Unsolicited Grandparenting Advice

[Anonymous]

MIL: kids are not for when you feel lonely and want some background noise in your house. They are people. And if you want to have a real relationship with them you have to connect with them. Plopping them in front of TV does not count as connecting.

[Anonymous]

my dad is always saying things like 'of course he's hungry, you never feed him!' and 'look how skinny he is!' and 'give him some real food!' it drives me crazy. my 14 month old son eats pretty well for a young toddler, I think, and is in the 50th percentile for weight. yes, he's thin. we feed him 3 good, balanced meals and 2-3 snacks every day...sometimes it seems like all we do is feed him and yet this is all I hear from my dad when we visit. so annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my dad is always saying things like 'of course he's hungry, you never feed him!' and 'look how skinny he is!' and 'give him some real food!' it drives me crazy. my 14 month old son eats pretty well for a young toddler, I think, and is in the 50th percentile for weight. yes, he's thin. we feed him 3 good, balanced meals and 2-3 snacks every day...sometimes it seems like all we do is feed him and yet this is all I hear from my dad when we visit. so annoying.

My father has surprisingly turned into the king of grandparenting-- or, more accurately, king of parenting. Every time my parents visit, he's full of you shoulds. You should take the baby out more, you should dress the baby warmer, you should give the baby another bottle (an hour after baby had an 8 oz bottle), you should get him a better hat... etc. And when I tell him sure, you can do that yourself then, he turns to my mom in a panic and asks her to go buy him another hat or make a new bottle.

My parents live a few hours away, but boy, does this behavior make them hard to miss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grandparents: for the most part, we love and appreciate them. However, it's probably fair to say most of us have received unsolicited parenting advice. So maybe here in this little corner of the Internet, we can fantasize about giving unsolicited Grandparenting advice.

Lifted from another thread:

Anonymous wrote:
Grandparents, take note: if a parent is within eyesight/earshot of the child, and is actively parenting them, you don't need to pile on with the instructions and corrections. I don't need my FIL barking "put that down!" When I have JUST said it. Kids don't need three adults telling them the same thing at the same time.

Well, if you just told kid to "put it down" and he/she doesn't then you are not patenting. My house, my rules and I do not care whether you likebitbir not. I bet when your GIL "barked" your precious snowflake put it down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To DILs, kiss my ass and stay home with your kids.

Plus to infinity!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To DILs, kiss my ass and stay home with your kids.

Plus to infinity!

Well, now your room at Serenity Springs won't have a window, Trudy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grandparents: for the most part, we love and appreciate them. However, it's probably fair to say most of us have received unsolicited parenting advice. So maybe here in this little corner of the Internet, we can fantasize about giving unsolicited Grandparenting advice.

Lifted from another thread:

Anonymous wrote:
Grandparents, take note: if a parent is within eyesight/earshot of the child, and is actively parenting them, you don't need to pile on with the instructions and corrections. I don't need my FIL barking "put that down!" When I have JUST said it. Kids don't need three adults telling them the same thing at the same time.

Well, if you just told kid to "put it down" and he/she doesn't then you are not patenting. My house, my rules and I do not care whether you likebitbir not. I bet when your GIL "barked" your precious snowflake put it down.

Why are you yelling at OP several months later? Why did you people dredge up this old thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To my mom: We love how much you enjoy cooking for us, but no, my kids won't eat 5-alarm chili or pan seared scallops and I'm not going to make them.

PS- also stop putting pickle relish in the tuna salad. No one likes that!

Lots of dill pickle relish in the tuna salad is the only way to eat it. Just sayin'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To DILs, kiss my ass and stay home with your kids.

Plus to infinity!

Well, now your room at Serenity Springs won't have a window, Trudy!

HA! Exactly.

Grandma:"My fingers are tired."
Warden: "Well now your back is gonna be tired because you just landed landscaping duty".
(thanks Happy Gilmore)

[Anonymous]

Stop playing makeup and princess with my girls and only talking about the way they look instead of what's inside. Oh and teaching them to flirt with the guards (how to look helpless and blink their eyes) at various places so those guards bend the rules. It's affecting them. I thought we were on the same side of wanting confident, independent girls.