Why is being fat okay but being thin isnt?

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Anonymous wrote:People (women) definitely thin shame other women very openly.

I've always been on the thin side -- barely holding on to an 18 BMI -- and due to some stresses in the last few yrs, I lost even more weight. It was not planned or intentional; I did not/do not have an eating disorder; and I am slowing gaining it back.

Yet certain women see nothing wrong with commenting openly -- EVEN when they know life has been rough, they don't think that maybe my general unhappiness has had an effect on my physical health. I went out to drinks w 2 friends last week. At drinks they ended up ordering appetizers; I ate some but not much, and in the span of like 90 minutes they made at least 5-6 comments about "oh you don't eat," "you need to eat more." It was awkward -- bc if I COULD eat more, I would but I also don't feel like I have to discuss health specifics with friends.

If the situation was reversed, they wouldn't have said "oh you really wolfed down those apps."

You're assuming the fat person would have wolfed down their food. My 22 year old had a BMI of 21 and she out eats me at every single meal (4 slices of pizza when I have 2, 2 cups of ice cream when I have a 1/2 cup). She always has 2 apps when when we go out plus an entree. I'm the one with the glacially slow metabolism that people can't believe eats only 1200 calories.

I have no idea what your point is -- I'm just saying that people don't feel ok saying to an overweight person "wow you really finished off those appetizers, how do you eat so much," whereas saying to an underweight person "you don't eat -- I don't understand it" is much more common and people think it's perfectly ok. In either case you are pointing out a body function/body flaw that the person may or may not be comfortable discussing.

I can't believe people actually insinuating that it is difficult to be thin in society as it is to be overweight. And no I'm not fat.