Anti-Indian sentiment on DCUM

[Anonymous]

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None of this shit is getting anyone into TJ.

Beat me to it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just find them soooooooo annoying. I am white married to an Indian guy.

You've posted similar statements before. Every, single time I feel so sorry for your half Indian children who will face the same discrimination and prejudices from society and their own mother.

Umm I've never posted on here about this Why can't I have an opinion? I've been to India 5 times. I stayed for a month each time, spending time in Mumbai, Goa, Delhi, and several other places on my way to the lower reaches of the Himalayas. For all I know my kids will turn out damaged and horribly behaving adults. You never know.

The trait I have seen SO often— unabashed arrogance, their need to command center stage, to talk endlessly, to constantly interrupt, all from the beginning of an encounter to the end of an encounter. Indians rarely dialogue, they monologue. It is hard not to conclude that they see themselves as special, better, more knowledgeable about anything and everything than the person they find themselves with. I invariably come away from such conversations—if they can be called that—thinking of Indians as simply insufferable. And yet while I don’t why they are this way, I suspect it is very much bound up with India’s long rigid caste system, one in which privilege and the sense of entitlement and so much more have been determined by position in a stifling class hierarchy as formal and determining as any the world has ever known.

Can all Indians be characterized as I have drawn attention to them here? Certainly not. But, then, it is not without reason that Indians and Koreans and Americans and Jews and Arabs and Russians are often stereotyped. They are stereotyped because more often than not through experience we come to expect them to act in particular ways, and more often than not we are not disappointed.

Dear god I feel so sorry for your poor husband. Or is he as much of an asshole as you are?

Sounds like she's saying the same thing as the american born indians. Why don't you attack them too.

[Anonymous]

Google Darkmatter rage. They scare me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have interacted with students of many different nationalities over the years, and it seems to me that Indian and some Pakistani boys are especially spoiled compared to other boys and Indian girls. They were very class conscious and extremely reluctant to engage in any activities that they consider below them. I do feel sorry for Indian women married to Indian men who end up having to work and the. also take care of both their own family and their extended families. It must be a very heavy burden to bear.

No, actually it is very nice to be married to Indian husbands. They are good providers, good fathers and loyal. I actually feel bad for women married to White men. They are always on the lookout to cheat on their wives, they are not good providers, they are selfish and they divorce their older wives and get new models. I think it is a very heavy burden to wear. I find white women always desperately trying to lose weight and go for plastic surgery to fix their bodies and looks, because their husbands find them frumpy and unattractive after they have babies. White men are emotionally cold and it must be a nightmare being married to them.

White men find it easy to walk away from their kids when they divorce. They also may or may not provide for the college education of their kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have interacted with students of many different nationalities over the years, and it seems to me that Indian and some Pakistani boys are especially spoiled compared to other boys and Indian girls. They were very class conscious and extremely reluctant to engage in any activities that they consider below them. I do feel sorry for Indian women married to Indian men who end up having to work and the. also take care of both their own family and their extended families. It must be a very heavy burden to bear.

No, actually it is very nice to be married to Indian husbands. They are good providers, good fathers and loyal. I actually feel bad for women married to White men. They are always on the lookout to cheat on their wives, they are not good providers, they are selfish and they divorce their older wives and get new models. I think it is a very heavy burden to wear. I find white women always desperately trying to lose weight and go for plastic surgery to fix their bodies and looks, because their husbands find them frumpy and unattractive after they have babies. White men are emotionally cold and it must be a nightmare being married to them.

White men find it easy to walk away from their kids when they divorce. They also may or may not provide for the college education of their kids.

Hahaha lots of Indian guys cheat. I met tons on seeking arrangement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have noticed that people post about the crimes against women in India. They're pretty terrible and should be discussed. I think a lot of human rights abuses happen in other countries. No harm in discussing them. Someone might decide to do something if it strikes a nerve.

I don't really know much about Indian people as a whole. I know quite a few people from India, but they don't have a lot of similarities beyond their food and skin color. I suspect a lot of people are unable to tell the difference between Indians and people from other middle eastern countries.

