Just found out dws father pays all her bills
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My wife is a sahm . She works very part time from home. I take care of everything and have never asked her to pay living expenses. She just told me her father pays off her Nordstrom credit card each month. This year she spent over 20k on the Nordstrom card. She just brought it up because she got a giftcard from Nordstrom for being a frequent shopper.
She says she's fine with her father doing this because she's an only children and he still likes to spoil her. We've been married 5 years and I am just finding out about this. Is this strange? I do buy her clothes and other stuff. I give her a budget of $500/month and she always deducts it from our joint checking at the beginning of the month. She asked me for this amount before we had kids. She used to be a nanny and told me she didn't want to work without out any pay haha Apparently she's been saving the $500 I give her and all the money from her writing job too for the last 5 years. She's very secretive about her savings. I've asked her many times but she won't say anything. |
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| Merry Christmas |
Anonymous
| Also Nordstrom credit cards can be used like regular credit cards. It's not a store card. |
Anonymous
| That bitch is using you. Then why does she need 500 bucks a month? You pay for everything so what is the allowance supposed to be for? She sounds shady. But you sound dumb. |
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| Cool can her dad adopt me? |
Anonymous
| Okay, so to recap, you give your wife $6K a year. Somehow she spends $20K a year at Nordstrom's alone, but you never wondered where all that stuff came from?? |
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Yes. Everything about your relationship is unusual. Good luck.
Personally, i would not marry someone that would spend $20k a month in a store, but YMMV. |
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Hmmm, she's spending 1.5k or so every month for 5 years and you don't know anything about these purchases?
It sounds like you don't make enough to sustain the lifestyle she wants, and that's a problem. And she is not motivated to earn money herself for this lifestyle. Also a problem. |
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No no the Nordstrom credit card can be used every where. She actually doesn't have lots of clothes or handbags. Maybe they're pricer than I thought. |
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Regarding the money she has saved, if there is a divorce you need to remember that she has the money because that's joint money despite her "hiding" it from you.
Very odd and you need to look into this more. She obviously has money issues and her father and you are now tied into it |
Anonymous
| You aren't footing the bill for her recreational shopping. Leave it alone. |
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OP, I would go to see a good lawyer pronto. You could be heading for a world of trouble. And whatever happens, tell her that you will fight tooth and nail for custody of your kids.
I'm sorry about this. She sounds like a spoiled basketcase. |
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I rarely say this, but I call BS on this.
If she wanted an "allowance" before kids, what in the world did she bring to the table that got you to marry her to begin with? Does she have a college education? How old are the kids? She has no clue what independence means, and if this story is true, she is using you. As others said, you must not be paying attention to little things to not notice the closet getting fuller and fuller of clothes. |
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