Best Friend Sleeping Around

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned too, not because of her future husband ( wtf?) , but because it is hugely out of character for her and she's doing things that are putting her life at risk.

My approach would be one of love and concern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned too, not because of her future husband ( wtf?) , but because it is hugely out of character for her and she's doing things that are putting her life at risk.

My approach would be one of love and concern.

+1

[Anonymous]

I know you mean well OP, but in all honesty she is more than old enough at 31 to make her own life choices and be able to live with the consequences.

Everybody has their choice of poison in how they deal with loss and this seems to be hers for the time being.

Just continue to be supporting and there for her like you always have been.

And try not to judge. You may make certain choices one day that may be hard for her to understand.

[Anonymous]

What's the big deal? Guys sleep around all the time. Just chill.

[Anonymous]

Sour grapes.

[Anonymous]

She can settle down with the DW and I for a long term Fwb. My wife is OCD too but usually not in a bad way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friend for like 10+ years and her fiancé broke-off their engagement about sixmonths ago. She hasn't been taking it well. She's been sleeping around with random guys A LOT. Since her break-up, she's gone on a trips and has had multiple one night stands during that trip. Here, she goes out to bars, sometimes with her single friends, sometimes with me, sometimes by herself and ends-up sleeping with a guy. One weekend, she slept with 3 different men. I've told her his behavior isn't healthy, that guys don't respect or like women who sleep around a lot. I also said how would her future husband feel if he know how promiscuous she was. She says she just wants to live her life and I should drop the topic.

My friend is 31 years old. Prior to her sex binge, she had only slept with 11 guys (all while in relationships). During the last 9 months, she has had sex with 16 more guys. I think that's insane.

What should I do? I love my friend and think she needs help.

Maybe she just likes sex more than you do?

Take her advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My best friend for like 10+ years and her fiancé broke-off their engagement about sixmonths ago. She hasn't been taking it well. She's been sleeping around with random guys A LOT. Since her break-up, she's gone on a trips and has had multiple one night stands during that trip. Here, she goes out to bars, sometimes with her single friends, sometimes with me, sometimes by herself and ends-up sleeping with a guy. One weekend, she slept with 3 different men. I've told her his behavior isn't healthy, that guys don't respect or like women who sleep around a lot. I also said how would her future husband feel if he know how promiscuous she was. She says she just wants to live her life and I should drop the topic.

My friend is 31 years old. Prior to her sex binge, she had only slept with 11 guys (all while in relationships). During the last 9 months, she has had sex with 16 more guys. I think that's insane.

What should I do? I love my friend and think she needs help.

Do nothing. It's a phase and she'll get past it. Stop judging.

[Anonymous]

Women are always their own worst enemies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is pretty common behavior for women after an emotional breakup. Eventually, she'll get tired of the meaningless sex. I've witnessed several people go through this process.

Yes +.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is pretty common behavior for women after an emotional breakup. Eventually, she'll get tired of the meaningless sex. I've witnessed several people go through this process.

Yes +.

Because they are obsessed with proving they are attractive to men, which is stupid because their college experience should have taught them that men will screw anyone.

[Anonymous]

Her husband should keep this in mind if their marriage ever goes sexless. She doesn't need an emotional connection to want to have sex.

[Anonymous]

She is definitely in a bad place in her life. The sex in and of it's self is not the problem, but risky sex can turn into a life time problem. She is out of control, but there really is nothing you can do unless she wants help. She is using alcohol and sex to cover up her other feeling (just guess at this but likely rejection, loneliness, and depression). There are issues from her past, likely all the way to childhood, that predispose her to this. She could use some counseling, but this only works if she thinks there is a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her husband should keep this in mind if their marriage ever goes sexless. She doesn't need an emotional connection to want to have sex.

I think this can be an issue for both men and women. Just look at all the guys hooked on porn who can't do it with their wives. How many people would really want to be married to someone who repeatedly has the will to have sex with nothing other than the physical component?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her husband should keep this in mind if their marriage ever goes sexless. She doesn't need an emotional connection to want to have sex.

Don't laugh but that is why I am seriously considering divorce. My wife screwed around a lot after her first marriage ended. But I was the open minded guy who doesn't care about the past and fell in love. Eight sexless marriage years later, color me done. STBX should really just go to bars every weekend or have an open relationship with someone new.