Best Friend Sleeping Around

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Her husband should keep this in mind if their marriage ever goes sexless. She doesn't need an emotional connection to want to have sex.

Don't laugh but that is why I am seriously considering divorce. My wife screwed around a lot after her first marriage ended. But I was the open minded guy who doesn't care about the past and fell in love. Eight sexless marriage years later, color me done. STBX should really just go to bars every weekend or have an open relationship with someone new.

Not silly at all. If she was happy having sex with random guys but is now either unwilling to have sex with you or requires that you jump through a bunch of hoops before she's interested, that has to make you feel like she loves you even less than those random guys (who she presumably didn't love at all.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't laugh but that is why I am seriously considering divorce. My wife screwed around a lot after her first marriage ended. But I was the open minded guy who doesn't care about the past and fell in love. Eight sexless marriage years later, color me done.

She had a lot of sex in the past so we'll have lots of sex in the future is a fallacy that both men and women fall into. Past sex is not indicative of future sex. Things change, people change. A marriage that goes sex to truly sexless is either an indicator of emotional, marriage and/or medical problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her husband should keep this in mind if their marriage ever goes sexless. She doesn't need an emotional connection to want to have sex.

Most people would say that for sex to be truly meaningful, there needs to be an emotional connection. If she could be honest, I doubt she would say the sex she is having is meaningful at all. My guess is most people have had sex with someone where there wasn't a deep emotional connection. Everyone that has ever had a ONS would fall into this category although at the time there was likely some sort of connection. This doesn't necessarily makes some one a bad husband or wife.

She is using sex as a drug to cover up emotional hurt.

[Anonymous]

I'll raise you a 42 year old woman I used to be friends with. She cheated on her husband of over 20 years with a few randoms she met on Tinder. She then spent the next year fucking every man she could fit into her day, often meeting complete stagers (mostly Tinder, but some other similar apps as well) during lunch for a quickie, and another on her way home where her clueless husband- who was previously the only man she'd ever been with- thought they were working on their marriage. Eventually, she contracted herpes, the final straw for her future ex-husband. She also claimed to have been drugged and date raped at one point (but honestly, hearing the story it sounded more like "got too drunk, mixed in a Xanax and passed out after a hookup). Still, none of this slowed her down.

FWIW, I never slut-shamed her. It just got to the point that these conquests were all she cared about and we no longer had anything in common. We were very close for nearly 10 years, now we never talk.