Men: How much did you spend on the engagement ring?
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Anonymous
+1 But it's insured for a fortune. Then again, if you have to ask, you can't afford it. 
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Anonymous
Don't marry him. This does note bode well. |
Anonymous
why? |
Anonymous
Not PP but probably a disconnect of expectations here. |
Anonymous
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I had no engagement ring, just a $30 gold band. I loved it. Husband doesn't wear a ring.
Years ago he bought me an eternity band. Never asked for one, it was a surprise. I feel bad because I can no longer wear it. He should have just put the money in a secret savings account. THAT would have been of better use. Just saying. I am not the jewelry wearing type. He knew this before he bought that ring. I should pawn it. Mama needs some pocket money. 
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Anonymous
If you're ready to spend your life with your BF, does the 2k engagement ring matter that much to you? For me, I had to figure out the same thing and what we ultimately decided was we figured out that if we waited 6 months, BF who had only been at his job for 1.5 years at the time of discussion was able to have more time to save up for the ring I really wanted. In the end, it was the best decision for us. Moving forward, we both have careers where our salaries will grow over the years, assuming we stay in the same job, and there's no expectation on my end for purchasing a 800k home. 750 is our top limit, and I'm much more comfortable in the 550-650 range because we do have student loans to slough through. Make sure you know what you want, what your expectations are BEFORE you agree to marry your BF. Otherwise, it's a really hard pill to swallow later on when you start planning the wedding and realize that you're both not on the same page when it comes to financial concerns. |
Anonymous
same |
Anonymous
Your BF is a good guy. I would stick with him. He is not overextending himself, trying to be something he is not. He means well and when ready he can always upgrade someday. I was in my 30s when I bought my wife's engagement ring. I spent around 20k on diamond solitaire but I was making 200k+ so it wasn't a huge deal. I could have gone bigger and more expensive but didn't. Why? No point. It wouldn't make her any happier than she is. Money is great and nice rings are awesome too but doesn't keep you warm at night. |
Anonymous
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No engagement ring. Time to do away with those. What about an engagement investment?
We do have cheap gold bands, but we are not even married. |
Anonymous
It's so hard to take your advice seriously once I read that you spent 20k on the solitaire. At 20k I would hope that your wife is happy and wouldn't need bigger or better. At 200k+ I don't blame you for spending 20k, but don't try to relate to the poor guy who confessed the truth of his financial assets where he can only afford a 2k ring for the PP. |
Anonymous
Agree. 2k is fine. Save your money for a house in an area with good schools. |
Anonymous
| Zero. Married a feminist, she would have had a "WTF" look on her face if I gave her a ring lol |
Anonymous
| 5k back than it was worth every penny, now think back its a waste of money, shouldn't event spend on anything and be single! |
Anonymous
Maybe so you wouldn't get hit on in a grocery store, bar, etc? At least an engagement ring tells guys that one is taken and not to waste the effort of making small talk. |
Anonymous
| Family ring. Didn't even need to be resized. |