Pregnant teacher on school trip

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Anonymous wrote:$2k for five days in New York?? Wow, someone is making out.

And flying instead of taking a bus or the train is ridiculous.

This is OP. I want to clarify that we have moved AWAY from the DC area. It would be an extremely long bus ride.

Specifically, my concern is that if they cannot find a chaperone, I will be out of pocket $2k. I would go, but I'm having surgery in April. My husband will not be able to take the time off work, as he won't have a year at his current job until late July.
The sonogram she posted says 11 weeks, dated December 10th. Someone knew about November 17th, when son came home from an event with the rumor. (I checked my calendar for the date of that event) So, she told SOMEONE in the school, and DENIED it.

You just sound crazier and crazier with each post.

I do understand your concern but there is still a lot of time for her to find a replacement, which I assume she is working on.

Many, many people don't like to announce pregnancies in the first trimester for a number of reasons including that it is all so uncertain. I remember flat out lying to many people early in my last pregnancy. We didn't "announce" until 24 weeks.

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Anonymous wrote:In my opinion, she and her husband should have notified those of us with children signed up on the trip BEFORE releasing the info on social media... knowing that she and he are "friends" with most of the parents and their students.

Let me be clear... I'm not upset that she's pregnant, but that she hasn't contacted us to let us know who will be chaperoning my child on a 5 day trip more than 2,000 miles from home.

So, to answer your snide and sarcastic questions, no, not upset because Facebook was told first or that she is pregnant.

She may not yet know who is chaperoning the trip. Sorting these things out take time. Which she has. I'm sure she'll let you know when things are arranged.

Given that you're also upset that she "lied" when pregnancy was rumored a month ago, I don't see how you would have reacted better if she had denied the pregnancy on Facebook, while she figured out a plan for the trip.

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So let me get this straight. She did not post about the pregnancy initially. You expected, rather than her figuring out how to respond to whoever did since she obviously wasn't ready to announce herself, she drop everything and contact the parents who had signed up for this trip that is happening in seven months and let them know first?

You are a freaking nutjob. When DCUM agrees, LISTEN.

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OMG, OP you are cray-cray.....

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This has got to be the most self-absorbed insanity I've ever read here. If the trip were next week I'd get your concern. It's MONTHS away, and therefore the sane person would assume the teacher/trip people were figuring out who will chaperone and get that info to parents when they have it. If the teacher had phoned you the minute she felt the sperm hit the egg how would this be any different? Would you have demanded she immediately pull out her contacts and pinpoint the stand-in chaperone?

I get the feeling you're a little too involved with your kid's life, if you think someone in the first trimester of a pregnancy has ANY obligation to contact you immediately - a person wholly unconnected to the pregnancy - just because NEXT SUMMER your HIGH SCHOOL AGE kid is scheduled to be part of a trip the newly-pregnant person agreed to chaperone.

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Life happens. My suggestion is to get involved, so you'll have a voice in who replaces her as a chaperone. Choose to be part of the solution rather than the problem.

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Even if you are flying from CA, you can get flights for $400-600 depending on when you buy, etc. It sounds like a teacher money maker. I am surprised the school would approve this as who is liable if there is an issue. Why on earth would you agree to a trip not sponsored by the school and just a few random teachers? Something sounds very off.

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Chill out. Likely there will be a reschedule or an opt out. Wait for it and decide.

Although I still can't figure out, given your propensity for drama, why you would send your child on an unsponsored trip with a married couple you hardly know since you are new to the area. Seems unlike any chaperone would likely do in that sense.

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to me what the OP is upset about in a way that a middle aged guy can understand?

The teacher violated her trust by getting pregnant and not notifying her before confirming to a family member on FB that she is indeed pregnant.

Now with only 6 months to go before the trip, OP feels that the teacher showed a lack of concern for her students because she was not personally informed of the teacher's pregnancy and she is further frustrated by the fact the no replacement chaperones have been named.

Lol.

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OP you are out of your mind.

The teacher has no obligation to tell you about her pregnancy. AT some point the school will tell you who the replacement is. Their obligation will then be met.

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You should post a question on Facebook to her -- hey preggo teacher -- WHO IS GOING to CHAPERONE THE NYC TRIP?!?!?

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Anonymous wrote:We have paid for a trip for my high schooler to go to NYC with a group from school, chaperoned by a teacher and her husband, also employed by the school, next summer.

About a month ago, my son came home and said that there was a rumor going around that the teacher who organized the trip is pregnant, but that she denied it. So, I let it go. Today, on Facebook, a family member of hers "outed" her, and she responded to the post already, confirming the information.

Due date is the week of the trip.

In my opinion, she and her husband should have notified those of us with children signed up on the trip BEFORE releasing the info on social media... knowing that she and he are "friends" with most of the parents and their students.

Let me be clear... I'm not upset that she's pregnant, but that she hasn't contacted us to let us know who will be chaperoning my child on a 5 day trip several hours from home. We are still new to the area and I'm more than a little peeved... don't really know any of the other parents well enough to ask them. I trusted this woman and now... I feel at the very least that she showed a lack of concern for her students and their parents.

How long should I wait before asking what their alternate plan is and who are the alternate chaperones? I'm really peeved because I don't trust my children into the care of just anyone... especially not like this. I wouldn't have agreed to an unchaperoned trip or a trip where the chaperones were not pre-announced.

By my calculations, she is still in her first trimester. Too early to tell you.

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Anonymous wrote:My child's school goes to NY in 8th grade. It's $900.

Although, if your child goes to the Roberto Clemente MS magnet program, even that is deeply problematic -- $900 for a required school trip in a public school.

It's Eastern and they make sure every student can go.

How do they do this? I'm asking sincerely.

They have fundraisers starting in 6th grade. And then I think scholarships for students to who can't afford it.

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Anonymous wrote:My child's school goes to NY in 8th grade. It's $900.

Although, if your child goes to the Roberto Clemente MS magnet program, even that is deeply problematic -- $900 for a required school trip in a public school.

It's Eastern and they make sure every student can go.

How do they do this? I'm asking sincerely.

They have fundraisers starting in 6th grade. And then I think scholarships for students to who can't afford it.

But fundraisers is just asking other people to pay for a $900 school field trip. If other people want to do that, then that's their right, of course. But I would not feel comfortable asking somebody else to do this for my child's school field trip. Also, while I would be able to put up $900 for a school field trip, it's still a big chunk of money, and it's not what I'd want to spend that big chunk of money on.

I'm thinking about this because I have a kid who might get accepted into the MS magnet program, and if the kid does get accepted, then do I say, "Kid, you're not going to the MS magnet program, because I will not want to send you on the $900 mandatory one-week field trip in 8th grade?"