Anti-Indian sentiment on DCUM

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Anonymous wrote:I just find them soooooooo annoying. I am white married to an Indian guy.

You've posted similar statements before. Every, single time I feel so sorry for your half Indian children who will face the same discrimination and prejudices from society and their own mother.

Umm I've never posted on here about this Why can't I have an opinion? I've been to India 5 times. I stayed for a month each time, spending time in Mumbai, Goa, Delhi, and several other places on my way to the lower reaches of the Himalayas. For all I know my kids will turn out damaged and horribly behaving adults. You never know.

The trait I have seen SO often— unabashed arrogance, their need to command center stage, to talk endlessly, to constantly interrupt, all from the beginning of an encounter to the end of an encounter. Indians rarely dialogue, they monologue. It is hard not to conclude that they see themselves as special, better, more knowledgeable about anything and everything than the person they find themselves with. I invariably come away from such conversations—if they can be called that—thinking of Indians as simply insufferable. And yet while I don’t why they are this way, I suspect it is very much bound up with India’s long rigid caste system, one in which privilege and the sense of entitlement and so much more have been determined by position in a stifling class hierarchy as formal and determining as any the world has ever known.

Can all Indians be characterized as I have drawn attention to them here? Certainly not. But, then, it is not without reason that Indians and Koreans and Americans and Jews and Arabs and Russians are often stereotyped. They are stereotyped because more often than not through experience we come to expect them to act in particular ways, and more often than not we are not disappointed.

Yes, exactly. Most Indians I know are very intelligent and intense and tend to talk fast.

Funny, Im Indian married to a jew. I was going to call you out for being an asshole for yr first message, but I kind of get what you're saying here. Yes, talking a lot and arrogance do seem to be common among my relatives, but they are also funny, smart, witty, well read, etc. in many ways similar to many American Jews that way. Think Mindy Kaling. I think the Western notion of Indian people being self effacing, spiritual, non materialistic, conformist, earnest computer programmers is further off base.

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Anonymous wrote:I just find them soooooooo annoying. I am white married to an Indian guy.

You've posted similar statements before. Every, single time I feel so sorry for your half Indian children who will face the same discrimination and prejudices from society and their own mother.

Umm I've never posted on here about this Why can't I have an opinion? I've been to India 5 times. I stayed for a month each time, spending time in Mumbai, Goa, Delhi, and several other places on my way to the lower reaches of the Himalayas. For all I know my kids will turn out damaged and horribly behaving adults. You never know.

The trait I have seen SO often— unabashed arrogance, their need to command center stage, to talk endlessly, to constantly interrupt, all from the beginning of an encounter to the end of an encounter. Indians rarely dialogue, they monologue. It is hard not to conclude that they see themselves as special, better, more knowledgeable about anything and everything than the person they find themselves with. I invariably come away from such conversations—if they can be called that—thinking of Indians as simply insufferable. And yet while I don’t why they are this way, I suspect it is very much bound up with India’s long rigid caste system, one in which privilege and the sense of entitlement and so much more have been determined by position in a stifling class hierarchy as formal and determining as any the world has ever known.

Can all Indians be characterized as I have drawn attention to them here? Certainly not. But, then, it is not without reason that Indians and Koreans and Americans and Jews and Arabs and Russians are often stereotyped. They are stereotyped because more often than not through experience we come to expect them to act in particular ways, and more often than not we are not disappointed.

Funny, Im Indian married to a jew. I was going to call you out for being an asshole for yr first message, but I kind of get what you're saying here. Yes, talking a lot and arrogance do seem to be common among my relatives, but they are also funny, smart, witty, well read, etc. in many ways similar to many American Jews that way. Think Mindy Kaling. I think the Western notion of Indian people being self effacing, spiritual, non materialistic, conformist, earnest computer programmers is further off base.

NP - sorry but not from my exp.

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Anonymous wrote:I have interacted with students of many different nationalities over the years, and it seems to me that Indian and some Pakistani boys are especially spoiled compared to other boys and Indian girls. They were very class conscious and extremely reluctant to engage in any activities that they consider below them. I do feel sorry for Indian women married to Indian men who end up having to work and the. also take care of both their own family and their extended families. It must be a very heavy burden to bear.

