Why is being fat okay but being thin isnt?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I come from a family of excessively thin people - my BMI is just under 18 without exercising. I get where OP is coming from. I've been asked my entire life whether I was OK or encouraged to "just eat." Comments about my size happen at least once a week. It doesn't bother me, but people certainly feel that they can say it to my face (repeatedly) and would never say the converse about an overweight person. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel oppressed or anything, but it is definitely more acceptable to discuss a person being too thin very openly.

Be glad someone cared about you. Instead of just mocking your size. Yesterday, three teen boys yelled fat slurs at me from their bikes as I jogged in Sligo Creek Parkway.

Teenagers are assholes. But you see how it feels for a stranger to comment on your body negatively? That's what the thin PPs are talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I come from a family of excessively thin people - my BMI is just under 18 without exercising. I get where OP is coming from. I've been asked my entire life whether I was OK or encouraged to "just eat." Comments about my size happen at least once a week. It doesn't bother me, but people certainly feel that they can say it to my face (repeatedly) and would never say the converse about an overweight person. Don't get me wrong, I don't feel oppressed or anything, but it is definitely more acceptable to discuss a person being too thin very openly.

Be glad someone cared about you. Instead of just mocking your size. Yesterday, three teen boys yelled fat slurs at me from their bikes as I jogged in Sligo Creek Parkway.

Teenagers are assholes. But you see how it feels for a stranger to comment on your body negatively? That's what the thin PPs are talking about.

PP quoted here, and this is right. That sounds absolutely terrible, and I'm sorry someone did that to you! Concern definitely beats shaming, but implying that I have a mental illness regularly isn't ok either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree. I am thin, and exercise and eat well, but I do enjoy the occasional burger or donut and whatnot. Comment I received yesterday as told my coworker about the EggMcMuffin and sausage I had eaten for breakfast: "But you're so skinny! How can you eat stuff like that? What's your secret?" I didn't really care (in the long run one egg mcmuffin and some sausage makes no one fat if it's only rarely) but yeah...you'd never ask a fat persone eating a salad, "What's your secret? You're eating something healthy, but you're still fat!" so why is it ok to do the same to a skinny person?

Come ON. I'm not overweight but this is a ridiculous comment.

[Anonymous]

Oh my god.

[Anonymous]

Why are people so sensitive about their weight?

If you are fat, then do something about it? If it does not bother you then fine just stay fat ........... but don't get upset when people are judgmental about the appearance of a fat person.

BTW, I need to lose a few pounds but I don't feel that I am being accosted or denigrated if someone tells me that I need to lose weight especially if it is is said with regard to my health.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea what you're talking about, OP. Women sized 00-6 are the beauty ideal in our country.

[Anonymous]

Being too thin or too fat is a health concern. Is it anyone's place other than a doctor's to point that out to a person who is either too fat or too thin? I'd say no.

Fat people tend to get comment that are slurs or that otherwise impugn the person's moral fiber.

Thin people tend to get comments of concern, either about physical health or mental health.

A concerned comment beats a slur everyday, but really neither is appropriate.

OP's view that fat people get a pass, but thin people do not, really does not seem to correspond to what fat people experience everyday. And I say this as the mother of a daughter whose BMI is below anorexic level owing to a health condition. (Yes, exception to the above, mother here ranks with doctor in getting to express concern.)

[Anonymous]

To all the PPs discounting OP's experience, what about statements like "real women have curves"?

[Anonymous]

Is fat-shaming basically an attempt prevent people from pointing out that someone is fat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To all the PPs discounting OP's experience, what about statements like "real women have curves"?

You can be thin and have curves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thin used to be the norm. Now overweight is the norm.

This, so since most people are fat, they think it's normal and bash the people who aren't like them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thin used to be the norm. Now overweight is the norm.

This, so since most people are fat, they think it's normal and bash the people who aren't like them.

Do you complain about how hard it is, being white and all, since black people are given everything for free and racism is over?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To all the PPs discounting OP's experience, what about statements like "real women have curves"?

What about statements like "you're a fat pig" to anyone over a size 6?

[Anonymous]

People (women) definitely thin shame other women very openly.

I've always been on the thin side -- barely holding on to an 18 BMI -- and due to some stresses in the last few yrs, I lost even more weight. It was not planned or intentional; I did not/do not have an eating disorder; and I am slowing gaining it back.

Yet certain women see nothing wrong with commenting openly -- EVEN when they know life has been rough, they don't think that maybe my general unhappiness has had an effect on my physical health. I went out to drinks w 2 friends last week. At drinks they ended up ordering appetizers; I ate some but not much, and in the span of like 90 minutes they made at least 5-6 comments about "oh you don't eat," "you need to eat more." It was awkward -- bc if I COULD eat more, I would but I also don't feel like I have to discuss health specifics with friends.

If the situation was reversed, they wouldn't have said "oh you really wolfed down those apps."

[Anonymous]

I'm very thin, and only my overweight mom and sister shame me for it (which is 100% envy on their part). OP, you're delusional.