Afraid to be a SAHM due to chance of divorce. Anyone else?

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Anonymous wrote:I find it far more troubling that you have a husband who makes 7 figures, yet you are afraid that he will deny his kids if you two divorce. That's really something you should address OP, not being a SAHM.

Coming from a SAHM, I really don't think you should do it. Not until you work through things with your DH.

This exactly. I don't doubt that my husband could cheat. After all he's human, we fight on occasion, etc. However I could never see him abandoning his kids. He's an incredible father. Well I guess he could do a 180 and completely abandon them. But the chance if that is so infinitesimally small. I would t stay working just because of that.

Once a guy divorces and meets someone else you'd be surprised. I see it all the time with people I know. I would suggest OP works p/t and put money away whatever happens.

+1. To all those who say their DH could NEVER abandon their kids, you'd be shocked. Once they meet another woman, there's someone else who has control or influence over their thinking and often that person isn't as nice and fair minded as you'd like -- she may want DH's financial support going to HER kids and their kids that they may have together -- if that means that the kids from the first marriage are yanked out of private school or have to go to state university on scholarship rather than an ivy, oh well; and often DH doesn't stand up for the kids from the first marriage bc he realizes he's already onto marriage no. 2 (or 3 or whatever) and wants to make this one work and private school for his "other" kids isn't worth fighting about.

Yep. I've seen this happen too.

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I can see continuing to work but if you really do fear divorce (even just somewhat) a (discrete) consult with a lawyer to figure out how to protect yourself may end up being crucial.
It can't hurt unless your DH finds out, which he really owuldn't need to.

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After a guy gets divorce and the assets split with child support, insurance, unforeseen medical costs don't expect him to pay for college tuition. Neither of you may be able to afford it, and the child will have to get a scholarship or loan. College is not court ordered fyi.