received an email that I shouldn't have received

[Anonymous]

Look, all of this is irrelevant. OP, do you want the job? Then you write back and suggest 6am.

[Anonymous]

My DH works with Asian companies and he would have been really annoyed to do a 10pm conference call. He will, occasionally, do one and has labeled the requestor difficult. Most calls are at 8 or 9 and you could also have done Sunday evening at 9 or 10pm which shouldn't be too taxing unless you work Sundays and you said you have a DH, so presumably he can get the kids down. Heck, you could even take a nap on Sunday.

It sounds like you have knowledge of Asia, so should know this, which might be why he labeled you low EQ.

[Anonymous]

Wait so let me get this straight ...you are interested in this job, but you aren't willing to do a call after a certain time because it's "too late for you". But you expect it to be ok for them to take a call at 10pm? What if they also have kids and it's "too late for them" lol. IMO if you actually want a job you should make some effort on your part, taking one phone call for one night isn't going to change have an impact on your life. I wouldn't hire you based on what you presented.

[Anonymous]

OP knows all this - she asked if she should ignore the email or not. OP, what do you have to lose by acknowledging the email? If you don't really care either way, just write back that you're sorry they feel that way, but you understand and apologize for being uncooperative. Tell them that's not how you usually operate, and you'd appreciate a chance to show them the real you. Either they buy it, and you prove it to them, or they don't and your no worse off than you are now.

[Anonymous]

Pretend you did not see the email and re request a meeting for 10PM your time. And make a few other time slots easy for them available. Just be polite. Does 9AM Asian time work for you employer?

[Anonymous]

Thank you all. OP here. I have written an email to the sender and the person who the original email was addressed to (who is his colleague and someone that I know). I made fun of myself for being a bone head that didn't realize that 10pm Skype will not work for the sender. I explained that I have frequent Skype sessions with people from that country between 10pm-11pm their time. And it really didn't occur to me that this could be a problem. Nevertheless, I indicated that it is clear that my current family situation is not conducive for me to pursue this wonderful opportunity further. I thank them for considering me and hope that they will still consider me in the future when my kids are older and are less depending on me and allowing me to have more flexibility on my time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all. OP here. I have written an email to the sender and the person who the original email was addressed to (who is his colleague and someone that I know). I made fun of myself for being a bone head that didn't realize that 10pm Skype will not work for the sender. I explained that I have frequent Skype sessions with people from that country between 10pm-11pm their time. And it really didn't occur to me that this could be a problem. Nevertheless, I indicated that it is clear that my current family situation is not conducive for me to pursue this wonderful opportunity further. I thank them for considering me and hope that they will still consider me in the future when my kids are older and are less depending on me and allowing me to have more flexibility on my time.

Dang girl, you just mommy tracked yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all. OP here. I have written an email to the sender and the person who the original email was addressed to (who is his colleague and someone that I know). I made fun of myself for being a bone head that didn't realize that 10pm Skype will not work for the sender. I explained that I have frequent Skype sessions with people from that country between 10pm-11pm their time. And it really didn't occur to me that this could be a problem. Nevertheless, I indicated that it is clear that my current family situation is not conducive for me to pursue this wonderful opportunity further. I thank them for considering me and hope that they will still consider me in the future when my kids are older and are less depending on me and allowing me to have more flexibility on my time.

Your spouse couldn't have handled the kids for one night?

[Anonymous]

What? OP, first rule of thumb, you never give your kids as an excuse for not being available!!! Seriously, I'm assuming in your line of work people are not available at any given time for 100 reasons (travel, meeting, phone call, etc). Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all. OP here. I have written an email to the sender and the person who the original email was addressed to (who is his colleague and someone that I know). I made fun of myself for being a bone head that didn't realize that 10pm Skype will not work for the sender. I explained that I have frequent Skype sessions with people from that country between 10pm-11pm their time. And it really didn't occur to me that this could be a problem. Nevertheless, I indicated that it is clear that my current family situation is not conducive for me to pursue this wonderful opportunity further. I thank them for considering me and hope that they will still consider me in the future when my kids are older and are less depending on me and allowing me to have more flexibility on my time.

Dang girl, you just mommy tracked yourself.

+1 It would have been better to not to give a specific reason rather than blame your family situation. I have never heard of a scenerio where an employer would pursue someone when his children are older.

[Anonymous]

Go ahead and ignore, because they are going to ignore you! Really, you're "too tired" and can't make arrangements for an early morning Skype, but you're going to interview for a NEW position from your CURRENT position?
I won't even go into how "10pm is a reasonable time for them" in your little pea brain.
Don't quit your job, you're going to need it when you don't get this one!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all. OP here. I have written an email to the sender and the person who the original email was addressed to (who is his colleague and someone that I know). I made fun of myself for being a bone head that didn't realize that 10pm Skype will not work for the sender. I explained that I have frequent Skype sessions with people from that country between 10pm-11pm their time. And it really didn't occur to me that this could be a problem. Nevertheless, I indicated that it is clear that my current family situation is not conducive for me to pursue this wonderful opportunity further. I thank them for considering me and hope that they will still consider me in the future when my kids are older and are less depending on me and allowing me to have more flexibility on my time.

Dang girl, you just mommy tracked yourself.

Yep. OP is NEVER going to get a job with this company

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all. OP here. I have written an email to the sender and the person who the original email was addressed to (who is his colleague and someone that I know). I made fun of myself for being a bone head that didn't realize that 10pm Skype will not work for the sender. I explained that I have frequent Skype sessions with people from that country between 10pm-11pm their time. And it really didn't occur to me that this could be a problem. Nevertheless, I indicated that it is clear that my current family situation is not conducive for me to pursue this wonderful opportunity further. I thank them for considering me and hope that they will still consider me in the future when my kids are older and are less depending on me and allowing me to have more flexibility on my time.

Dang girl, you just mommy tracked yourself.

+1 It would have been better to not to give a specific reason rather than blame your family situation. I have never heard of a scenerio where an employer would pursue someone when his children are older.

+2

Never, ever use your family as "blame." Completely unprofessional.

[Anonymous]

OP since your situation is resolved, I'd recommend asking Jeff to delete this thread. You provided enough detail to be easily identifiable to anyone involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd ignore it and pretend I didn't see it.

me too but I agree with them.

I regularly communicate with users in Singapore, and I would think your suggestion unreasonable and showed you weren't interested. I'd just ignore the email.