India is nowhere near the Middle East. WTF.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just find them soooooooo annoying. I am white married to an Indian guy.

You've posted similar statements before. Every, single time I feel so sorry for your half Indian children who will face the same discrimination and prejudices from society and their own mother.

+1 I'm not Indian. Why did you marry him if you find him annoying since you stated "them"?

Because she married one Indian and not the entire county. I married a Bangladeshi guy and can somewhat understand her side. Social gatherings can be annoying for me. I feel south asians ask personal questions without batting an eye. Frequently I have encountered questions like , "where did you do your MS degree?" This is before they know anything about my job and often right after saying "hello". A few times I got asked, "do your parents know you two married?" This is extremely rude. How is the world could I get married without my family knowing? Maybe they just want to hear the story of how we got married . I don't know... When you're meeting some for the first time there is no need to ask about her parents education /career. These conservations are just awkward. Overall though I can't complain as my husband is wonderful and his family is very supportive. I've just experienced some annoying / nosy questions at parties.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have noticed that people post about the crimes against women in India. They're pretty terrible and should be discussed. I think a lot of human rights abuses happen in other countries. No harm in discussing them. Someone might decide to do something if it strikes a nerve.

I don't really know much about Indian people as a whole. I know quite a few people from India, but they don't have a lot of similarities beyond their food and skin color. I suspect a lot of people are unable to tell the difference between Indians and people from other middle eastern countries.

India is nowhere near the Middle East. WTF.

so they can still look alike.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just find them soooooooo annoying. I am white married to an Indian guy.

You've posted similar statements before. Every, single time I feel so sorry for your half Indian children who will face the same discrimination and prejudices from society and their own mother.

+1 I'm not Indian. Why did you marry him if you find him annoying since you stated "them"?

Because she married one Indian and not the entire county. I married a Bangladeshi guy and can somewhat understand her side. Social gatherings can be annoying for me. I feel south asians ask personal questions without batting an eye. Frequently I have encountered questions like , "where did you do your MS degree?" This is before they know anything about my job and often right after saying "hello". A few times I got asked, "do your parents know you two married?" This is extremely rude. How is the world could I get married without my family knowing? Maybe they just want to hear the story of how we got married . I don't know... When you're meeting some for the first time there is no need to ask about her parents education /career. These conservations are just awkward. Overall though I can't complain as my husband is wonderful and his family is very supportive. I've just experienced some annoying / nosy questions at parties.

Indians are all about figuring out who is "higher" or "lower" -- that's done based on education, profession, and parents' profession. If you can say you're an ivy educated lawyer, doctor, or banker - your stock is way higher than if you say you're in middle management for a 10 person company and got your English degree at Towson. It's low brow but that's just how it is -- they don't try to be subtle about it either. I'm 2nd gen Indian, went to an Indian wedding weekend and had started a new job in a new city and was asked about it approximately 56 times during the weekend. One relative was crude enough to say - isn't that job a step down?? No jerk off - I applied for and accepted a job I wanted, sorry I didn't call to ask your opinion first.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's success. White people hate groups that are more successful than they are and accumulate wealth.

BINGO!

You mean like the millions of rich Indians in the slums of Mumbai?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have interacted with students of many different nationalities over the years, and it seems to me that Indian and some Pakistani boys are especially spoiled compared to other boys and Indian girls. They were very class conscious and extremely reluctant to engage in any activities that they consider below them. I do feel sorry for Indian women married to Indian men who end up having to work and the. also take care of both their own family and their extended families. It must be a very heavy burden to bear.

No, actually it is very nice to be married to Indian husbands. They are good providers, good fathers and loyal. I actually feel bad for women married to White men. They are always on the lookout to cheat on their wives, they are not good providers, they are selfish and they divorce their older wives and get new models. I think it is a very heavy burden to wear. I find white women always desperately trying to lose weight and go for plastic surgery to fix their bodies and looks, because their husbands find them frumpy and unattractive after they have babies. White men are emotionally cold and it must be a nightmare being married to them.

