How can I convince my husband to get a vasectomy?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So essentially no one has any advice save for the mandate to strong arm him like a friggin mob boss into doing as he's told - yeah sounds like the makings of a wonderful loving marriage.

We'll see you in a couple months OP when you're seeking advice about divorce. Hopefully you'll get better feedback.

It's not strong arming him. It's putting him in charge of the birth control. He has 3 choices he can make: condoms, snip or no sex. The choice is his.

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That's swell that this reasoning persuades you, but to OP's husband its going to sound like OP is being an aggressive asshole. Its pretty well established that everyone on this thread disagrees with him, but using arguments that are persuasive only to someone who already shares your view seems like a pretty stupid tactic.

Then no sex. Not sure what else you think OP is obligated to do. Make an appointment for him? Call friends to see if they are snipped and ask them to speak to him? Leave small pro-Vasectomy pamphlets littered around the house? At some point there's a line in the sand.

Great, you've finally arrived at OP's question, which was "what more can she do?" That's what "deny sex" is an unhelpful response. Its the same thing as saying "I have no advice in response to your question." Why post it at all?

Why is it unhelpful? That is absolutely a way to prevent her from getting pregnant. That's her goal.

[Anonymous]

Since he is being a big pussy, have him:
- go to conceriege urologist - they will give him a scotch while they explain that it's no big deal.
http://www.obsidianmenshealth.com/vasectomy-tysons-corner
- have him schedule it for a Friday during his fav sports season and book a room at a hotel. He can watch sports all weekend while recovering.
- give him a tampon for being such a pussy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since he is being a big pussy, have him:
- go to conceriege urologist - they will give him a scotch while they explain that it's no big deal.
http://www.obsidianmenshealth.com/vasectomy-tysons-corner
- have him schedule it for a Friday during his fav sports season and book a room at a hotel. He can watch sports all weekend while recovering.
- give him a tampon for being such a pussy

Since he needs hand holding, that practice provides:

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OP didn't get any special treatment in all of her years of reproductive responsibility.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So essentially no one has any advice save for the mandate to strong arm him like a friggin mob boss into doing as he's told - yeah sounds like the makings of a wonderful loving marriage.

We'll see you in a couple months OP when you're seeking advice about divorce. Hopefully you'll get better feedback.

It's not strong arming him. It's putting him in charge of the birth control. He has 3 choices he can make: condoms, snip or no sex. The choice is his.

+1000

That's swell that this reasoning persuades you, but to OP's husband its going to sound like OP is being an aggressive asshole. Its pretty well established that everyone on this thread disagrees with him, but using arguments that are persuasive only to someone who already shares your view seems like a pretty stupid tactic.

Then no sex. Not sure what else you think OP is obligated to do. Make an appointment for him? Call friends to see if they are snipped and ask them to speak to him? Leave small pro-Vasectomy pamphlets littered around the house? At some point there's a line in the sand.

Great, you've finally arrived at OP's question, which was "what more can she do?" That's what "deny sex" is an unhelpful response. Its the same thing as saying "I have no advice in response to your question." Why post it at all?

Why is it unhelpful? That is absolutely a way to prevent her from getting pregnant. That's her goal.

No, her goal was "to hear successful vasectomy stories that I can use to persuade him."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Since he is being a big pussy, have him:
- go to conceriege urologist - they will give him a scotch while they explain that it's no big deal.
http://www.obsidianmenshealth.com/vasectomy-tysons-corner
- have him schedule it for a Friday during his fav sports season and book a room at a hotel. He can watch sports all weekend while recovering.
- give him a tampon for being such a pussy

Since he needs hand holding, that practice provides:

The Benefits of Concierge Medicine
Appointments within 24-72 hours
Virtually no waiting
Longer, more comprehensive appointments
House calls available
After hours appointments available
Delivery of patient specific information including labs and medication lists via phone or email
A strong focus on long-term sexual health and wellness
A personal, meaningful relationship with your doctor
Option of office closure for the utmost in discretion and privacy.
Cappuccio, Top-Shelf Bourbon, Gin or Rum
Large Screen TVs with Netflix in all rooms
Complimentary WiFi
Reduced Rates at Tysons Corner Ritz Carlton for Obsidian patients.



OP didn't get any special treatment in all of her years of reproductive responsibility.

Wow. All I got when I got my iud is a whole lot of pain at insertion and a free pad in case of spotting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So essentially no one has any advice save for the mandate to strong arm him like a friggin mob boss into doing as he's told - yeah sounds like the makings of a wonderful loving marriage.

We'll see you in a couple months OP when you're seeking advice about divorce. Hopefully you'll get better feedback.

It's not strong arming him. It's putting him in charge of the birth control. He has 3 choices he can make: condoms, snip or no sex. The choice is his.

+1000

That's swell that this reasoning persuades you, but to OP's husband its going to sound like OP is being an aggressive asshole. Its pretty well established that everyone on this thread disagrees with him, but using arguments that are persuasive only to someone who already shares your view seems like a pretty stupid tactic.

