I had an emotional affair but now I'm ready to divorce my wife because she can't get over it

[Anonymous]

DH here who stupidly had an affair very early on and who has an amazing wife who forgave me. About to be married 20 years.

If you want this to work you are going to have to kiss a lot of ass and eat a lot of shit.

How much you ask? All of it

She gets to say when enough is enough

You can always leave though

If you two are not in couples therapy you need to start immediately

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Emotional affairs happen all the time ........ not really a big deal. Even the definition of what constitutes an emotional affair can vary.

There was someone at work that I really related to and we used to share lots of fairly intimate information about our respective lives. There was nothing physical although there certainly was attraction for me. But once we moved jobs, the closeness gradually diminished. We are still in touch with each other but not as close by any means.

This happened to me. Going through a lousy marriage and difficult family life. Had a great connection with a wonderful women. Intelligent, sexy, attractive, fun to be with. At first it was really only as friends but lately I have been falling for her. My wife has left and we are working through a separation with 2 kids. But with my friend, we hug and my heart skips a beat. I feel her body wrapped around me and I feel like a teenager. I am alive after going thru the demise of a long marriage, 10 years of darkness and stress. I look forward to meeting this woman, it just makes my day happy. I tingle inside. But she has already moved on to new men. And now I feel hurt when nothing actually existed. I wasn't able to move on her, not yet separated, but now I want to feel alive again.

She has already moved to new men? After you dumped your wife and kids for her? Awww, that's too too sad. I bet she didn't want the leftovers of your marriage...

Don't worry! There are lots of women ready to make you feel alive again and rescue you from the doldrums of regular life and the stress of a family and 2 kids. Since you will be paying child support for 2 kids, though, I doubt you will be able to afford them. Try craigslist casual encounters...plenty of pigs there will bang any pig that trundles their way!

Good luck!

A guy is sad because the chick he wanted to bang dissed him. He and his wife are divorcing because of his desire to bang another woman. Now he's sad because bang chick moved on to lusher grazing and more fertile fields.

And me pointing those facts put makes you have a boo-boo?

It's ok, we all have Obamacare now- your butt hurt is covered!

This was a truly unnecessary post. Can you please explain what it brings to our overall discussion of the thread?

How clever you are, little Hans! But I understood what the guy meant, I just didn't understand the relevance of your diatribe.

[Anonymous]

You must be a cheater too, since you are all pouty the karma bus ran over one of your fellow cheaters.

Chin up!

[Anonymous]

You must be a cheater too, since you are all pouty the karma bus ran over one of your fellow cheaters.

Chin up!

[Anonymous]

Bye Felicia

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Emotional affairs happen all the time ........ not really a big deal. Even the definition of what constitutes an emotional affair can vary.

There was someone at work that I really related to and we used to share lots of fairly intimate information about our respective lives. There was nothing physical although there certainly was attraction for me. But once we moved jobs, the closeness gradually diminished. We are still in touch with each other but not as close by any means.

Is there general agreement as to what constitutes an "emotional affair"?

Nope ....... as is evident from the responses. People bandy around a term and no one really knows what it means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Americans seem to have such a hard time, just walking away. I am not making fun of Americans and I am not suggesting that "just walking away" is the best solution to relationship problems. I think I am being as factual as possible when generalizing.

In many ways I admire this trait, compared to the "flexible" nature of northern Europeans in relationships. My husband is an American. Had I been him, I would have walked away from me a long time ago, many times.

Americans have hard time walking away from marriages because it's looked down upon by the society which is still quite religious compared to
more secular Europe, because of the divorce laws and because of the American dream and importance of projecting an image of a perfect family which is a house in suburbs, wife, kids, a dog or dogs or other pets, two cars.

[Anonymous]

Go ahead and divorce already. It is clear you don't have what it takes to be a sympathetic partner to your wife's distress, which you interpret as "punishing you" ..... you had full choice of carrying email footsie, unlike your wife.

You kept it a secret EA to remove her choice, but leave all your options open.

Now you're whining about your predicament.

Just leave already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bye Felicia

lol, u mad? Karma bus, party of 2!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bye Felicia

lol, u mad? Karma bus, party of 2!

Your mom is probably looking for her phone, you should give it back to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Bye Felicia

lol, u mad? Karma bus, party of 2!

Your mom is probably looking for her phone, you should give it back to her.

Lol! Says the dope who tried to appropriate the ghetto youth term, bye Felicia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Americans seem to have such a hard time, just walking away. I am not making fun of Americans and I am not suggesting that "just walking away" is the best solution to relationship problems. I think I am being as factual as possible when generalizing.

In many ways I admire this trait, compared to the "flexible" nature of northern Europeans in relationships. My husband is an American. Had I been him, I would have walked away from me a long time ago, many times.

Americans have hard time walking away from marriages because it's looked down upon by the society which is still quite religious compared to
more secular Europe, because of the divorce laws and because of the American dream and importance of projecting an image of a perfect family which is a house in suburbs, wife, kids, a dog or dogs or other pets, two cars.

Actually aren't divorce rates for most of Europe (Scandinavia excluded) lower than those in the USA?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you cheated on her and now you want to leave her because she's upset with you? You cannot be serious.

he can be serious. the wife either needs to get over it or divorce. he can't be apologizing forever.

[Anonymous]

I feel for you. My father had an affair and my mom could never get over it. They are still together 10 years later and I wish one of them would have left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Americans seem to have such a hard time, just walking away. I am not making fun of Americans and I am not suggesting that "just walking away" is the best solution to relationship problems. I think I am being as factual as possible when generalizing.

In many ways I admire this trait, compared to the "flexible" nature of northern Europeans in relationships. My husband is an American. Had I been him, I would have walked away from me a long time ago, many times.

Americans have hard time walking away from marriages because it's looked down upon by the society which is still quite religious compared to
more secular Europe, because of the divorce laws and because of the American dream and importance of projecting an image of a perfect family which is a house in suburbs, wife, kids, a dog or dogs or other pets, two cars.

Actually aren't divorce rates for most of Europe (Scandinavia excluded) lower than those in the USA?

it's actually the exact opposite. americans divorce much more than other rich nations, including canada, australia. it's because they want perfection, pursue ever more happiness etc.