No, actually it is very nice to be married to Indian husbands. They are good providers, good fathers and loyal. I actually feel bad for women married to White men. They are always on the lookout to cheat on their wives, they are not good providers, they are selfish and they divorce their older wives and get new models. I think it is a very heavy burden to wear. I find white women always desperately trying to lose weight and go for plastic surgery to fix their bodies and looks, because their husbands find them frumpy and unattractive after they have babies. White men are emotionally cold and it must be a nightmare being married to them.

White men find it easy to walk away from their kids when they divorce. They also may or may not provide for the college education of their kids.

Hahaha lots of Indian guys cheat. I met tons on seeking arrangement.

Indian guys LOVE strip clubs!

hahahhaha These guys usually come in pairs. Fresh from India, they sit at the stage and don’t tip. They try to touch you, and on the off chance that they do buy a dance, chances are they’ll pull out their cock and expect a blow job. Just remember that strip clubs in India are basically brothels.


indian-american guy here - i nor my brother nor my dad has ever been to one and don't care to go.

Grammar Police are always needed in the Indian related threads!

Sure but then many Indians speak the Queen's English and think you speak like a hillbilly. See how that works?

Indians speak the Queen's English?! Bahaha. Thanks for the laugh.

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Anonymous wrote:I have interacted with students of many different nationalities over the years, and it seems to me that Indian and some Pakistani boys are especially spoiled compared to other boys and Indian girls. They were very class conscious and extremely reluctant to engage in any activities that they consider below them. I do feel sorry for Indian women married to Indian men who end up having to work and the. also take care of both their own family and their extended families. It must be a very heavy burden to bear.

No, actually it is very nice to be married to Indian husbands. They are good providers, good fathers and loyal. I actually feel bad for women married to White men. They are always on the lookout to cheat on their wives, they are not good providers, they are selfish and they divorce their older wives and get new models. I think it is a very heavy burden to wear. I find white women always desperately trying to lose weight and go for plastic surgery to fix their bodies and looks, because their husbands find them frumpy and unattractive after they have babies. White men are emotionally cold and it must be a nightmare being married to them.

White men find it easy to walk away from their kids when they divorce. They also may or may not provide for the college education of their kids.

Hahaha lots of Indian guys cheat. I met tons on seeking arrangement.

Indian guys LOVE strip clubs!

hahahhaha These guys usually come in pairs. Fresh from India, they sit at the stage and don’t tip. They try to touch you, and on the off chance that they do buy a dance, chances are they’ll pull out their cock and expect a blow job. Just remember that strip clubs in India are basically brothels.

Indian-american guy here - I nor my brother nor my dad has ever been to one and don't care to go.

I think Indian-american guy above is telling the truth. Most Indian- American men do not go to strip clubs. So, he genuinely may not know if some Indian-American men go to strip clubs. (Plus, he is so sincere and can vouch for entire clan! A lovable Indian trait. ).

But, I believe that there are stripclubs and that they are visited by Indian and Indian-American men. So, all the posters I have tagged by green smiley faces (henceforth referred to as MG or Mr. Green) are probably telling the truth.

If the MG posters are guys - they are either visiting the strip clubs as customers, or are bouncers at the clubs, or are club owners or the featured acts. They are actually commenting on Indian behaviour (hello, two dudes going together to a strip club and making sure they get their money's worth - an Indian trait of camaraderie and frugality. They probably split the cost of gas as well on the way to the club. Another smart Indian trait!)

If the MG posters are women - they are probably are the featured acts. You see, many American women work in strip clubs to 1) either pay their college bills because the parents don't or 2) since they were poor students in school this is the only job they can get. Did you notice the one who mentioned "meeting Indian men in seeking arrangements?". That one is definitely a sex worker.

In contrast - Indian men have probably gone to college, have advanced degrees and high incomes. They can spend some cash on naked white women.

Is this cheating if they are married men? I think the answer is a bit more complicated.

Well, since Indian men love sex a lot(Hello? Kamasutra?) and love watching naked women and none of the Indian-American women are working as strippers (since their parents paid for their Ivy Education in STEM fields and they are brilliant because of their genes, parental involvement and Goddess Saraswati), and Sunny Leone is now in India - they have no choice but to come to American strip clubs. Because the taste of Indian men run towards a bit more voluptuous women and not stick figure plastic Barbie dolls, they are really just making do.

Also, they are spreading their wealth around a bit, because they can afford it (Thanks to Goddess Laxmi), and they really do not want the economy to go to the dogs.

I rest my case.

Ha ha -- hilarious! I just wanted to add to the bolded that they probably snuck in paratha rolls and cans of Coke to save some money on the food.

