Just found out dws father pays all her bills

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I rarely say this, but I call BS on this.

If she wanted an "allowance" before kids, what in the world did she bring to the table that got you to marry her to begin with? Does she have a college education? How old are the kids?

She has no clue what independence means, and if this story is true, she is using you. As others said, you must not be paying attention to little things to not notice the closet getting fuller and fuller of clothes.

She was a nanny before being a SAHM. She didn't want to give up working so she asked for an allowance when we had kids. I don't have a problem with this part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You aren't footing the bill for her recreational shopping. Leave it alone.

+1 I don't see the big deal. She's charging you about a forth of what a full-time nanny would. She sounds smart to save! Plus you don't know if she's using the credit card at nordstrom or somewhere else.

[Anonymous]

OP, what you describe is not normal. Maybe it's tip of the iceberg?

[Anonymous]

$2000 a month on clothes or outings isn't that lavish. I would let it go. You got it easy. She probably spends all the money on shoes which is why she's so secretive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regarding the money she has saved, if there is a divorce you need to remember that she has the money because that's joint money despite her "hiding" it from you.

Very odd and you need to look into this more. She obviously has money issues and her father and you are now tied into it

Her credit is perfect . The card must be paid off in full each month because her credit hasn't changed. I doubt she's planning a divorce. She wants sex 3 times a day And she always wants to spend time with me when I am not working. She's always thinking of cleaver ideas to keep me from going to the gym or out with my friends. Also we have another baby on the way.

[Anonymous]

With kids and a household to maintain, $2000 a month doesn't sound crazy. I could easily spend that if I had it. The issue is that she didn't tell you. I wouldn't take issue with her father helping you guys out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With kids and a household to maintain, $2000 a month doesn't sound crazy. I could easily spend that if I had it. The issue is that she didn't tell you. I wouldn't take issue with her father helping you guys out.

We don't need help though. I make 200k / year and we have zero debt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With kids and a household to maintain, $2000 a month doesn't sound crazy. I could easily spend that if I had it. The issue is that she didn't tell you. I wouldn't take issue with her father helping you guys out.

We don't need help though. I make 200k / year and we have zero debt.

Looks like you do need help if she is still running to daddy to fulfill the manly duties that you are not taking care of at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With kids and a household to maintain, $2000 a month doesn't sound crazy. I could easily spend that if I had it. The issue is that she didn't tell you. I wouldn't take issue with her father helping you guys out.

We don't need help though. I make 200k / year and we have zero debt.

You don't have a mortgage?

Also, if she is keeping you from your friends, that is not healthy at all.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe you're complaining about this OP. I need to take a page out of your wife's book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With kids and a household to maintain, $2000 a month doesn't sound crazy. I could easily spend that if I had it. The issue is that she didn't tell you. I wouldn't take issue with her father helping you guys out.

We don't need help though. I make 200k / year and we have zero debt.

You don't have a mortgage?

Also, if she is keeping you from your friends, that is not healthy at all.

No. We inherited a house from family.

[Anonymous]

This is a troll people, please stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe you're complaining about this OP. I need to take a page out of your wife's book.

Disagree. The amount of money is one thing. But the secrecy is entirely another. What if dad stops paying her credit card off? Can she adjust? The whole thing is troubling.

[Anonymous]

Total troll story. If her dad was giving her 20k a year for clothing, I call BS she was a nanny. The wealthiest nanny on earth!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Total troll story. If her dad was giving her 20k a year for clothing, I call BS she was a nanny. The wealthiest nanny on earth!

This doesn't necessarily mean anything. Not all nannies are from poor backgrounds. Some people do jobs because they like working !

- nanny who makes 60k/ year