White men find it easy to walk away from their kids when they divorce. They also may or may not provide for the college education of their kids.

Hahaha lots of Indian guys cheat. I met tons on seeking arrangement.

Indian guys LOVE strip clubs!

[Anonymous]

There an anti-everything sentiment in DCUM. Rest assured if you are/like/do anything, someone else on this website judges you harshly for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's success. White people hate groups that are more successful than they are and accumulate wealth.

BINGO!

You mean like the millions of rich Indians in the slums of Mumbai?

We are talking about the people here. A lot of them *here* are wealthy and successful. OP doesn't have interaction with people from the slums of Mumbai.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just find them soooooooo annoying. I am white married to an Indian guy.

You've posted similar statements before. Every, single time I feel so sorry for your half Indian children who will face the same discrimination and prejudices from society and their own mother.

Umm I've never posted on here about this Why can't I have an opinion? I've been to India 5 times. I stayed for a month each time, spending time in Mumbai, Goa, Delhi, and several other places on my way to the lower reaches of the Himalayas. For all I know my kids will turn out damaged and horribly behaving adults. You never know.

The trait I have seen SO often— unabashed arrogance, their need to command center stage, to talk endlessly, to constantly interrupt, all from the beginning of an encounter to the end of an encounter. Indians rarely dialogue, they monologue. It is hard not to conclude that they see themselves as special, better, more knowledgeable about anything and everything than the person they find themselves with. I invariably come away from such conversations—if they can be called that—thinking of Indians as simply insufferable. And yet while I don’t why they are this way, I suspect it is very much bound up with India’s long rigid caste system, one in which privilege and the sense of entitlement and so much more have been determined by position in a stifling class hierarchy as formal and determining as any the world has ever known.

Can all Indians be characterized as I have drawn attention to them here? Certainly not. But, then, it is not without reason that Indians and Koreans and Americans and Jews and Arabs and Russians are often stereotyped. They are stereotyped because more often than not through experience we come to expect them to act in particular ways, and more often than not we are not disappointed.

Dear god I feel so sorry for your poor husband. Or is he as much of an asshole as you are?

Oh please, all the Indian Americans are saying the exact same thing. Why aren't you indignantly huffing and puffing at them too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just find them soooooooo annoying. I am white married to an Indian guy.

You've posted similar statements before. Every, single time I feel so sorry for your half Indian children who will face the same discrimination and prejudices from society and their own mother.

+1 I'm not Indian. Why did you marry him if you find him annoying since you stated "them"?

Because she married one Indian and not the entire county. I married a Bangladeshi guy and can somewhat understand her side. Social gatherings can be annoying for me. I feel south asians ask personal questions without batting an eye. Frequently I have encountered questions like , "where did you do your MS degree?" This is before they know anything about my job and often right after saying "hello". A few times I got asked, "do your parents know you two married?" This is extremely rude. How is the world could I get married without my family knowing? Maybe they just want to hear the story of how we got married . I don't know... When you're meeting some for the first time there is no need to ask about her parents education /career. These conservations are just awkward. Overall though I can't complain as my husband is wonderful and his family is very supportive. I've just experienced some annoying / nosy questions at parties.

Indians are all about figuring out who is "higher" or "lower" -- that's done based on education, profession, and parents' profession. If you can say you're an ivy educated lawyer, doctor, or banker - your stock is way higher than if you say you're in middle management for a 10 person company and got your English degree at Towson. It's low brow but that's just how it is -- they don't try to be subtle about it either. I'm 2nd gen Indian, went to an Indian wedding weekend and had started a new job in a new city and was asked about it approximately 56 times during the weekend. One relative was crude enough to say - isn't that job a step down?? No jerk off - I applied for and accepted a job I wanted, sorry I didn't call to ask your opinion first.

hahah I also wanted to add that some of the south asian women trying to "figure me out" BTW I later found out were housewives. I found it funny that they are so judgmental about peoples career path ... very ironic .