Do you think my mother was rude?

[Anonymous]

OP-- how long exactly were you holed up with the computer away from your child?

Photobooks can take forever (I'm procrastinating on one now) especially if you are such a perfectionist that you needed SIL to help you.

The only scenario I think this might be more OK is if you are local to your mom and you see her and the other relatives all the time. However, you still dumped your child on her for what is seeming like hours on end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, it is kind of sad that you are in the demographic of having a toddler and still can't use a basic website and need to rely on your much older parents' computer. If you didn't have this problem you would have been a lot less rude. Also, are you a single mom? If not, why couldn't your DH or partner watch DD and give your poor mom a break?

You are a bitch. That is all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I think you were rude, and entitled.

If this is the biggest complaint you have about your mom, I envy you. My mom is dead.

Ditto. I miss my mother so much at Thanksgiving.

[Anonymous]

You were both kind of rude so it's a wash. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, it is kind of sad that you are in the demographic of having a toddler and still can't use a basic website and need to rely on your much older parents' computer. If you didn't have this problem you would have been a lot less rude. Also, are you a single mom? If not, why couldn't your DH or partner watch DD and give your poor mom a break?

You are a bitch. That is all.

WTF?

[Anonymous]

OP here.

Yes, I am a single mom.
Mom watched DD for 60 minutes.
DD went to sleep at 8:30.

[Anonymous]

I think your mom was upset because she missed spending time with you. I doubt she cared that you were working on the book, but was more disappointed to see you holed up alone working when the holiday is such a great time for the family to be together.

Let it go. Show your mom some love. Sounds like you have a really good relationship and this was just a quick moment of frustration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your mom was upset because she missed spending time with you. I doubt she cared that you were working on the book, but was more disappointed to see you holed up alone working when the holiday is such a great time for the family to be together.

Let it go. Show your mom some love. Sounds like you have a really good relationship and this was just a quick moment of frustration.

+1

Probably the most sane comment on this whole thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, let me say that I have a wonderful mother. I realize that the situation I am about to describe is barely a blip on the radar, and I am overthinking. I am just curious if you would be annoyed if this happened to you?

I am at my parent's home for Thanksgiving weekend along with my sibs and their kids.
DD just turned 2, and I have been looking forward to putting together a Shutterfly book of the past year for her.
This was the PERFECT, and pretty much only time I could do the book because:
1) My computer was having issues, and easier to do it on computer at parent's house.
2) SIL and I get along GREAT, and is excellent on computer- I am not. I did 95% of the book, but relied on her to help with occasional minor questions. Once she got me started then I worked on the book independently, with the occasional question.
She was happy to help me, as we have that kind of relationship, and she knew the situation.
3) Childcare for once not an issue, as DD was happily playing with cousins/Grandma agreed to watch her-and DD had just fallen asleep.

Mom/grandma walks in just as I was finishing the book, and huffily said, "It is time to stop working on the book. It is taking too long We are all tired. Finish it later." (It was 9:30, DD had just fallen asleep, SIL putting her kid to bed so she could quickly look over the completed book before I submitted it. SIL in room with me, and said,"I am happy to help. No problem here." I got a little huffy back ("Just let me finish!" to my mom, and she walked away.

I later apologiized to my mom for my comment, but explained how this was the perfect time to do the book. She pretty much ignored my apology, and replied, 'Did you thank SIL for helping you?" (Of course, I did.....and told her that....)

End of vent. What do you think?

I think you are a pain in the ass. And that reading your comments is a waste of time.

Clear?

[Anonymous]

"Childcare for once is not an issue"....hmmm.

You and SIL went into a room together to "work" on this photo book while your mom watched the kids. Is that right? In the meantime, Grandma was watching how many kids?? Did she realize that she was watching them all until bedtime? Sounds like maybe Grandma was done for the day and wanted to put her own feet up for a bit...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Yes, I am a single mom. [/b]So?
Mom watched DD for 60 minutes. [b]I don't believe you, but even if your estimate is correct you are talking about having your mom watch multiple children on a day when she is hosting a bunch of people in her home. Was dinner catered or something? Otherwise the poor woman was likely cooking her ass off catering to her ungrateful, expectant offspring and babysitting should not have been added to your plate.
DD went to sleep at 8:30. Dubious

[Anonymous]

You were rude for working on your silly picture book on Thanksgiving weekend with the relatives. Your mother was not rude. Your comment to your mom was juvenile.

No mention of DH. Out of the picture? Not surprised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Yes, I am a single mom.
Mom watched DD for 60 minutes.
DD went to sleep at 8:30.

I rescind any thought that you were out of line.

If you asked your mom to help, an hour of hanging out with her grandchild is not too much to ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Yes, I am a single mom.
Mom watched DD for 60 minutes.
DD went to sleep at 8:30.

I rescind any thought that you were out of line.

If you asked your mom to help, an hour of hanging out with her grandchild is not too much to ask.

Thanks from OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Yes, I am a single mom.
Mom watched DD for 60 minutes.
DD went to sleep at 8:30.

I rescind any thought that you were out of line.

If you asked your mom to help, an hour of hanging out with her grandchild is not too much to ask.

Mom watched Op's DD and Op's sister's kids - right before bedtime when kids generally start to get whiny, cranky. My guess is that Grandma also cooked dinner, cleaned up, provided lunch, etc for both families, too.

An hour of childcare is not a long time unless it is at the end of a busy day, when you are already worn out and ready to put your own feet up.....and the kiddos are worn out and cranky and need to be put to bed.