received an email that I shouldn't have received

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would pretend I didn't see it, and they are right.

+1

Anonymous wrote:Your not getting the job.

+1

Anonymous wrote:The interviewer asked you to choose an early morning or late evening time. You did neither. You're not very smart about interviewing.

+1

[Anonymous]

They approached her, so it is not like a normal imterview. But 10 pm shows an unwillingness to compromise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think 10 am/10 pm is not a very fair suggestion, tbh.

+1 if you were pursuing the opportunity, you adjust your schedule to what ever they want. If the are perusing you, then they adjust.

You asked them to take the call in after hours so you wouldn't have to. I completely agree with their assessment if you are perusing the opportunity.

Ignore the email and don't expect an offer.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the others. I work with field offices that are 11 hours away. If I asked a potential hire to make themselves available to talk to the field team at a time that was convenient for the folks in Delhi or Almaty, and that person refused, I would assume they:

A) Don't want the job very much;

B) Aren't very flexible; and

C) Don't respect the role and hard work of the field staff, for whom 10 pm is very much past a normal work day.

C is the real kicker for me. I have no desire to have someone on my team who is going to treat the field team with contempt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you're job hunting, you assume the position of inconvenience, not demand it of the other side. If you'd be tired at night, why would you assume they wouldn't be? Why should your "morning crunch time" be a concern of theirs? Don't we all have busy times?

Your emotional intelligence IS low. Let this experience teach you some empathy and humility. It's not all about what you need.

This. Job hunting is all about being extremely available and accommodating...even when in real life you have little flexibility...you have to come off as the opposite. I get how tiring evenings are with kids (I have 3, work full time, and did a career change) BUT you can certainly pull it together for ONE evening.

I agree. They are right. Your mistake.

[Anonymous]

It's probably a good indication that the job is not right for you. Don't worry about it. But ignore the email, and perhaps realize that everybody has it rough these days.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think they meant early in the morning or late at night for you, not them. Example: Early in the morning= 6 am for you = 6 pm for them; not great for them but realistic. Late at night = 10 pm for you = 10 am for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think they meant early in the morning or late at night for you, not them. Example: Early in the morning= 6 am for you = 6 pm for them; not great for them but realistic. Late at night = 10 pm for you = 10 am for them.

OP knows that, she just wouldn't agree to those times.

[Anonymous]

Would the job require dealing with jet lag and calls at odd times? You just demonstrated your unwillingness to handle that.

DH has colleagues in Australia and has conference calls during dinner time sometimes. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I didn't apply for any jobs. They approached me with flattering emails. They initiate the Skype session to "informally chat" about the job and to introduce their organization to me. I told them at the very first email that it is hard to move back to Asia given that I have a working spouse and 3 school age kids, but I would appreciate more information from them, which is why they wanted to Skype. I also do not want to burn any bridges just in case this may work out either now or in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn't apply for any jobs. They approached me with flattering emails. They initiate the Skype session to "informally chat" about the job and to introduce their organization to me. I told them at the very first email that it is hard to move back to Asia given that I have a working spouse and 3 school age kids, but I would appreciate more information from them, which is why they wanted to Skype. I also do not want to burn any bridges just in case this may work out either now or in the future.

So contact them with another time that is more reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Everyone is correct that OP is not being flexible.

OP-why don't you use that email to your advantage? Don't mention anything about the email but contact them and say that you can be available at 10 pm your time or whatever they wanted. Tell them that you are very interested and want to make the conversation happen.

[Anonymous]

If you are actually interested in this position, you should change the time to some time that is more reasonable on their end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are actually interested in this position, you should change the time to some time that is more reasonable on their end.

Correct. I'm a night owl so 10 PM would be no problem, but if you are not, take the afternoon off and go home and nap so you can be ready. Don't do stuff like this in your office.

[Anonymous]

OP, your post shows you are clearly not cut out for Asia.