Almost 7 year old in kindergarten!!

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And that's the great this about this forum. I can talk about things that are normally none of my business. And yes, I care about what other people do that may affect my child. No, I'm not a helicopter mom, but I care about my kids' environment in class.

You can talk about things that are none of your business anywhere you want. You don't have to do it anonymously on an Internet message board. The question is, why do you want to talk about things that are none of your business?

Because I can, and it affects my kids' school environment to have much older kids in class with them.

Everybody who is in your kid's school environment affects your kid's school environment. If you don't like that, then your only other choice is to homeschool your kid.

But, I don't have a problem with everyone in my DC's class.

Also, if you don't care about this issue, then why do you care that I do? Why do you care that I'm posting my opinion about it? Why don't you myob?

Is there an actual child in your child's class who is actually causing actual problems, or are you just worrying about hypothetical children who might hypothetically cause hypothetical problems?

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That's a lot of time for tweens. Over a year of time for maturity, puberty. You do realize that, right? You would be ok with your 12 yr old girl hanging out with a 14 yr old boy? I wouldn't.

If you don't think the other kid is appropriate for your kid to hang out with, then don't let them hang out together. This isn't that hard.

Face it - there are always going to be a few kids who are older due to red-shirting or being held back a grade. Just monitor who your own kid is hanging out with. And just because a kid is older doesn't necessarily mean they are trouble...

When I was a 14-year-old girl in high school, I dated a 16-year-old boy who was in my same grade. (He was a year and a few months older than me because his birthday was right after the cut-off and I skipped a grade.) Whereas when my friend was a 14-year-old girl in high school, she dated a 16-year-old boy who was a grade ahead of her. (Her birthday was right before the cut-off.) What's the difference?

That's a good point - once you are in MS and HS - your child is going to be meeting kids of other ages/grades anyway.

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Yes, when my child started kindergarten, there were childen who were still 4 (Sept 30 cutoff and they had Sept birthdays), along with children who had already been 6 for a few months.

I know it's none of my business, so I stay out of it but I think it's bizarre. I think that unless you have a *really* good reason, and not just "oh, johnny isn't *ready*", you should send your child to school on time, rather than giving them the "gift of time". It seems as if there is no ending point. Parents used to hold back if they were September birthdays, then August, then July and it just keeps going. Something just rubs me the wrong way, but i guess it's not really my business, so I'll just judge silently

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To be honest, I found it slightly frustrating when a sizable group of boys in my son's K class were redshirted without any apparent reason. I could not afford another year of daycare for him (single mom, live in VA), so redshirting him was not an option, and it was a bit difficult for him socially that so many boys were a year older than him. That is certainly not to say that there was an issue with every redshirted boy, though. DS's best friend has mild special needs and was redshirted, and they obviously get along great with no social or age related problems. But people are going to do what they're going to do, and DS just had to learn to adapt. It is a bit frustrating for him in sports, though. He's on a rec team outside of school that is age-based vs. grade based, and loves playing soccer, but never wants to play at school because most of the boys are so much bigger than him. But again, a minor issue in the big scheme of life.

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My son has an April birthday (turns 6, is in K) and last year I had tons of people ask me if I was going to send him to Kindergarten. He is shy and short but academically advanced. It never would have crossed my mind to hold him back--his birthday falls smack in the middle of the eligibility year. But I don't care what others do. He does have one kid in his class (a girl) who just turned 7.

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Anonymous wrote:All you people who think it's nbd, sure, maybe not in ES, but once in MS and HS, these 2 yr older boys will be in the same class as your on-time girls.

an 11 yr old 6th grader girl in class with a 13 yr old boy.
A 13 yr old 8th grader girl in class with a 15 yr old boy.

This boy will be almost 21 by the time he graduates HS.

A boy's maturity level will probably change as he gets older. What seems like an immature kid in K, may be a bit too mature by 10th grade because he will be 17. I wonder how that boy will feel knowing that he is 17 in 10th grade.

That's the business of the boy's parents. It's not my business, and it's not yours, either.

Also, here is what you're saying: "I am worried about older boys in my daughter's classes, so you should not be allowed to redshirt your son."

Also, could you please explain how, exactly, somebody would be "almost 21" when they graduate from high school? I know somebody with a winter birthday who was redshirted. She is in seventh grade and turned 14 a few months ago. When she graduates from high school, she will be 19 and several months. I don't consider that "almost 21".

And that's the great this about this forum. I can talk about things that are normally none of my business. And yes, I care about what other people do that may affect my child. No, I'm not a helicopter mom, but I care about my kids' environment in class.

I care too. Because it's a "trend" -- it's not a one off thing. It's not good for the kids who are held back or for the kids who are the regular age.

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I care too. Because it's a "trend" -- it's not a one off thing. It's not good for the kids who are held back or for the kids who are the regular age.

Maybe let's let the parents of the kids decide what's good for them.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you concerned exactly?

