Almost 7 year old in kindergarten!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It is everyone business, but especially five year old boys (or active girls) who behave in an age appropriate way for five year olds.

A bunch of seven year olds in a kindergarten classroom skews the expectations for behavior, and turns those kids behaving or misbehaving in age appropriate ways and learning at age appropriate paces into problem children or in need of remediation.

If parents hold them out to the point they are going to turn seven during the kindergarten year (the age of many second graders) then the schools need to test them for kindergarten mastery and move them into first grade.

The argument here is: people shouldn't be allowed to make the decision they believe to be right for their kid, because it's bad for my kid.

I don't think much of that argument. And no, I didn't redshirt. I sent one child on time and one child early.

[Anonymous]

Wait until later in school. We had a few boys who were 2 years older than grade level and both had spring birthdays. 13 years old in 6 th grade. My summer bday 8th grader is 13 and these boys are now turning 15. Next year in 9th grade they will be driving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait until later in school. We had a few boys who were 2 years older than grade level and both had spring birthdays. 13 years old in 6 th grade. My summer bday 8th grader is 13 and these boys are now turning 15. Next year in 9th grade they will be driving.

Yes, and...?

[Anonymous]

All you people who think it's nbd, sure, maybe not in ES, but once in MS and HS, these 2 yr older boys will be in the same class as your on-time girls.

an 11 yr old 6th grader girl in class with a 13 yr old boy.
A 13 yr old 8th grader girl in class with a 15 yr old boy.

This boy will be almost 21 by the time he graduates HS.

A boy's maturity level will probably change as he gets older. What seems like an immature kid in K, may be a bit too mature by 10th grade because he will be 17. I wonder how that boy will feel knowing that he is 17 in 10th grade.

[Anonymous]

There were a couple of 7 year olds in my son's K class. I think they were held back by the school and repeating K though (so not red-shirted.)

[Anonymous]

I do think there are some circumstances under which it is appropriate to hold a kid back or redshirt, even absent any special needs. My son is 6 and in 1st grade. One of his friends from his class is 8. Honestly, my son (who is NOT mature by any stretch) gets frustrated with his friend all of the time for acting immature, and he is right. I can't imagine how his friend would survive socially if he were in 2nd or 3rd grade.

[Anonymous]

Maybe there are circumstances you don't know about. Foreign adoption, travel, illnesses, etc.

MYOB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do think there are some circumstances under which it is appropriate to hold a kid back or redshirt, even absent any special needs. My son is 6 and in 1st grade. One of his friends from his class is 8. Honestly, my son (who is NOT mature by any stretch) gets frustrated with his friend all of the time for acting immature, and he is right. I can't imagine how his friend would survive socially if he were in 2nd or 3rd grade.

If this kid stays immature all through his school life, then maybe it was the right decision. But, what happens if he comes into his maturity when he hits his teens, and he's in class with a bunch of 11 yr olds?

Sure, you want to make the best decision with the information you have now, but what's worse - to be immature in ES or be too mature in MS/HS compared to your peers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do think there are some circumstances under which it is appropriate to hold a kid back or redshirt, even absent any special needs. My son is 6 and in 1st grade. One of his friends from his class is 8. Honestly, my son (who is NOT mature by any stretch) gets frustrated with his friend all of the time for acting immature, and he is right. I can't imagine how his friend would survive socially if he were in 2nd or 3rd grade.

If this kid stays immature all through his school life, then maybe it was the right decision. But, what happens if he comes into his maturity when he hits his teens, and he's in class with a bunch of 11 yr olds?

Sure, you want to make the best decision with the information you have now, but what's worse - to be immature in ES or be too mature in MS/HS compared to your peers?

There's still not that much difference between a barely 13yo and a 11.5yo, on average. You do realize that people are talking about a 15-18 month age difference, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe there are circumstances you don't know about. Foreign adoption, travel, illnesses, etc.

MYOB

This is the great thing about this forum - you can ask or talk about things that normally are none of your business. Not OP, btw. People discuss the most taboo subjects on this forum. What is wrong with talking about this on here? It's actually a good thing because people are able to share the reasons anonymously. It can be quite informative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do think there are some circumstances under which it is appropriate to hold a kid back or redshirt, even absent any special needs. My son is 6 and in 1st grade. One of his friends from his class is 8. Honestly, my son (who is NOT mature by any stretch) gets frustrated with his friend all of the time for acting immature, and he is right. I can't imagine how his friend would survive socially if he were in 2nd or 3rd grade.

If this kid stays immature all through his school life, then maybe it was the right decision. But, what happens if he comes into his maturity when he hits his teens, and he's in class with a bunch of 11 yr olds?

Sure, you want to make the best decision with the information you have now, but what's worse - to be immature in ES or be too mature in MS/HS compared to your peers?

There's still not that much difference between a barely 13yo and a 11.5yo, on average. You do realize that people are talking about a 15-18 month age difference, right?

That's a lot of time for tweens. Over a year of time for maturity, puberty. You do realize that, right? You would be ok with your 12 yr old girl hanging out with a 14 yr old boy? I wouldn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There were a couple of 7 year olds in my son's K class. I think they were held back by the school and repeating K though (so not red-shirted.)

There are a couple of 7 year olds in my sons K class (recently turned 7). This is because it is an expensive private K and too many parents want an advantage. Of 14 students my son is the only 5 year old in the class (late may birthday). I don't GAF but the more bored, acting out boys I see the more relieved I am about our decision to send our child on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All you people who think it's nbd, sure, maybe not in ES, but once in MS and HS, these 2 yr older boys will be in the same class as your on-time girls.

an 11 yr old 6th grader girl in class with a 13 yr old boy.
A 13 yr old 8th grader girl in class with a 15 yr old boy.

This boy will be almost 21 by the time he graduates HS.

A boy's maturity level will probably change as he gets older. What seems like an immature kid in K, may be a bit too mature by 10th grade because he will be 17. I wonder how that boy will feel knowing that he is 17 in 10th grade.

I think your math is wrong. A child who turns 15 in 8th grade will turn 19 in 12th. That's a big difference from being "almost" 21 by graduation.

[Anonymous]

I do think there are some circumstances under which it is appropriate to hold a kid back or redshirt, even absent any special needs. My son is 6 and in 1st grade. One of his friends from his class is 8. Honestly, my son (who is NOT mature by any stretch) gets frustrated with his friend all of the time for acting immature, and he is right. I can't imagine how his friend would survive socially if he were in 2nd or 3rd grade.

If this kid stays immature all through his school life, then maybe it was the right decision. But, what happens if he comes into his maturity when he hits his teens, and he's in class with a bunch of 11 yr olds?

Then hopefully he will be a good role model for my son, since they've already established a friendship. IDK it doesn't seem to be that big of a deal. Maybe I just feel that way because my son, who is one of the younger kids in his class, is really, really bright and so I don't feel like there is an issue of unfair competition academically. Plus I don't care about sports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my DD's kindergarten class a boy turned 7 in February, and it does not impact the class in any way. The boy is repeating K and I applaud the family for looking out for their child's best interest long-term. After all, they could have refused the recommendation and sent him to 1st, but they chose to focus on his needs. No big deal to his current (and former) classmates.

Seriously? So he'll turn 8 in K?

No he was held back and is in his second year in K - at seven. He will presumably move on and turn 8 in first grade.