Manners 101 - what is important to you?

[Anonymous]

^run wild

[Anonymous]

Interrupting conversation habitually
Being late chronically
Failing to keep a commitment. As a PP said, emergency, fine. Every time, errrrrr no.
Farting
Belching
Overall sloppiness
Chewing food with mouth open
Failing to implement the old golden rule

[Anonymous]

Remember to say thank you
Smile when people smile at you
Say good morning
Be nice to old people

When visiting someones house, do not say that the living rooms new paint job is the color of pee
say congratulations to a pregnant woman
Do not point out that someone is wearing old or cheap clothing
At a wedding, do not say that that guest over there is wearing the same outfit they wore a year ago to a similar function
Do not be obviously snobbish
Do not ask people their salary or how much they paid for their house
Do not tell people that the deaf person sounds different when they talk because they are deaf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

ciaojenny wrote:OP here, I should have known better than to try to make a fun post.

Thank you to those that answered in the spirit of it all. FWIW I did indeed mean taking pride in ones appearance, just as stated in my OP and not any of what Miss Grouchypants accused me of.

I will add that I would love if actual mailed thank you letter came back. I still use them and the people receiving them must think I am rude because I don't send an immediate email

OP, in my book, you have exhibited really poor manners with your posts. And you don't realize it.

That's because OP seems to think that manners are all about how others treat her. Good manners are about how we treat others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

ciaojenny wrote:I find people who are habitually late extremely rude and self centered.

I think it depends on the reason - I have really horrible time awareness (I have ADHD) and struggle to transition from on thing to another, which often makes me late. For someone who thinks, "oh, it's no big deal if I'm 15 minutes late" and plans accordingly, that is rude. I am often a couple minutes late but it's because I have a harder time knowing how long something will take. I try to plan in cushions for myself (work backwards, if I think it will take me 15 minutes to get ready I start getting ready 30 mins before) but it still doesn't always work. Especially with 2 little ones.

I have ADHD And I am never late, stop using it as an excuse. There are ways to cope such as putting a reminder on your phone for up coming events (1 day out, the morning of, half hour before you need to leave, and make the appointment on your phone ten minutes early.

If you are not there five minutes early, you are late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interrupting conversation habitually
Being late chronically
Failing to keep a commitment. As a PP said, emergency, fine. Every time, errrrrr no.
Farting
Belching
Overall sloppiness
Chewing food with mouth open
Failing to implement the old golden rule

All of these plus, spitting.

There are times when sloppiness is ok, but those times are not when you are meeting people -- unless they are really good friends or close family, and even then, you need to be on vacation or something.

[Anonymous]

When you bring your 7 year old son into womens locker, instruct him to talk about that woman there with hair in that part of her body

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Does anyone ever feel that an OP could start a thread "I really like blue, it's a nice color" and people would still find a way to twist it so that OP is an unhinged, uneducated asshole?

Why is that such a trend here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you bring your 7 year old son into womens locker, instruct him to talk about that woman there with hair in that part of her body

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone ever feel that an OP could start a thread "I really like blue, it's a nice color" and people would still find a way to twist it so that OP is an unhinged, uneducated asshole?

Why is that such a trend here?

In this particular case, no. OP started a thread stating what she considered to be good manners. This is a discussion board. As such, a discussion ensues. There are no guarantees that everyone will agree with OP's opinion. In OP's OP made some statements that could be considered bad manners (i.e. judging people based on appearance which is totally subjective). I also don't recall anywhere in the thread where OP was called an unhinged uneducated asshole (now that would be bad manners). It's just that some PPs disagreed with OP's opinion and found her statements ironic given the subject matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Remember to say thank you
Smile when people smile at you
Say good morning
Be nice to old people

When visiting someones house, do not say that the living rooms new paint job is the color of pee
say congratulations to a pregnant woman
Do not point out that someone is wearing old or cheap clothing
At a wedding, do not say that that guest over there is wearing the same outfit they wore a year ago to a similar function
Do not be obviously snobbish
Do not ask people their salary or how much they paid for their house
Do not tell people that the deaf person sounds different when they talk because they are deaf

+1

Pretending you have no filter.
"Touring" someone's house, without an invitation.

Asking what anyone paid for anything is the epitome of garbage class.

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Anonymous wrote:Letting your children e n wild at gathering or being disruptive or.rude to adults.

This makes me crazy.

I hate to say it but "welcome to America"

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone ever feel that an OP could start a thread "I really like blue, it's a nice color" and people would still find a way to twist it so that OP is an unhinged, uneducated asshole?

Why is that such a trend here?

Yes, and the trend is there because the PPs who are attacking her are monumentally, and I mean MONUMENTALLY, insecure. It's kind of sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone ever feel that an OP could start a thread "I really like blue, it's a nice color" and people would still find a way to twist it so that OP is an unhinged, uneducated asshole?

Why is that such a trend here?

In this particular case, no. OP started a thread stating what she considered to be good manners. This is a discussion board. As such, a discussion ensues. There are no guarantees that everyone will agree with OP's opinion. In OP's OP made some statements that could be considered bad manners (i.e. judging people based on appearance which is totally subjective). I also don't recall anywhere in the thread where OP was called an unhinged uneducated asshole (now that would be bad manners). It's just that some PPs disagreed with OP's opinion and found her statements ironic given the subject matter.

I HATE BLUE IT IS THE WORST COLOR ARGHHHHH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am with you on not dressing sloppily. Doesn't matter how much money you have or what your style is.

I also cannot stand when people flake on commitments. Emergency? Fine. Otherwise keep your commitments.

Agree. This is #1 annoying.