Coparenting with a difficult parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:in the mean time.. this is something i have done with DC in a similar situation: I write loving notes labeled Good night, baby! and Good morning, baby! and just one sentence. I ask her to open it before bed and as soon as she wakes up. She loves it, it's our special thing. Now she writes notes to me too either before she leaves or when she comes back.
If DC is not old enough to read, you can draw something, Totally worth it!

That's nice. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so upset right and really sick of dealing with this. My child is now 3years old and its been 3 years of the same crap. Whenever its his weekend he always finds reasons to argue to get me upset. If I text regarding our child he will not respond back. If I call he finds ways to pick arguments. Tonight I text, two hours later no response. I decided to call he picks up the phone and pretends that he did not pick our child up from daycare today. Then he goes I have him and I do not feel like talking to you right now so bye. This is something that he always does. Very rude and I am tired I am really am. I need help. I need some advise.

YOU NEED A COURT MANDATED PSYCHOLOGICAL EVALUATION PRONTO. He will either back off or will be locked up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Minimize contact. Let him have his weekends without calling to say goodnight. Your child will be fine without a reminder that you are not together and your ex will not view it as checking up on him.

Exactly!

I had the opposite situation when my child was that age. His father would call and nicely, politely ask how I was doing. But I despised him so much that I hated even that pleasantry. I didn't want to talk to him, felt that how I was doing was none of his business and couldn't wait for the day he could talk to my child directly.

It seems that for whatever reason, the ex wants nothing to do with you. So keep your contacts minimal and conversations brief and about the child ONLY. With the advent of email and texting, there's no need to even call. It sounds as though you have a set arrangement so email or text what he needs to know ahead of time.

Receiving a text (which were not readily at our fingertips when my child was that young) or friendly call from my ex would've annoyed the heck out of me. I wanted NOTHING to do with him!

[Anonymous]

Just wait until your kids are in the teenage years. That uncooperative other parent only gets worse. That's how it's been for me anyway. Hopefully this is not the case for you, OP.

It sucks to be wide awake with stomach in knots 15 years after you left him bc he still hasn't figured out to behave like a human being. I feel like I've spent much of my kids' lives wishing they'd grow up so I had absolutely no reason to deal with him. Horrible, guilt-inducing feeling.

[Anonymous]

Stop calling. I don't hear from mine for days. It's ok, he is with his dad, not with strangers.
You've been doing the same thing for 3 years? Stop it. the only calls are the pick-up, drop-off and emergency calls.