Almost 7 year old in kindergarten!!

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Anonymous wrote:All you people who think it's nbd, sure, maybe not in ES, but once in MS and HS, these 2 yr older boys will be in the same class as your on-time girls.

an 11 yr old 6th grader girl in class with a 13 yr old boy.
A 13 yr old 8th grader girl in class with a 15 yr old boy.

This boy will be almost 21 by the time he graduates HS.

A boy's maturity level will probably change as he gets older. What seems like an immature kid in K, may be a bit too mature by 10th grade because he will be 17. I wonder how that boy will feel knowing that he is 17 in 10th grade.

That's the business of the boy's parents. It's not my business, and it's not yours, either.

Also, here is what you're saying: "I am worried about older boys in my daughter's classes, so you should not be allowed to redshirt your son."

Also, could you please explain how, exactly, somebody would be "almost 21" when they graduate from high school? I know somebody with a winter birthday who was redshirted. She is in seventh grade and turned 14 a few months ago. When she graduates from high school, she will be 19 and several months. I don't consider that "almost 21".

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Anonymous wrote:All you people who think it's nbd, sure, maybe not in ES, but once in MS and HS, these 2 yr older boys will be in the same class as your on-time girls.

an 11 yr old 6th grader girl in class with a 13 yr old boy.
A 13 yr old 8th grader girl in class with a 15 yr old boy.

This boy will be almost 21 by the time he graduates HS.

A boy's maturity level will probably change as he gets older. What seems like an immature kid in K, may be a bit too mature by 10th grade because he will be 17. I wonder how that boy will feel knowing that he is 17 in 10th grade.

That's the business of the boy's parents. It's not my business, and it's not yours, either.

Also, here is what you're saying: "I am worried about older boys in my daughter's classes, so you should not be allowed to redshirt your son."

Also, could you please explain how, exactly, somebody would be "almost 21" when they graduate from high school? I know somebody with a winter birthday who was redshirted. She is in seventh grade and turned 14 a few months ago. When she graduates from high school, she will be 19 and several months. I don't consider that "almost 21".

I agree with you - and there is nothing saying that the "older" boy will be the one who ends up being a "problem" for you daughter.

[Anonymous]

Wondering if you realized that kids can remain in public school to age 22. Now you really have something to worry about besides a kindergartener who was red shirted or a kid who was held back at some point and will be 19 at graduation.

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Anonymous wrote:All you people who think it's nbd, sure, maybe not in ES, but once in MS and HS, these 2 yr older boys will be in the same class as your on-time girls.

an 11 yr old 6th grader girl in class with a 13 yr old boy.
A 13 yr old 8th grader girl in class with a 15 yr old boy.

This boy will be almost 21 by the time he graduates HS.

A boy's maturity level will probably change as he gets older. What seems like an immature kid in K, may be a bit too mature by 10th grade because he will be 17. I wonder how that boy will feel knowing that he is 17 in 10th grade.

That's the business of the boy's parents. It's not my business, and it's not yours, either.

Also, here is what you're saying: "I am worried about older boys in my daughter's classes, so you should not be allowed to redshirt your son."

Also, could you please explain how, exactly, somebody would be "almost 21" when they graduate from high school? I know somebody with a winter birthday who was redshirted. She is in seventh grade and turned 14 a few months ago. When she graduates from high school, she will be 19 and several months. I don't consider that "almost 21".

And that's the great this about this forum. I can talk about things that are normally none of my business. And yes, I care about what other people do that may affect my child. No, I'm not a helicopter mom, but I care about my kids' environment in class.

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Anonymous wrote:I do think there are some circumstances under which it is appropriate to hold a kid back or redshirt, even absent any special needs. My son is 6 and in 1st grade. One of his friends from his class is 8. Honestly, my son (who is NOT mature by any stretch) gets frustrated with his friend all of the time for acting immature, and he is right. I can't imagine how his friend would survive socially if he were in 2nd or 3rd grade.

If this kid stays immature all through his school life, then maybe it was the right decision. But, what happens if he comes into his maturity when he hits his teens, and he's in class with a bunch of 11 yr olds?

Sure, you want to make the best decision with the information you have now, but what's worse - to be immature in ES or be too mature in MS/HS compared to your peers?

There's still not that much difference between a barely 13yo and a 11.5yo, on average. You do realize that people are talking about a 15-18 month age difference, right?

That's a lot of time for tweens. Over a year of time for maturity, puberty. You do realize that, right? You would be ok with your 12 yr old girl hanging out with a 14 yr old boy? I wouldn't.

If you don't think the other kid is appropriate for your kid to hang out with, then don't let them hang out together. This isn't that hard.

[Anonymous]

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And that's the great this about this forum. I can talk about things that are normally none of my business. And yes, I care about what other people do that may affect my child. No, I'm not a helicopter mom, but I care about my kids' environment in class.

You can talk about things that are none of your business anywhere you want. You don't have to do it anonymously on an Internet message board. The question is, why do you want to talk about things that are none of your business?

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Anonymous wrote:I do think there are some circumstances under which it is appropriate to hold a kid back or redshirt, even absent any special needs. My son is 6 and in 1st grade. One of his friends from his class is 8. Honestly, my son (who is NOT mature by any stretch) gets frustrated with his friend all of the time for acting immature, and he is right. I can't imagine how his friend would survive socially if he were in 2nd or 3rd grade.

If this kid stays immature all through his school life, then maybe it was the right decision. But, what happens if he comes into his maturity when he hits his teens, and he's in class with a bunch of 11 yr olds?

Sure, you want to make the best decision with the information you have now, but what's worse - to be immature in ES or be too mature in MS/HS compared to your peers?

