Why is being fat okay but being thin isnt?

[Anonymous]

I think you are projecting.

[Anonymous]

OP, I know what you mean. If someone is thin, it is socially okay to point that out and say "you're too thin!". If someone is overweight it would be completely rude to say to their face "you're too fat!". I also find that overweight people are the ones pointing out that others are too thin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I know what you mean. If someone is thin, it is socially okay to point that out and say "you're too thin!". If someone is overweight it would be completely rude to say to their face "you're too fat!". I also find that overweight people are the ones pointing out that others are too thin.

About the only time I see someone who might qualify for that description is at the gym and they are usually muscular in a wiry sort of way. Other than that all one sees is women (and men) who are fat.

[Anonymous]

Oh seriously shut up.

[Anonymous]

I come from a family of excessively thin people - my BMI is just under 18 without exercising. I get where OP is coming from. I've been asked my entire life whether I was OK or encouraged to "just eat." Comments about my size happen at least once a week. It doesn't bother me, but people certainly feel that they can say it to my face (repeatedly) and would never say the converse about an overweight person. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel oppressed or anything, but it is definitely more acceptable to discuss a person being too thin very openly.

[Anonymous]

But I thought weight was a function of discipline, not genes, as DcUM is CONSTANTLY telling me?

Your thinness 8:46 is clearly a choice. And according to some, it makes you the happiest person in the room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I come from a family of excessively thin people - my BMI is just under 18 without exercising. I get where OP is coming from. I've been asked my entire life whether I was OK or encouraged to "just eat." Comments about my size happen at least once a week. It doesn't bother me, but people certainly feel that they can say it to my face (repeatedly) and would never say the converse about an overweight person. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel oppressed or anything, but it is definitely more acceptable to discuss a person being too thin very openly.

That is because thin is the ideal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've noticed a double standard where being overweight is called normal or "healthy" or "womanly" and being thin is considered disordered, sickly, frail, gross, etc. Women are way bigger on average than at any time in our past. I guess it's normalized now?

Um, next time You see a "thin shaming" thread, let us know, 'k?

There's one up now about a 'body gallery' website with pictures of real people of different heights and weights. The thin posters on the thread got slammed. The pictures of higher weight people were called sexy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I come from a family of excessively thin people - my BMI is just under 18 without exercising. I get where OP is coming from. I've been asked my entire life whether I was OK or encouraged to "just eat." Comments about my size happen at least once a week. It doesn't bother me, but people certainly feel that they can say it to my face (repeatedly) and would never say the converse about an overweight person. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel oppressed or anything, but it is definitely more acceptable to discuss a person being too thin very openly.

+1. It's really intrusive and violating to hear repeated comments about your body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I come from a family of excessively thin people - my BMI is just under 18 without exercising. I get where OP is coming from. I've been asked my entire life whether I was OK or encouraged to "just eat." Comments about my size happen at least once a week. It doesn't bother me, but people certainly feel that they can say it to my face (repeatedly) and would never say the converse about an overweight person. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel oppressed or anything, but it is definitely more acceptable to discuss a person being too thin very openly.

Be glad someone cared about you. Instead of just mocking your size. Yesterday, three teen boys yelled fat slurs at me from their bikes as I jogged in Sligo Creek Parkway.

[Anonymous]

I agree OP. I come from a family of very fat people, but they only talk about people who are normal weight and how they need to eat more. I think a lot of obese people have an obsession with food that's similar to anorexic's obsession with food. At least half our conversations are about food, what we're going to eat, losing weight and how much someone eats. Gah.

[Anonymous]

I wish we could just stop talking about weight altogether.

[Anonymous]

I agree. I am thin, and exercise and eat well, but I do enjoy the occasional burger or donut and whatnot. Comment I received yesterday as told my coworker about the EggMcMuffin and sausage I had eaten for breakfast: "But you're so skinny! How can you eat stuff like that? What's your secret?" I didn't really care (in the long run one egg mcmuffin and some sausage makes no one fat if it's only rarely) but yeah...you'd never ask a fat persone eating a salad, "What's your secret? You're eating something healthy, but you're still fat!" so why is it ok to do the same to a skinny person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish we could just stop talking about weight altogether.

Obesity is a huge health crisis in America. I think it's a very important discussion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I come from a family of excessively thin people - my BMI is just under 18 without exercising. I get where OP is coming from. I've been asked my entire life whether I was OK or encouraged to "just eat." Comments about my size happen at least once a week. It doesn't bother me, but people certainly feel that they can say it to my face (repeatedly) and would never say the converse about an overweight person. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel oppressed or anything, but it is definitely more acceptable to discuss a person being too thin very openly.

Be glad someone cared about you. Instead of just mocking your size. Yesterday, three teen boys yelled fat slurs at me from their bikes as I jogged in Sligo Creek Parkway.

+1. I'm fat, people either talk about me behind my back or shout things from cars as I exercise.