Anniversary dinner tonight ...should I tell DH I want to leave?

[Anonymous]

We talked on our way to dinner. He said he sensed something was off and that I was avoiding him. He is more than willing to try couples therapy and has already send me names and contact info of two prospective practices.

For those of you who said I was after his money - relax. We are both government contractors, we make pretty much the same amount of money, despite him being a PhD and me only an MBA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We talked on our way to dinner. He said he sensed something was off and that I was avoiding him. He is more than willing to try couples therapy and has already send me names and contact info of two prospective practices.

For those of you who said I was after his money - relax. We are both government contractors, we make pretty much the same amount of money, despite him being a PhD and me only an MBA.

Bet he was scared s'less going to dinner.

[Anonymous]

Op, I was in your shoes 4 months ago. DH had checked out years before, we were pretty sexless. Two kids under 6yo. We were out to dinner and I told him that I did not want to continue in the marriage the way things were and that I was going to therapy to decide what I wanted. Maybe not the best place to do it, but I had been trying to address it with him for years in private and he never listened. Fast forward we are in couples therapy and I am in individual therapy and we are making progress. We have a long way to go but you owe it to your kids and yourself to make every effort to fix the marriage before bailing. You do not want to have regrets. Good luck from me, just on the other side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I was in your shoes 4 months ago. DH had checked out years before, we were pretty sexless. Two kids under 6yo. We were out to dinner and I told him that I did not want to continue in the marriage the way things were and that I was going to therapy to decide what I wanted. Maybe not the best place to do it, but I had been trying to address it with him for years in private and he never listened. Fast forward we are in couples therapy and I am in individual therapy and we are making progress. We have a long way to go but you owe it to your kids and yourself to make every effort to fix the marriage before bailing. You do not want to have regrets. Good luck from me, just on the other side.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We talked on our way to dinner. He said he sensed something was off and that I was avoiding him.

Way more appropriate. Good. I hope that whether or not counseling leads to reconciliation, that it at least leads to civil, respectful interaction. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Considering the stuff written here about husbands, I'm not surprised in the least to read a wife asking for a divorce on an anniversary. Ranks right up there with my husband doesn't make enough money for me so I'm thinking of divorcing him.

ME ME ME 24/7.

Not one woman in that thread was thinking of leaving their husband because of his inability to earn more money.

I said it ranks up there with the other thread. Pay attention.


http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/455612.page

I paid attention, did you? Some wished they had chosen differently, but no one was planning on leaving.

[Anonymous]

Of course. You clearly hate him. Provide notice on a memorable day.