Am I selfish to ask my ex wife to relocate so I can be close to my child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is selfish.

And you are right to be concerned. My dad moved cross country when I was 13 and it was a major, negative impact on our relationship both then and continuing into my 30's.

OP here, my dad did the same thing and my siblings and I were all affected by this even to this day. That's why I don't want to make the same mistake with my daughter.

then move to FL when you retire, that is what most folks do here

[Anonymous]

It's okay to ask and it's okay for her to say no.

Now you have to decide what you will do. I would try to find something you're happy with near your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's okay to ask and it's okay for her to say no.

Now you have to decide what you will do. I would try to find something you're happy with near your daughter.

This. I also add you work on getting your custody agreement changed.

[Anonymous]

It's selfish to leave your daughter because you prefer another state. We as parents don't get to do everything we want to do.