There's still not that much difference between a barely 13yo and a 11.5yo, on average. You do realize that people are talking about a 15-18 month age difference, right?

That's a lot of time for tweens. Over a year of time for maturity, puberty. You do realize that, right? You would be ok with your 12 yr old girl hanging out with a 14 yr old boy? I wouldn't.

If you don't think the other kid is appropriate for your kid to hang out with, then don't let them hang out together. This isn't that hard.

Face it - there are always going to be a few kids who are older due to red-shirting or being held back a grade. Just monitor who your own kid is hanging out with. And just because a kid is older doesn't necessarily mean they are trouble...

[Anonymous]

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And that's the great this about this forum. I can talk about things that are normally none of my business. And yes, I care about what other people do that may affect my child. No, I'm not a helicopter mom, but I care about my kids' environment in class.

You can talk about things that are none of your business anywhere you want. You don't have to do it anonymously on an Internet message board. The question is, why do you want to talk about things that are none of your business?

Because I can, and it affects my kids' school environment to have much older kids in class with them.

[Anonymous]

A friend's daughter didn't start kindergarten on time because of the death of a sibling. You don't know the entire story and it is none of your business OP.

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Anonymous wrote:MYOB.

I disagree with this attitude. Those who put kids in Kindergarten who will be turning 7 DO affect others. I should be able to send my summer child on time without kids being THAT much older than them (unless there was good reason). Now my kid, who is following the age guidelines, is going to feel short or possibly behind in someway, when really they should be within the standard of normal. Older kids in the class also change the teachers expectations of normal, and therefore DO affect others!

It is everyone business, but especially five year old boys (or active girls) who behave in an age appropriate way for five year olds.

A bunch of seven year olds in a kindergarten classroom skews the expectations for behavior, and turns those kids behaving or misbehaving in age appropriate ways and learning at age appropriate paces into problem children or in need of remediation.

If parents hold them out to the point they are going to turn seven during the kindergarten year (the age of many second graders) then the schools need to test them for kindergarten mastery and move them into first grade.

We're not talking about a "bunch" of 7 year olds. We're talking about one. Are you honestly saying that the presence of one 7 year old will magically make the teacher forget what is age-appropriate behavior for 5 year olds? Or that your kid can't handle "feeling shorter" than one other kid in his class? Good lord.

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And that's the great this about this forum. I can talk about things that are normally none of my business. And yes, I care about what other people do that may affect my child. No, I'm not a helicopter mom, but I care about my kids' environment in class.

You can talk about things that are none of your business anywhere you want. You don't have to do it anonymously on an Internet message board. The question is, why do you want to talk about things that are none of your business?

Because I can, and it affects my kids' school environment to have much older kids in class with them.

Everybody who is in your kid's school environment affects your kid's school environment. If you don't like that, then your only other choice is to homeschool your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shit. My son is taller than most of the kids in his current class and has a September birthday, so he misses the cutoff for Kindergarten where we live. Should I anticipate that people will talk about him like this when he starts school?

No, people don't go around talking about it, people find out the kids birthdays early on because of birthday parties. Generally people hold back the August and sept birthdays (end of sept cutoff). I have only known of 3 boys that were held back with earlier birthdays like June or July out of many families I've met over the years.

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And that's the great this about this forum. I can talk about things that are normally none of my business. And yes, I care about what other people do that may affect my child. No, I'm not a helicopter mom, but I care about my kids' environment in class.

You can talk about things that are none of your business anywhere you want. You don't have to do it anonymously on an Internet message board. The question is, why do you want to talk about things that are none of your business?

Because I can, and it affects my kids' school environment to have much older kids in class with them.

Everybody who is in your kid's school environment affects your kid's school environment. If you don't like that, then your only other choice is to homeschool your kid.

But, I don't have a problem with everyone in my DC's class.

Also, if you don't care about this issue, then why do you care that I do? Why do you care that I'm posting my opinion about it? Why don't you myob?

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And that's the great this about this forum. I can talk about things that are normally none of my business. And yes, I care about what other people do that may affect my child. No, I'm not a helicopter mom, but I care about my kids' environment in class.

You can talk about things that are none of your business anywhere you want. You don't have to do it anonymously on an Internet message board. The question is, why do you want to talk about things that are none of your business?

Because I can, and it affects my kids' school environment to have much older kids in class with them.

Everybody who is in your kid's school environment affects your kid's school environment. If you don't like that, then your only other choice is to homeschool your kid.

But, I don't have a problem with everyone in my DC's class.

Also, if you don't care about this issue, then why do you care that I do? Why do you care that I'm posting my opinion about it? Why don't you myob?

Wait - so what, specifically, is your problem with this kid? Obviously there haven't been any actual issues if you just found out, in April, that he's 7. What has happened to make you concerned beyond the fact that you know his age today?

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That's a lot of time for tweens. Over a year of time for maturity, puberty. You do realize that, right? You would be ok with your 12 yr old girl hanging out with a 14 yr old boy? I wouldn't.

If you don't think the other kid is appropriate for your kid to hang out with, then don't let them hang out together. This isn't that hard.

Face it - there are always going to be a few kids who are older due to red-shirting or being held back a grade. Just monitor who your own kid is hanging out with. And just because a kid is older doesn't necessarily mean they are trouble...

When I was a 14-year-old girl in high school, I dated a 16-year-old boy who was in my same grade. (He was a year and a few months older than me because his birthday was right after the cut-off and I skipped a grade.) Whereas when my friend was a 14-year-old girl in high school, she dated a 16-year-old boy who was a grade ahead of her. (Her birthday was right before the cut-off.) What's the difference?