received an email that I shouldn't have received
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Anonymous
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I was approached for a position in Asia that I am a good fit and potentially interested. The person asked me to Skype him either early in the morning or late at night due to time difference. I couldn't do it because I have to take care of 3 kids and by the time the kids are in bed I am too tired to talk business. Morning crunch time is even worst for me. So I suggested Skype at 10am when I am in my office. That would be 10pm their time, which I think is not too bad. I frequently Skype with people in Asia at 10am our time.
Today I received an email from this potential colleague. This email forwarded my email to another person but the sender used "reply" and I received the email instead. In the email, this potential colleague described me as "low in EQ" because I suggested the 10am Skype and didn't think there is anything wrong with that. I felt terrible after reading the email. Should I respond to this email or just pretend I didn't receive it? |
Anonymous
| I'd ignore it and pretend I didn't see it. |
Anonymous
me too but I agree with them. |
Anonymous
| I think 10 am/10 pm is not a very fair suggestion, tbh. |
Anonymous
| Yeah OP I think you are not getting the position. If it were me I would have had a coffee late in the day and interviewed at night. The person who sent the email is sort of right. |
Anonymous
+1 It's a job interview, if you want to put your best foot forward, be accommodating. Your suggestion of 10pm isn't reasonable in my opinion. |
Anonymous
| Why not set your alarm for 4 am and do an early call before they leave the office? |
Anonymous
+1 what if they are dealing with the same evening as you? No one wants to speak at 10pm. However, you should have taken that time as it shows you're committed to the job. You cannot be upset here, you should be embarrassed. |
Anonymous
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It just shows that you may not be flexible and hard to work with. Why would 10 pm be better for them then 10 pm for you?
Pretend you didn't see it. If you are really interested apologized for your suggestion and offer an earlier/later time that is more convenient for them-- though it will be clear you saw it if you do this. |
Anonymous
| I would pretend I didn't see it, and they are right. |
Anonymous
| Your not getting the job. |
Anonymous
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When you're job hunting, you assume the position of inconvenience, not demand it of the other side. If you'd be tired at night, why would you assume they wouldn't be? Why should your "morning crunch time" be a concern of theirs? Don't we all have busy times?
Your emotional intelligence IS low. Let this experience teach you some empathy and humility. It's not all about what you need. |
Anonymous
This. Job hunting is all about being extremely available and accommodating...even when in real life you have little flexibility...you have to come off as the opposite. I get how tiring evenings are with kids (I have 3, work full time, and did a career change) BUT you can certainly pull it together for ONE evening. |
Anonymous
| A babysitter at 8pm could have helped you through this. I agree with the others - if you wanted the job you would have managed something for one evening. |
Anonymous
| The interviewer asked you to choose an early morning or late evening time. You did neither. You're not very smart about interviewing. |