Best Friend Sleeping Around

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, my friend's fiancé broke-off the engagement. He couldn't stand her OCD. She is freakishly neat and needs things in order. She keeps an excel spreadsheet of all her "conquests," down to details and ratings! I worry about her. My friend said she uses protection "almost always."

That's sick. If she didn't get it together I wouldn't be able to be her friend.

[Anonymous]

What her future husband will think?!! WTF?! You lost me there. Who gives a shit what some dude she does not know yet might think of her having tons of sex.

I'd encourage her to protect herself, and use condoms, but anything else you need to drop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, my friend's fiancé broke-off the engagement. He couldn't stand her OCD. She is freakishly neat and needs things in order. She keeps an excel spreadsheet of all her "conquests," down to details and ratings! I worry about her. My friend said she uses protection "almost always."

That's sick. If she didn't get it together I wouldn't be able to be her friend.

You are right. OCD is a sickness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, my friend's fiancé broke-off the engagement. He couldn't stand her OCD. She is freakishly neat and needs things in order. She keeps an excel spreadsheet of all her "conquests," down to details and ratings! I worry about her. My friend said she uses protection "almost always."

I think she's heart broken or something like that. I've seen this before when someone's life is turned upside down they just go on a binge like this. Is she happy
or is this her coping with the stress of the break up from your perspective? Some people use sex like others use drugs or alcohol in extremely stressful periods.

[Anonymous]

So your friend is mentally ill, but all you can think about is judging her sexual activities.

What a great friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is pretty common behavior for women after an emotional breakup. Eventually, she'll get tired of the meaningless sex. I've witnessed several people go through this process.

+1

[Anonymous]

Her fiance broke up with her because she is mentally unstable.
She sleeps around because she is mentally unstable.

You can't force an adult to get help from a mental health specialist.

Welcome to the hell most families deal with when you have a family member with a mental illnesses.

There is nothing you can do. You can say, I can't be friends with you and watch you be destructive, get help or I have to stop being your friend.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Other than the OCD, my friend is otherwise mentally stable. We've been best friends for a long time. I've never ever seen her act this way even after past break-ups. This is disturbing.

[Anonymous]

OP, your response is why none of my girlfriends know much about my sex life. I don't want their judgments and I don't want to discuss it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What her future husband will think?!! WTF?! You lost me there. Who gives a shit what some dude she does not know yet might think of her having tons of sex.

I'd encourage her to protect herself, and use condoms, but anything else you need to drop.

+1 the references to guys not respecting her and what her future husband will think outed you as a judgmental prude. No wonder she told you to drop it. She is an adult, and she wants to wild out a little after a big breakup. Totally normal. If you think she is really struggling emotionally based on other reasons (excessive alcohol/drugs, withdrawn, not eating/sleeping, etc) maybe ask gently if she's considered seeing a therapist. But if it's just casual sex then you need to chill.

[Anonymous]

Wow she turned into a slut !! What's her number op ??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Other than the OCD, my friend is otherwise mentally stable. We've been best friends for a long time. I've never ever seen her act this way even after past break-ups. This is disturbing.

You don't really know that.

why did her boyfriend break up with her?

[Anonymous]

"Other than the OCD" what??? That's a serious mental illness. Maybe you mean she's a neat freak. Please leave the diagnosing to psychiatrists..and if she has a diagnosis...please read up on how crippling it can be. My nut can't leave the house except on good days.

[Anonymous]

Oops not nut....aunt....Freudian autocorrect!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is pretty common behavior for women after an emotional breakup. Eventually, she'll get tired of the meaningless sex. I've witnessed several people go through this process.

How come I never met women having this phase? Why was I always the guy they wanted to get serious with and missed all the fun?