awful night with bf- any tips?

[Anonymous]

How am I single when there's this level of crazy?

[Anonymous]

OP: So, he's at home with you and a book, after a hard day's work, not out with his friends at bars getting drunk and trying to get laid by other women.

Yeah he sucks, dump him.

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with him reading a book while you Netflix??? You sound so high maintenance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How am I single when there's this level of crazy?

[b]

Amen sister +1

[Anonymous]

The clue to the whole thing is where OP says she expects her BF is suppose to "relish" her very presence. That's weird.

Like OP thinks her BF is just so privileged she is his gf he needs to drop whatever he is doing right then at her whim.

The whole pouting thing was emotionally manipulative. Her bf is probably a quiet phlegmatic person and she picks and prods at him until he blows up in anger because...it's the ATTENTION she craves.

And this doesn't sound like the first time either. Sounds like bf is getting fed up with her.

She also ignores him saying she doesn't appreciate all he does for her.

OP is he paying the rent?

How much of the joint expenses are you paying for vs. the bf?

Now let's get to the sex life. It CAN'T be good. "What can I do for him to show him he is appreciated?"

DOES A GROWN WOMAN REALLY NEED TO ASK THIS QUESTION?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP is he paying the rent?

Of course he is

How much of the joint expenses are you paying for vs. the bf?

Very little

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP is he paying the rent?

Of course he is

How much of the joint expenses are you paying for vs. the bf?

Very little

Is that the OP replying, or someone speculating the responses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have put the moves on you after you moisturized, fwiw

Oh dear God Hahahaha

[Anonymous]

The hardest thing about dating is when you find a good person, that you love but is a wrong fit for you. I'm sure there are many things that are good about the two of you. But things like how much time apart, together not interacting and together interacting is so important. And you might be able to compromise and find away to get along while things are going well in your life. But when things go bad in your life, you both will go back to the what is comfortable.
We went through a stillbirth and we both went through our own private hell. We tried to be there for each other, but we mourned in different ways. But the one thing we had going for us was we speak the same Love Languages and our need for space/togetherness was the same. So while we were both hurting and in pain, we at least didn't have to be negotiating and compromising how much time to spend together. And we could give and receive love in a way that was very natural to us.

[Anonymous]

I would feel the exact same way if in your shoes OP. That is just the way I roll.

Objectively, it looks like you and your man have completely different ways on de-stressing.

Perhaps your bf has a more demanding type job than you do?

Or like I said, people have many different ways to unwind. Women would like to hug, talk and communicate where many men would much rather unwind alone. That peace, the inner peace gives them the clarity they need.

I, like you...Take things personally. I always feel like it is about me. But it isn't really you, it is just a difference in how you both relax at the end of the day.

As long as he spends time with you and gives you loving attention on his days off, I would just choose my battles a little more wiser.

Good luck to both of you. And kudos to your honesty in your post. I know we can often be a tough crowd.