...since we are reviving this dead thread...might as well use the previous posts effectively...

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Many Indians are quite racist.

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Anonymous wrote:Many Indians are quite racist.

So are the whites as demonstrated so well on this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:To all those posters whose Indian parents came over in the 60s and are lamenting the loss of the "real" Indian values in Indian kids today...I've got news for you. Those 2000s kids are the real Indians. Your parents are frozen in time and nobody in India is like that anymore. I say this as someone who came to the US for undergrad in 2001. I still have all my family in India, visit every year unlike very old Indian immigrants who don't have much to do with the country anymore.

Actually most of that generation visits every year because they now have the money to do so. They didn't before. The generation that came over in the 60s worked hard to get here. The generation that came over in the 2000s came over because they have rich families that could afford to send them here (people like you - what other 20 something can afford to go back to India every year?).

Not PP, bu another 20s indian who came here on a full scholarship and saved carefully so I could go to India every year. Tickets to India are not very expensive you know. Less expensive than half a dozen shabby-chic dresses you probably buy at Anthro.

Wonderful how this thread went for others hating on Indians to Indians hating on Indians?

For the record, those that came here in the 60s and 70s mostly came with nothing. $8 in the case of my parents. They didn't get full scholarships to American universities, they were granted visas to fill the science and medical void that was here at the time so they came to work their asses off and hope for a better life for their kids. India was only a couple of decades out of colonialism and the prospects for the new country were not moving very fast. They felt the pangs of colonialism and the growing pains (and wars) of a new country.

When you have nothing and you come to a new country (without the knowledge that we can now get from Google and the Internet), where pretty much no one you know has ever been to and you know no one in that new country- your immediate NEED is survival. Not saving up spare dollars for yearly trips to India when air travel was not as common and WAY more expensive than it is now. This was back when people actually dressed up in the best clothes for that international flight, not comfy leggings and a hoodie.

These were the people that paved the path for you. They set up Indian restaurants, Indian grocery stores, temples, etc. That sent money back home, they saved pennies to file for their brothers and sisters to come here.

Hate on the "older" generation and Indian American kids all you want, but without them you wouldn't have the opportunities you now do.

+1,000,000.

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Anonymous wrote:Many Indians are quite racist.

So are the whites as demonstrated so well on this thread.

So whites and Indians are racist.

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Anonymous wrote:Many Indians are quite racist.

So are the whites as demonstrated so well on this thread.

So whites and Indians are racist.

So... everyone's a little bit racist?

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Anonymous wrote:Many Indians are quite racist.

So are the whites as demonstrated so well on this thread.

But you could see how both a white person and an African American might be entertained by a racist Indian

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Well considering the amount of racist posts on DCUM towards

Blacks
Indians
Hispanics
East Asians
Hmm, pretty much anyone that's not Anglo White American.

We can guess which group wins the most racist group prize.

Congrats!!

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Anonymous wrote:I just find them soooooooo annoying. I am white married to an Indian guy.

You've posted similar statements before. Every, single time I feel so sorry for your half Indian children who will face the same discrimination and prejudices from society and their own mother.

Umm I've never posted on here about this Why can't I have an opinion? I've been to India 5 times. I stayed for a month each time, spending time in Mumbai, Goa, Delhi, and several other places on my way to the lower reaches of the Himalayas. For all I know my kids will turn out damaged and horribly behaving adults. You never know.

The trait I have seen SO often— unabashed arrogance, their need to command center stage, to talk endlessly, to constantly interrupt, all from the beginning of an encounter to the end of an encounter. Indians rarely dialogue, they monologue. It is hard not to conclude that they see themselves as special, better, more knowledgeable about anything and everything than the person they find themselves with. I invariably come away from such conversations—if they can be called that—thinking of Indians as simply insufferable. And yet while I don’t why they are this way, I suspect it is very much bound up with India’s long rigid caste system, one in which privilege and the sense of entitlement and so much more have been determined by position in a stifling class hierarchy as formal and determining as any the world has ever known.

Can all Indians be characterized as I have drawn attention to them here? Certainly not. But, then, it is not without reason that Indians and Koreans and Americans and Jews and Arabs and Russians are often stereotyped. They are stereotyped because more often than not through experience we come to expect them to act in particular ways, and more often than not we are not disappointed.