Then no sex. Not sure what else you think OP is obligated to do. Make an appointment for him? Call friends to see if they are snipped and ask them to speak to him? Leave small pro-Vasectomy pamphlets littered around the house? At some point there's a line in the sand.

Great, you've finally arrived at OP's question, which was "what more can she do?" That's what "deny sex" is an unhelpful response. Its the same thing as saying "I have no advice in response to your question." Why post it at all?

Why is it unhelpful? That is absolutely a way to prevent her from getting pregnant. That's her goal.

No, her goal was "to hear successful vasectomy stories that I can use to persuade him."

What makes you think stopping sex until DHs take responsibility for birth control is not a successful vasectomy story?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I were talking about him getting snipped, and he was hesitating b.c he said it would feel less manly.

Then we had our OOPS third baby.

He got the procedure done while I was pregnant. He did it under local in the Drs office. I could hear them chatting happily in the ten minutes it took.

So an accidental third baby in my experience is a great way to convince a reluctant DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whether or not the husband is being stubborn or immature or selfish is not the issue.

The woman asked for advice of how to convince him and all you can seem to come up with is her locking her legs tight until he caves. Can anyone think of any other way to convince him besides that?

I'm guessing he has NO IDEA what procedure entails. He's thinking sharp object, near my junk and all logic goes out the window. Have him commit to the informational appointment - just that. He can still say 'no'. I have a spouse like this about lots of stuff and also about vasectomy (waiting for DS #2 to be born to broach again). This approach works with him in most cases. As long as your husband isn't crazed/irrational, you should be able to get there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I were talking about him getting snipped, and he was hesitating b.c he said it would feel less manly.

Then we had our OOPS third baby.

He got the procedure done while I was pregnant. He did it under local in the Drs office. I could hear them chatting happily in the ten minutes it took.

So an accidental third baby in my experience is a great way to convince a reluctant DH.

Ha!
So yes, consider this option 4!

[Anonymous]

You can't, it has to be his choice.

[Anonymous]

Just tell him he's right. Forget it. Obviously he has no balls to begin with so its kind of a useless procedure.

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Anonymous wrote:So essentially no one has any advice save for the mandate to strong arm him like a friggin mob boss into doing as he's told - yeah sounds like the makings of a wonderful loving marriage.

We'll see you in a couple months OP when you're seeking advice about divorce. Hopefully you'll get better feedback.

It's not strong arming him. It's putting him in charge of the birth control. He has 3 choices he can make: condoms, snip or no sex. The choice is his.

+1000

That's swell that this reasoning persuades you, but to OP's husband its going to sound like OP is being an aggressive asshole. Its pretty well established that everyone on this thread disagrees with him, but using arguments that are persuasive only to someone who already shares your view seems like a pretty stupid tactic.

Then no sex. Not sure what else you think OP is obligated to do. Make an appointment for him? Call friends to see if they are snipped and ask them to speak to him? Leave small pro-Vasectomy pamphlets littered around the house? At some point there's a line in the sand.

Great, you've finally arrived at OP's question, which was "what more can she do?" That's what "deny sex" is an unhelpful response. Its the same thing as saying "I have no advice in response to your question." Why post it at all?

Why is it unhelpful? That is absolutely a way to prevent her from getting pregnant. That's her goal.

No, her goal was "to hear successful vasectomy stories that I can use to persuade him."

What makes you think stopping sex until DHs take responsibility for birth control is not a successful vasectomy story?

Reading comprehension?

[Anonymous]

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This. Just tell him you'll be practicing abstinence until he is willing to be a grown up.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So essentially no one has any advice save for the mandate to strong arm him like a friggin mob boss into doing as he's told - yeah sounds like the makings of a wonderful loving marriage.

We'll see you in a couple months OP when you're seeking advice about divorce. Hopefully you'll get better feedback.

It's not strong arming him. It's putting him in charge of the birth control. He has 3 choices he can make: condoms, snip or no sex. The choice is his.

+1000

That's swell that this reasoning persuades you, but to OP's husband its going to sound like OP is being an aggressive asshole. Its pretty well established that everyone on this thread disagrees with him, but using arguments that are persuasive only to someone who already shares your view seems like a pretty stupid tactic.

Then no sex. Not sure what else you think OP is obligated to do. Make an appointment for him? Call friends to see if they are snipped and ask them to speak to him? Leave small pro-Vasectomy pamphlets littered around the house? At some point there's a line in the sand.

Great, you've finally arrived at OP's question, which was "what more can she do?" That's what "deny sex" is an unhelpful response. Its the same thing as saying "I have no advice in response to your question." Why post it at all?

Why is it unhelpful? That is absolutely a way to prevent her from getting pregnant. That's her goal.

No, her goal was "to hear successful vasectomy stories that I can use to persuade him."

What makes you think stopping sex until DHs take responsibility for birth control is not a successful vasectomy story?

Reading comprehension?

So you think their vasectomies didn't work because it wasn't the guy's idea?

[Anonymous]

He has to wear a condom. Every. Single. Time.