Yeah, OP. Does the presence of this kid some how tarnish the sheen on your shiny snowflake?

Because the redshirted kids seem to be the ones behaving badly - and constantly taking the teachers' attention away from the kids who are the right age.

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Anonymous wrote:All you people who think it's nbd, sure, maybe not in ES, but once in MS and HS, these 2 yr older boys will be in the same class as your on-time girls.

an 11 yr old 6th grader girl in class with a 13 yr old boy.
A 13 yr old 8th grader girl in class with a 15 yr old boy.

This boy will be almost 21 by the time he graduates HS.

A boy's maturity level will probably change as he gets older. What seems like an immature kid in K, may be a bit too mature by 10th grade because he will be 17. I wonder how that boy will feel knowing that he is 17 in 10th grade.

That's the business of the boy's parents. It's not my business, and it's not yours, either.

Also, here is what you're saying: "I am worried about older boys in my daughter's classes, so you should not be allowed to redshirt your son."

Also, could you please explain how, exactly, somebody would be "almost 21" when they graduate from high school? I know somebody with a winter birthday who was redshirted. She is in seventh grade and turned 14 a few months ago. When she graduates from high school, she will be 19 and several months. I don't consider that "almost 21".

And that's the great this about this forum. I can talk about things that are normally none of my business. And yes, I care about what other people do that may affect my child. No, I'm not a helicopter mom, but I care about my kids' environment in class.

I care too. Because it's a "trend" -- it's not a one off thing. It's not good for the kids who are held back or for the kids who are the regular age.

Its a trend in some of the wealthier suburbs of DC but not in general I don't think.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you concerned exactly?

Yeah, OP. Does the presence of this kid some how tarnish the sheen on your shiny snowflake?

Because the redshirted kids seem to be the ones behaving badly - and constantly taking the teachers' attention away from the kids who are the right age.

wow sweeping generalization.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you concerned exactly?

Yeah, OP. Does the presence of this kid some how tarnish the sheen on your shiny snowflake?

Because the redshirted kids seem to be the ones behaving badly - and constantly taking the teachers' attention away from the kids who are the right age.

Sincere question: how do you know who's redshirted in your child's class?

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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's kindergarten class a boy turned 7 in February, and it does not impact the class in any way. The boy is repeating K and I applaud the family for looking out for their child's best interest long-term. After all, they could have refused the recommendation and sent him to 1st, but they chose to focus on his needs. No big deal to his current (and former) classmates.

Seriously? So he'll turn 8 in K?

No - he just turned 7 in February. He will turn 8 next February in 1st grade.

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Anonymous wrote:In my DD's kindergarten class a boy turned 7 in February, and it does not impact the class in any way. The boy is repeating K and I applaud the family for looking out for their child's best interest long-term. After all, they could have refused the recommendation and sent him to 1st, but they chose to focus on his needs. No big deal to his current (and former) classmates.

So this kid will be a teenager going through puberty (possibly even shaving) in elementary school, driving in middle school, and 20 years old in high school when some of tue freshmen will be 13 year olds?

No, he is in his 2nd year of kindergarten this year. Just one year older than everyone else.

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Anonymous wrote:To be honest, I found it slightly frustrating when a sizable group of boys in my son's K class were redshirted without any apparent reason. I could not afford another year of daycare for him (single mom, live in VA), so redshirting him was not an option, and it was a bit difficult for him socially that so many boys were a year older than him. That is certainly not to say that there was an issue with every redshirted boy, though. DS's best friend has mild special needs and was redshirted, and they obviously get along great with no social or age related problems. But people are going to do what they're going to do, and DS just had to learn to adapt. It is a bit frustrating for him in sports, though. He's on a rec team outside of school that is age-based vs. grade based, and loves playing soccer, but never wants to play at school because most of the boys are so much bigger than him. But again, a minor issue in the big scheme of life.

+1, My child has mild SN, we sent him and if anything its helped as the stronger academics keep him challenged and he has learned to adapt. He is not great a soccer but has sports he is good at but if we held him back, I still don't think he would have been great at soccer. My son has friends and is doing well on time. I don't find any of the 1st grade work particularly challenging like others complain and if anything he asks to be more challenged. The kids who are acting up in the class are the two oldest boys who are far bigger and their behavior and vocabulary not ok. Several of the parents (I did not bother) have complained about them. I just had to teach my child not to copy and what is allowed in our home. Those kids are getting a lot of time outs and in trouble from what my child has said. They would have been far better a grade ahead with their true peers.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you concerned exactly?

Yeah, OP. Does the presence of this kid some how tarnish the sheen on your shiny snowflake?

Because the redshirted kids seem to be the ones behaving badly - and constantly taking the teachers' attention away from the kids who are the right age.

Sincere question: how do you know who's redshirted in your child's class?

We get a phone list with all the kids birthdays.