Funny, Im Indian married to a jew. I was going to call you out for being an asshole for yr first message, but I kind of get what you're saying here. Yes, talking a lot and arrogance do seem to be common among my relatives, but they are also funny, smart, witty, well read, etc. in many ways similar to many American Jews that way. Think Mindy Kaling. I think the Western notion of Indian people being self effacing, spiritual, non materialistic, conformist, earnest computer programmers is further off base.

NP - sorry but not from my exp.

It is a country of over a billion people and tens of millions more living out of India. I'm sure your experience has been vast .

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Anonymous wrote:I just find them soooooooo annoying. I am white married to an Indian guy.

You've posted similar statements before. Every, single time I feel so sorry for your half Indian children who will face the same discrimination and prejudices from society and their own mother.

Umm I've never posted on here about this Why can't I have an opinion? I've been to India 5 times. I stayed for a month each time, spending time in Mumbai, Goa, Delhi, and several other places on my way to the lower reaches of the Himalayas. For all I know my kids will turn out damaged and horribly behaving adults. You never know.

The trait I have seen SO often— unabashed arrogance, their need to command center stage, to talk endlessly, to constantly interrupt, all from the beginning of an encounter to the end of an encounter. Indians rarely dialogue, they monologue. It is hard not to conclude that they see themselves as special, better, more knowledgeable about anything and everything than the person they find themselves with. I invariably come away from such conversations—if they can be called that—thinking of Indians as simply insufferable. And yet while I don’t why they are this way, I suspect it is very much bound up with India’s long rigid caste system, one in which privilege and the sense of entitlement and so much more have been determined by position in a stifling class hierarchy as formal and determining as any the world has ever known.

Can all Indians be characterized as I have drawn attention to them here? Certainly not. But, then, it is not without reason that Indians and Koreans and Americans and Jews and Arabs and Russians are often stereotyped. They are stereotyped because more often than not through experience we come to expect them to act in particular ways, and more often than not we are not disappointed.

Funny, Im Indian married to a jew. I was going to call you out for being an asshole for yr first message, but I kind of get what you're saying here. Yes, talking a lot and arrogance do seem to be common among my relatives, but they are also funny, smart, witty, well read, etc. in many ways similar to many American Jews that way. Think Mindy Kaling. I think the Western notion of Indian people being self effacing, spiritual, non materialistic, conformist, earnest computer programmers is further off base.

NP - sorry but not from my exp.

It is a country of over a billion people and tens of millions more living out of India. I'm sure your experience has been vast .

Ha but there are a NOT billion Indians in the US

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Anonymous wrote:I just find them soooooooo annoying. I am white married to an Indian guy.

You've posted similar statements before. Every, single time I feel so sorry for your half Indian children who will face the same discrimination and prejudices from society and their own mother.

Umm I've never posted on here about this Why can't I have an opinion? I've been to India 5 times. I stayed for a month each time, spending time in Mumbai, Goa, Delhi, and several other places on my way to the lower reaches of the Himalayas. For all I know my kids will turn out damaged and horribly behaving adults. You never know.

The trait I have seen SO often— unabashed arrogance, their need to command center stage, to talk endlessly, to constantly interrupt, all from the beginning of an encounter to the end of an encounter. Indians rarely dialogue, they monologue. It is hard not to conclude that they see themselves as special, better, more knowledgeable about anything and everything than the person they find themselves with. I invariably come away from such conversations—if they can be called that—thinking of Indians as simply insufferable. And yet while I don’t why they are this way, I suspect it is very much bound up with India’s long rigid caste system, one in which privilege and the sense of entitlement and so much more have been determined by position in a stifling class hierarchy as formal and determining as any the world has ever known.

Can all Indians be characterized as I have drawn attention to them here? Certainly not. But, then, it is not without reason that Indians and Koreans and Americans and Jews and Arabs and Russians are often stereotyped. They are stereotyped because more often than not through experience we come to expect them to act in particular ways, and more often than not we are not disappointed.

Funny, Im Indian married to a jew. I was going to call you out for being an asshole for yr first message, but I kind of get what you're saying here. Yes, talking a lot and arrogance do seem to be common among my relatives, but they are also funny, smart, witty, well read, etc. in many ways similar to many American Jews that way. Think Mindy Kaling. I think the Western notion of Indian people being self effacing, spiritual, non materialistic, conformist, earnest computer programmers is further off base.

NP - sorry but not from my exp.

It is a country of over a billion people and tens of millions more living out of India. I'm sure your experience has been vast .

Ha but there are a NOT billion Indians in the US

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