Manners 101 - what is important to you?

[Anonymous]

Manners ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) Treating other people the way I would like to be treated. 2) Don't judge other people - you don't know their life. (see #1)
3) Be kind and compassionate. (see #1)
4) Be on time. (see #1)

I could go on... but really it goes back to the golden rule for me.

There is the golden rule, and the platinum rule. It is hard, but I really try to treat people the way THEY want to be treated. Not the way I want to be treated.

By reading their mind?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

ciaojenny wrote:OP here, I should have known better than to try to make a fun post.

Thank you to those that answered in the spirit of it all. FWIW I did indeed mean taking pride in ones appearance, just as stated in my OP and not any of what Miss Grouchypants accused me of.

I will add that I would love if actual mailed thank you letter came back. I still use them and the people receiving them must think I am rude because I don't send an immediate email

OP, in my book, you have exhibited really poor manners with your posts. And you don't realize it.

I'm an NP, but I think you need to see a therapist, PP. Your insecurities are glaring. And you don't realize it.

[Anonymous]

Things DCUM gets insanely touchy about:
- anything that could even be SLIGHTLY related to class
- anything that sniffs at a hint of not being lefty-left liberal
- anything about women that can be twisted, even in the most tangential of ways, into woman-hating
- basically, anything at all

But this thread has surprisingly been a balance between normal people and angry, permanently-offended-by-everything people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Things DCUM gets insanely touchy about:
- anything that could even be SLIGHTLY related to class
- anything that sniffs at a hint of not being lefty-left liberal
- anything about women that can be twisted, even in the most tangential of ways, into woman-hating
- basically, anything at all

But this thread has surprisingly been a balance between normal people and angry, permanently-offended-by-everything people.

Amen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) Treating other people the way I would like to be treated. 2) Don't judge other people - you don't know their life. (see #1)
3) Be kind and compassionate. (see #1)
4) Be on time. (see #1)

I could go on... but really it goes back to the golden rule for me.

There is the golden rule, and the platinum rule. It is hard, but I really try to treat people the way THEY want to be treated. Not the way I want to be treated.

By reading their mind?

No. By paying attention to people, understanding customs different than your own, and developing sympathy/empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

ciaojenny wrote:OP here, I should have known better than to try to make a fun post.

Thank you to those that answered in the spirit of it all. FWIW I did indeed mean taking pride in ones appearance, just as stated in my OP and not any of what Miss Grouchypants accused me of.

I will add that I would love if actual mailed thank you letter came back. I still use them and the people receiving them must think I am rude because I don't send an immediate email

OP, in my book, you have exhibited really poor manners with your posts. And you don't realize it.

I'm an NP, but I think you need to see a therapist, PP. Your insecurities are glaring. And you don't realize it.

This response doesn't make a lick of sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) Treating other people the way I would like to be treated. 2) Don't judge other people - you don't know their life. (see #1)
3) Be kind and compassionate. (see #1)
4) Be on time. (see #1)

I could go on... but really it goes back to the golden rule for me.

There is the golden rule, and the platinum rule. It is hard, but I really try to treat people the way THEY want to be treated. Not the way I want to be treated.

By reading their mind?

No. By paying attention to people, understanding customs different than your own, and developing sympathy/empathy.

Exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

ciaojenny wrote:OP here, I should have known better than to try to make a fun post.

Thank you to those that answered in the spirit of it all. FWIW I did indeed mean taking pride in ones appearance, just as stated in my OP and not any of what Miss Grouchypants accused me of.

I will add that I would love if actual mailed thank you letter came back. I still use them and the people receiving them must think I am rude because I don't send an immediate email

OP, in my book, you have exhibited really poor manners with your posts. And you don't realize it.

I'm an NP, but I think you need to see a therapist, PP. Your insecurities are glaring. And you don't realize it.

+1

Why oh why does negative nancy have to appear in even the most mundane threads?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

ciaojenny wrote:OP here, I should have known better than to try to make a fun post.

Thank you to those that answered in the spirit of it all. FWIW I did indeed mean taking pride in ones appearance, just as stated in my OP and not any of what Miss Grouchypants accused me of.

I will add that I would love if actual mailed thank you letter came back. I still use them and the people receiving them must think I am rude because I don't send an immediate email

OP, in my book, you have exhibited really poor manners with your posts. And you don't realize it.

I'm an NP, but I think you need to see a therapist, PP. Your insecurities are glaring. And you don't realize it.

+1

Why oh why does negative nancy have to appear in even the most mundane threads?

Seriously!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) Treating other people the way I would like to be treated. 2) Don't judge other people - you don't know their life. (see #1)
3) Be kind and compassionate. (see #1)
4) Be on time. (see #1)

I could go on... but really it goes back to the golden rule for me.

There is the golden rule, and the platinum rule. It is hard, but I really try to treat people the way THEY want to be treated. Not the way I want to be treated.

By reading their mind?

No. By paying attention to people, understanding customs different than your own, and developing sympathy/empathy.

Exhausting.

Yea, I just don't care enough to do that. I have a life.

[Anonymous]

The things I think are important are pretty simple.

Say please and thank you.
Be polite to strangers you interact with (store clerks, admin personnel, etc).
Hold open the door for someone and thank anyone who holds open a door for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) Treating other people the way I would like to be treated. 2) Don't judge other people - you don't know their life. (see #1)
3) Be kind and compassionate. (see #1)
4) Be on time. (see #1)

I could go on... but really it goes back to the golden rule for me.

There is the golden rule, and the platinum rule. It is hard, but I really try to treat people the way THEY want to be treated. Not the way I want to be treated.

By reading their mind?

No. By paying attention to people, understanding customs different than your own, and developing sympathy/empathy.

Exhausting.

Yea, I just don't care enough to do that. I have a life.

I give up. Enjoy your life.

[Anonymous]

To answer the original question. I think its poor manners not to say thank you to people

I think you shouldn't go around sniffing you should quietly blow your nose and stop the sniffing

chewing gum is horrendously bad manners

farting is bad

getting drunk is terrible

manners slip into other behaviors, but a lot of the discussion here seems to have been about something else - ethos.

[Anonymous]

Letting your children e n wild at gathering or being disruptive or.rude to adults.

This makes me crazy.