Pregnant teacher on school trip

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$2k for five days in New York?? Wow, someone is making out.

Group tours are notoriously expensive. Anyone could do it for less per person, it's a business. And I'm guessing the trip cost does include some meals, probably dinners each night, at least. The kids likely have breakfast in the hotel and will be on their own for the cost of lunch... at least that's how many group trips work.

I think it's too much to spend on a 5-day trip to NYC, like way too much, but I don't doubt that an agency could charge that much and get away with it, especially if they're located in an area where the parents are unlikely to have the means to take their whole family to NYC for a week (and especially if they believe that doing so would cost $10K for a family of five...).

[Anonymous]

This may be the funniest post I have ever read on DCUM. The sad part is that I am 100% sure this lady is real. Welcome to my world! Signed, high school counselor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you agree to an expensive trip where you barely know the teacher and it is not school sponsored?

This, plus how do you know what's on the teacher's Facebook? Weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My child's school goes to NY in 8th grade. It's $900.

Although, if your child goes to the Roberto Clemente MS magnet program, even that is deeply problematic -- $900 for a required school trip in a public school.

It's Eastern and they make sure every student can go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$2k for five days in New York?? Wow, someone is making out.

And flying instead of taking a bus or the train is ridiculous.

This is OP. I want to clarify that we have moved AWAY from the DC area. It would be an extremely long bus ride.

Specifically, my concern is that if they cannot find a chaperone, I will be out of pocket $2k. I would go, but I'm having surgery in April. My husband will not be able to take the time off work, as he won't have a year at his current job until late July.
The sonogram she posted says 11 weeks, dated December 10th. Someone knew about November 17th, when son came home from an event with the rumor. (I checked my calendar for the date of that event) So, she told SOMEONE in the school, and DENIED it.

Maybe she has a history of miscarriages. Maybe she's been struggling with infertility. Maybe she didn't tell anyone but was puking in the bathroom and people started talking. You're being incredibly self-centered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$2k for five days in New York?? Wow, someone is making out.

And flying instead of taking a bus or the train is ridiculous.

This is OP. I want to clarify that we have moved AWAY from the DC area. It would be an extremely long bus ride.

Specifically, my concern is that if they cannot find a chaperone, I will be out of pocket $2k. I would go, but I'm having surgery in April. My husband will not be able to take the time off work, as he won't have a year at his current job until late July.
The sonogram she posted says 11 weeks, dated December 10th. Someone knew about November 17th, when son came home from an event with the rumor. (I checked my calendar for the date of that event) So, she told SOMEONE in the school, and DENIED it.

She has the right to deny it if she wants!!! It's her pregnancy and her first trimester! Holy crap, you are a self-centered witch.

[Anonymous]

OP, do really think if the trip is canceled that you wouldn't get a refund of your money? Seriously?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child's school goes to NY in 8th grade. It's $900.

Although, if your child goes to the Roberto Clemente MS magnet program, even that is deeply problematic -- $900 for a required school trip in a public school.

It's Eastern and they make sure every student can go.

How do they do this? I'm asking sincerely.

[Anonymous]

Why does having surgery in April prevent you from chaperoning the trip over the summer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$2k for five days in New York?? Wow, someone is making out.

Group tours are notoriously expensive. Anyone could do it for less per person, it's a business. And I'm guessing the trip cost does include some meals, probably dinners each night, at least. The kids likely have breakfast in the hotel and will be on their own for the cost of lunch... at least that's how many group trips work.

I think it's too much to spend on a 5-day trip to NYC, like way too much, but I don't doubt that an agency could charge that much and get away with it, especially if they're located in an area where the parents are unlikely to have the means to take their whole family to NYC for a week (and especially if they believe that doing so would cost $10K for a family of five...).

Exactly. It may be over-priced, but still cheaper than they could do it on their own.

[Anonymous]

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The trip will be chaperoned. No one wants the liability of turning teenagers loose in NYC for five days.

Who cares if she denied it? That's her business. If she had been diagnosed with cancer, but didn't want to make an announcement until she knew the severity and treatment plan, would you be acting like this?

My guess is that yes, the OP would be acting like this.

Lol yes definitely. How dare the teacher get CANCER and not announce it to OP as soon as she found out!

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, she and her husband should have notified those of us with children signed up on the trip BEFORE releasing the info on social media... knowing that she and he are "friends" with most of the parents and their students.

Let me be clear... I'm not upset that she's pregnant, but that she hasn't contacted us to let us know who will be chaperoning my child on a 5 day trip more than 2,000 miles from home.

So, to answer your snide and sarcastic questions, no, not upset because Facebook was told first or that she is pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Op, know the refund date, at least most of the refund, and decide then - or at least after the holidays. You have choices. You are allowed to have a preference. Let go of "how" it was done.

[Anonymous]

OMG, OP, stop. I think all of DCUM unanimously agrees you're nuts. That is rare.

Write the sponsoring organization and tell them that you are only comfortable with your child going on a trip with that specific teacher, and since she will not be going, you would like your money back. Trust me, the company will refund your money rather than deal with your crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I figured I'd wait until after school got back. That should give her plenty of time.

I never said I was panicking. Y'all are certainly a bunch of judgmental people. It's a wonder anyone asks a question on this forum at all.

What is my specific concern? Well, that I spent $2k on this already and it's non refundable and non transferable. It's not associated with the school in ANY WAY (other than a teacher from the school organized it), so I have no expectation that another teacher would just "step in". Seems like 3 months would be PLENTY of time to have an alternate plan in place and that she has had enough time to consider that since her due date is day 2 of the trip. This is a public school, not all students come from well-off homes, I'd think whoever the new chaperones are going to be will need time to pull together the funds for it. The teacher told us as a group that she and her husband had been saving for it for 6 months previous to even proposing the trip. ($2k for students, $2500 for adults - the cost of double room vs quad being the difference, plus food, souvenirs, transportation to the airport 2 hours away etc) 11 students are signed up. 3 are siblings. The more thought I put into this, the more I realize how inconsiderate it has been of them not to bring it to the group earlier.

DA FUQ! You have a lot of damn nerve expecting someone to personally share with you her pregnancy news so early. Sounds like she is in the 1st trimester and still waiting to get to the 'safe zone' except someone else put her on blast.