
And none of the non sense of having to make the kids life
More Black. oy what a headache.

That's just dumb. How can anyone arrive at adulthood and think it's acceptable to adopt a minority child into a majority family and just think, eh, they need no sense of their heritage. Why not just time travel back to the 1880s so you can really participate in a good old fashioned American genocide?

+1000 PP is an idiot with a rude awakening coming.

I work with an organization for Asian adoptees. A number of the adoptees are at odds with or have cut off contact with their white parents for being too stupid, racist, and selfish to acknowledge these children's sense of alienation in all white surroundings.

Of course, the white parents react with indignation that the adoptees they "saved" are not kissing their feet in gratitude, which tells you about these people's true motives in adopting.

I would love for a study to be done on the relationships between adult cross-racial adoptees and white parents. The results would shock the white savior demographic.

[Anonymous]

Reminds me of this nytimes article.

http://mobile.nytimes.com/2007/03/08/nyregion/08batmitzvah.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you adopt, go Asian. Plenty of Asian girls at temple.
And none of the non sense of having to make the kids life
More Black. oy what a headache.

That's just dumb. How can anyone arrive at adulthood and think it's acceptable to adopt a minority child into a majority family and just think, eh, they need no sense of their heritage. Why not just time travel back to the 1880s so you can really participate in a good old fashioned American genocide?

+1000 PP is an idiot with a rude awakening coming.

I work with an organization for Asian adoptees. A number of the adoptees are at odds with or have cut off contact with their white parents for being too stupid, racist, and selfish to acknowledge these children's sense of alienation in all white surroundings.

Of course, the white parents react with indignation that the adoptees they "saved" are not kissing their feet in gratitude, which tells you about these people's true motives in adopting.

I would love for a study to be done on the relationships between adult cross-racial adoptees and white parents. The results would shock the white savior demographic.

+1. The rescue complex. It's not just with white families in international. It is across the races in all kinds of adoption.

Kids need exposure to their culture and religion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:AA Muslims are rare too but still exist. I have met Black Jewish and Muslim kids as a youngster and it's different but not a big deal. We're AA and DD is often the only vegetarian kid. Sometimes she wants to be like her friends and eat meat. That's life. I don't see a problem here. I think the biggest challenge you might find is exposing your child to other AAs in general so that they aren't isolated and having honest conversations when race interjects itself over the years. Go for it! You can probably find other Jewish AAs if you search.

Your comparison makes no sense. There is a big difference from what OP is asking about adoption to vegetarianism. I know several vegetarian kids, including mine.

Yeah, I only discussed vegetarianism. My point was kids like blending in with their kids, but differences are a part of life. In the DC area, Black kids with White parents aren't highly unusual anymore. Most of us are living some version of a modern family.

Your're not getting it. While it is more common its not common and it can be very hard on the kids culturally and socially. One can successfully do it but you need to expose kids to their own culture and heritage and share both and not just the parents. Vegetarianism is a lame comparison.

So do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:AA Muslims are rare too but still exist. I have met Black Jewish and Muslim kids as a youngster and it's different but not a big deal. We're AA and DD is often the only vegetarian kid. Sometimes she wants to be like her friends and eat meat. That's life. I don't see a problem here. I think the biggest challenge you might find is exposing your child to other AAs in general so that they aren't isolated and having honest conversations when race interjects itself over the years. Go for it! You can probably find other Jewish AAs if you search.

Your comparison makes no sense. There is a big difference from what OP is asking about adoption to vegetarianism. I know several vegetarian kids, including mine.

Yeah, I only discussed vegetarianism. My point was kids like blending in with their kids, but differences are a part of life. In the DC area, Black kids with White parents aren't highly unusual anymore. Most of us are living some version of a modern family.

Your're not getting it. While it is more common its not common and it can be very hard on the kids culturally and socially. One can successfully do it but you need to expose kids to their own culture and heritage and share both and not just the parents. Vegetarianism is a lame comparison.

So do better.

It doesn't need compared.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:AA Muslims are rare too but still exist. I have met Black Jewish and Muslim kids as a youngster and it's different but not a big deal. We're AA and DD is often the only vegetarian kid. Sometimes she wants to be like her friends and eat meat. That's life. I don't see a problem here. I think the biggest challenge you might find is exposing your child to other AAs in general so that they aren't isolated and having honest conversations when race interjects itself over the years. Go for it! You can probably find other Jewish AAs if you search.

Your comparison makes no sense. There is a big difference from what OP is asking about adoption to vegetarianism. I know several vegetarian kids, including mine.

Yeah, I only discussed vegetarianism. My point was kids like blending in with their kids, but differences are a part of life. In the DC area, Black kids with White parents aren't highly unusual anymore. Most of us are living some version of a modern family.

Your're not getting it. While it is more common its not common and it can be very hard on the kids culturally and socially. One can successfully do it but you need to expose kids to their own culture and heritage and share both and not just the parents. Vegetarianism is a lame comparison.

Did you read the bolded parts? Sounds like you want to argue instead of help the OP.

[Anonymous]

Just one story, but I have a black friend adopted by a white family including bio kids. They are Jewish and all very well adjusted.

Like every kid, there are going to be specific things to address over time but it absolutely can be done.

[Anonymous]

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC77SVITO7wgG5fHroxLOKVQ

[Anonymous]

I thought adoption was about the needs of the child, not the parents desire to make a political statement or show off their token black adoptee at every turn

On the other hand, if you do an open adoption, you will have to be frank about how white your childs upbringing will be

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know several AA Jews.

No big deal. Where do you live?

Close-in Bethesda, near BCC high school, in a crappy 1050 sq foot colonial. The area is not completely lily-white but far from diverse, not many AA that I see out and about. We really wanted the schools, the proximity to metro, and the relatively short commute. There is nowhere else we can afford that has all three (Rockville too long a commute, Silver Spring or Takoma Park we can't afford anything close enough to metro, not willing to consider PG county schools, can't afford the neighborhoods in DC proper we like, don't want to move to VA and probably couldn't afford the areas we would want if we did).

Come to Adas Israel. Very diverse congregation. Lots of AA Jews. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought adoption was about the needs of the child, not the parents desire to make a political statement or show off their token black adoptee at every turn

On the other hand, if you do an open adoption, you will have to be frank about how white your childs upbringing will be

The ideal of adoption is for the child's needs, but more often than not it is about the parents who adopt.