My a**hole cousin announced my uncle's death on FB before his daughter knew

[Anonymous]

One of my cousins (and her two daughters) is like this. Her mother was seriously ill with cancer and there would be days we'd see endless posts about praying and how hard things were and so on and so on. It really upset members of the family - my other cousin (the offender's sister) was constantly pissed off at her sister). Older family members were furious.

Some people just revel in Facebook. They wanted all their "friends" - people who didn't even know or barely knew my aunt - to post and comment. It was pretty awful. My mother said to me more than once- if you treat my death like a public spectacle I will haunt you!

When my aunt did pass away, of course my stupid cousin had it on Facebook first. It had happened in the middle of the night and I saw in right in the morning and called my mom to tell her before she read it online.

[Anonymous]

Asshole Cousin is a redundant term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would never post anything related to death on facebook, but that's just me. I personally reach out to anyone I want to know.

Secondly, if I was comfortable with posting on FB, I would never post about someone who wasn't immediate family.

Facebook is evil.

+1. Also, condolences should not be sent by email or Facebook. They should be handwritten.

[Anonymous]

I still don't understand why no one woke the daughter up in the middle of the night to tell her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still don't understand why no one woke the daughter up in the middle of the night to tell her.

OP here. Her husband was 2 hours away. They didn't want to wake her up to hear that news while she was alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see how this is that bad? People should be able to post to facebook as they see fit.

This is as ridiculous as friends being upset they find out someone is pregnant from facebook instead of in person

Really?!?
My cousin posted to Facebook that my grandmother had died before my father had the chance to call me and tell me (under 24 hours we all live in the U.S.)
I thought it was extremely ridiculous and rude to post something about a family members death before the immediate family was told. Facebook is the worst wth this shit. I e been a big fan for years but I'm slowly backing away

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I still don't understand why no one woke the daughter up in the middle of the night to tell her.

OP here. Her husband was 2 hours away. They didn't want to wake her up to hear that news while she was alone.

Better than finding out on Facebook.

[Anonymous]

Not quite sure why it mattered that the daughter was alone. She could have used that time to process. I think you all were avoiding telling her, and then that backfired and you want to blame cousin.

Also, maybe your cousin wants support from her fb friends. Op I think your family is looking for something to bitch about.

[Anonymous]

What I don't understand about people who post these announcements is, do they expect their Facebook "friends" to "Like" the post. That seems a bit creepy to me, as in "I like the fact that your dad just died...."

[Anonymous]

That is bad behavior but the cousin relationship is too remote for me to care op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not quite sure why it mattered that the daughter was alone. She could have used that time to process. I think you all were avoiding telling her, and then that backfired and you want to blame cousin.

Also, maybe your cousin wants support from her fb friends. Op I think your family is looking for something to bitch about.

It was posted on FB two hours after it happened. You are ridiculous. My dad died suddenly and his sister lives in Europe. She was one of the first people I called but I waited until I knew she'd be up to do it.

If it's not your news to announce, don't post it on Facebook. If it's a death, a birth, a pregnancy, an engagement. If the people most directly impacted haven't put anything on there yet, don't be the first to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see nothing wrong with it. How would he know she didn't know. Facebook let her know, I think that's a good thing.,

Are you a millennial or just inept and clueless? It's not always all about YOU. Her father died unexpectedly and fb let her know, nbd, sure