Do you think my mother was rude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't dump your kids on others for hours at a time.

Do not dump your kids on anyone, other than a babysitter. For even a minute. They are yours and you watch them.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I think you were rude and entitled, OP. But you apologized, so move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your mother was tired that you were working on a project that was taking you (and SIL) away from the family at Thanksgiving.

+1

OP, how long did you expect the project would take? How long did it take?

[Anonymous]

Op, the whole scene was not about "the book". It was 9:30pm, I'm sure it seemed early to you - but your Mom had a house full of company and a house full of activity, especially little ones. Maybe your Mom had been doing great w/ the kids but maybe sensed that she herself was maxing-out. And was there more activity the next day? She's trying to pace herself. She needed things to stop for the night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, the whole scene was not about "the book". It was 9:30pm, I'm sure it seemed early to you - but your Mom had a house full of company and a house full of activity, especially little ones. Maybe your Mom had been doing great w/ the kids but maybe sensed that she herself was maxing-out. And was there more activity the next day? She's trying to pace herself. She needed things to stop for the night.

Your mom was already hosting, and you piled this on top. Everyone has a breaking point. You owe her a nice brunch or something.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it was rude of you to plan on doing a big project like that on someone else's computer, yes. Especially a gift for that person. And counting on others to entertain your two year old while you did it. It sounds like it took hours.

Agree 100%. Perhaps your mother would've enjoyed spending time with her guest, i.e. you. You sound like an adult daughter who reverts to wanting to be considered a child when you're in your parents home. It's likely confusing. You were very rude.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback, guys. No offense taken. Let me clarify a few things, too---I did not say it in my original post because I did not want it to be too lengthy.

*Cousins were playing together the whole time except for 1 hour (8;30-9;30) when my mom was snuggling w/ SIL DS and my DD from 8;30-9;30. All other family members were doing their own thing while I was doing the book.

* I do my share, too---for example, I was the ONLY one to clean up the entire downstairs clutter of toys, and I also took the cousins out to the backyard/swing set while everyone was busy doing their own thing. BTW, I instead both-and was happy to do so.

So more defenses and no acknowledgment of how rude you were? You are a piece of work.

[Anonymous]

Cousins were playing together the whole time except for 1 hour (8;30-9;30) when my mom was snuggling w/ SIL DS and my DD from 8;30-9;30. All other family members were doing their own thing while I was doing the book.

Your child is only 2, someone had to be supervising her, even if it was an older cousin. Your mom was probably just tired and done with the day. I don't understand why you are making a big deal of this. She had every right to ask you to finish up for the day and it wasn't rude.

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I find it interesting and very telling that rather than spend time with your family making new memories you chose to extract yourself to spend hours on some crappy shutter fly book that is supposed to capture family memories. Huh. It seems like those Facebook addicts who devote so much time and energy to capturing photographic proof of their daily activities but you can tell they aren't authentically participating in those activities. Call your mom right now and just apologize again. I find it surprising that you're in capable of seeing how rude you were but you were

[Anonymous]

I'm in agreement with everyone else. It was rude for you to spend so much time away from family on Thanksgiving working on a personal project and expecting other to watch you child. Even if she's playing with cousins, she still needs to be supervised. In addition, your SIL was also busy with your project and unable to spend time with the family. 9:30 is actually late to be working on a project at someone else's house. You should have spent time with the family and taken care of your daughter. I imagine your mom was very patient for a while waiting for you to finish and then finally at 930 she realized you were completely oblivious of others around you and decided to say something.

[Anonymous]

why was your kid still up at 9:30? You should have put her to bed at 7 and THEN worked on your book. And why on earth was this such an intense project that you had to ask for help? These books practically make themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why was your kid still up at 9:30? You should have put her to bed at 7 and THEN worked on your book. And why on earth was this such an intense project that you had to ask for help? These books practically make themselves.

AMEN!!!!!!

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Two year olds don't play nicely all day with cousins with no supervision.

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Two year olds need to go to bed way earlier than 9:30. FFS, you didn't even put your kid to bed?

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OP, I can guarantee you that after this, your mom will not enjoy the book as much as she would have if it hadn't eaten up so much of your time. She wants to spend time with you on Thanksgiving.