My a**hole cousin announced my uncle's death on FB before his daughter knew
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Anonymous
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My stupid cousin took it upon herself to announce my uncle's death over Facebook before a majority of his family (including his own daughter) knew.
His daughter (my other cousin) lives in Beijing with her husband. My aunt (uncle's wife) called the husband, who was away for business and told him. He was to rush home to be with her, as she is completely alone in Beijing and didn't want her to find out and have nobody there with her. Before he could make it, my f**king cousin put up some BS tribute to him on Facebook. His daughter read it and that is how she found out her father died. I really want to throttle her. Why do people do things like this. She did this when another family member died and upset a lot of people. |
Anonymous
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I don't see how this is that bad? People should be able to post to facebook as they see fit.
This is as ridiculous as friends being upset they find out someone is pregnant from facebook instead of in person |
Anonymous
You don't see how it's bad someone finds out their parent died on Facebook? She couldn't have waited 24 hours? |
Anonymous
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Facebook is the worst. The worst.
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Anonymous
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OP, I agree very tacky. Although newspapers have the right to post information about deaths, even they have the tact to hold names pending family notification. I guess if it had been a day or two, cousin maybe had no idea that daughter wouldn't know yet...but I would think she would be mortified and very apologetic.
My GM did something similar when my aunt died unexpectedly -- called my father at work so that he could go home and tell my mother so that my mom wouldn't find out when she was home by herself with babies. That was ages before facebook, of course, but also good that no one else called my mom to express condolences before she had heard it from my dad. |
Anonymous
Are you from Mars? |
Anonymous
| I would rip her a new one. On Facebook. (Fair is fair) |
Anonymous
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OP here. People have torn her apart. She took it down.
She put it up 2 hours after he passed away. |
Anonymous
Agree. Evil. Deactivated my account and won't look back. |
Anonymous
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If the daughter's husband knew that his wife was on the internet, went on Facebook, etc. he should have broken the news to his wife over the phone immediately. He could have sent a friend over to comfort his wife.
Of course people are going to talk about the death of a loved one. Of course they are. I can't imagine expecting everyone to hold back speaking about it for a day or two because my husband hadn't gotten around to breaking the news to me. He should have CALLED his wife. Of course, hindsite is 20/20. That said, I'm very sorry about your uncle, Op. |
Anonymous
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I would never post anything related to death on facebook, but that's just me. I personally reach out to anyone I want to know.
Secondly, if I was comfortable with posting on FB, I would never post about someone who wasn't immediate family. Facebook is evil. |
Anonymous
| I cared for my grandpa before he died. It was comforting to me to post on facebook and to have my friends contact me, call and text. I do think most of my cousins/relatives knew before I posted. |
Anonymous
Funeral arrangements are posted on the internet. |
Anonymous
Yeah, by immediate family! |
Anonymous
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Did anyone tell your cousin that his daughter couldn't be told on the phone and had to wait until her husband got back from wherever he was?
Because if they didn't I don't think your cousin is an asshole. |