Just found out dws father pays all her bills

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Many parents try to gift the max each year for tax purposes. Better than giving it to the irs.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a troll people, please stop.

+1

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Your wife sounds like a spoiled brat but it is kind of up to you if that's a deal breaker or not.

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Anonymous wrote:Total troll story. If her dad was giving her 20k a year for clothing, I call BS she was a nanny. The wealthiest nanny on earth!

This doesn't necessarily mean anything. Not all nannies are from poor backgrounds. Some people do jobs because they like working !

- nanny who makes 60k/ year

Princess Disna was a Preschool teacher, just saying.

Huge difference between a preschool teacher and a nanny.

I don't think there's a huge difference. I'm op and my wife did both. She worked as a nanny while she was in undergrad/ grad school and then taught at a Montessori preschool for a few years after. Preschool teaching is much easier because the day is shorter. I think she actually made more $ being a nanny. She also saved a lot because she lived with the family until we got married.

Either way. Princess Diana was both. http://articles.latimes.com/1998/may/03/news/ls-45767

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This is a symptom of a much larger problem. Your marital dynamics sound seriously screwed up. Do you talk to each other? Are you open an honest? Do you have a real partnership. Because it sounds like you're controlling, so she's secretive. This does not end well-- don't Bring any more kids into this mess until you get counseling and deal with your issues.

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I work but I couldn't live off $500 a month. My CC bill is around $1500 a month. It includes insurance and household crap and stuff for kids, but still. If she's spending $20k a year and saving the $500/mo you give her, that doesn't seem like some extreme shopping habit to me.

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Anonymous wrote:I work but I couldn't live off $500 a month. My CC bill is around $1500 a month. It includes insurance and household crap and stuff for kids, but still. If she's spending $20k a year and saving the $500/mo you give her, that doesn't seem like some extreme shopping habit to me.

+ 1 I don't see the big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:Soooooo much wrong with this post. You've never asked her to pay living expenses? Um, you are married. She is raising your kid, right? You give her an allowance of $500/mo? Um, she's not your child!

Yes, it's weird her dad is giving her 20k/yr for shopping, but your relationship dynamics sound way, way, way more bizarre. She is probably working harder at home duirng the day with your kid than you are at work (and this is coming from someone who works outside of the home herself so no bias here) -- it's not your place to dole out money. You a family. You are partners. Wake up. This is 2015.

Ditto. OP - you sound like an idiot and so does your wife.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Everything about your relationship is unusual. Good luck.

Personally, i would not marry someone that would spend $20k a month in a store, but YMMV.[/quote

Can you read? She spent this in 1 year. Nordstrom credit cards can be used everywhere.

Nordstrom has a store card and a brand visa. Not all Nordstrom cards can be used everywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. Everything about your relationship is unusual. Good luck.

Personally, i would not marry someone that would spend $20k a month in a store, but YMMV.[/quote

Can you read? She spent this in 1 year. Nordstrom credit cards can be used everywhere.

Nordstrom has a store card and a brand visa. Not all Nordstrom cards can be used everywhere.

Not true. I have both the visa and debt. They don't have a store only card anymore.

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I have a friend who gets the same from her dad. She grew up upper middle class and her DHs and her income combined just barely make up $200k a year now. She just couldn't adjust to having less than she did growing up and neither could her parents. They didn't want their child to not look the part at social gatherings etc, my friend and her 2 kids always are dressed well and have all the right brands and accessories, she could never have accomplished this on their own HHI, This has been going on for 15 years

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Don't call the $500/mo an "allowance." Call it a "budget."

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Anonymous wrote:Don't call the $500/mo an "allowance." Call it a "budget."

This is not a budget if it is only for her own needs...

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Anonymous wrote:Don't call the $500/mo an "allowance." Call it a "budget."

This is not a budget if it is only for her own needs...

Um, yes it is, fool. Family budgets typically include basic self-maintenance, which for a woman can be high. Toiletries, nails, hair, make up, clothes. $500 a month is NOT lavish. Whatsoever.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't call the $500/mo an "allowance." Call it a "budget."

This is not a budget if it is only for her own needs...

Um, yes it is, fool. Family budgets typically include basic self-maintenance, which for a woman can be high. Toiletries, nails, hair, make up, clothes. $500 a month is NOT lavish. Whatsoever.

Op here: yes and this is why my wife asked for this amount before she stopped working. She wanted to make sure I understood her self maintenance budget. She says her dad wants to make sure she feels taken care of and hence the Nordstrom credit card. She's the only child and he likes to spoil her. He hasn't remarried since her mother passed away years ago. I'm not going to worry about it anymore. It's not causing me problems now. I will be sure to check her credit score frequently in case she falls behind on the bills.