How to protect or teach your son's to avoid Crazy Girls like Jackie

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite. Make sure that your sons have respect for women. Don't let them play video games that glorify violence against women. Make sure they treat women and girls as equals. Show them you value women's feedback, contributions and talents as much as those of men. Make sure they experience loving, nurturing relationships with men. Make sure they see the men in their lives treating women and girls as equals/ Don't devalue "girl" things--colors, names, games, activities--as being less desirable or important as "boy" things. Make sure you teach patience, compassion, communication, consideration. Don't inadvertently glorify hypermasculine behavior. Don't mistake aggression for leadership. If you ever say "boys will be boys," you're doing it wrong.

THIS!!!! X10000000

What about this.

Make sure your daughters have respect for men. Don't keep showing cartoons that show girls and women as the smart ones and men as idiotic, dumb and evil. (ranging from family sitcoms to popular cartoons). Encourage both genders to be empowered. Make sure that boys are treated well in school and their energy feedback and contributions valued as much as the girl power song now adays and not just drugged up on ritalin. Make sure that boys are loved and have good relationships with their mothers. (did you know sex selection in the US is heavily geared towards females). Make sure they see the women in their lives treating men with respect instead of berating and nagging them. Teach patience, compassion, communication and consideration for both genders.

OP asked for tips for boys.

thank you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is a teachable moment for sons, but it goes far beyond "avoid crazy chicks." Avoid having sex with any drunk chick. Avoid having sex with other people watching. Avoid having sex with someone you just met.

It really is on the boys to not rape.

None of those are rape

Sex with a drunk chick is absolutely rape. And sex with people watching can easily be called gang rape.

The last one is just common sense.

Sex with people watching is called public exhibition. That is pushing the definition.

Sex with a drunk chick is not absolutely rape. Its an grey area. When I was a junior in college after a night of drinking I invited another drunk boy up to my room and had tons of fun. I was not raped, I did not raped him. Still a fond memory today. This would mean many boys raped me in school, which I reject. .When people initially thought of raping drunk chicks it was at a club where a person who purposely ply a woman with drink to render her black out or drug her. But this definition has been brought to many grey situations where two young people with liquored up courage have sex. Its ridiculous

The last one may be common sense but people still do it. In fact sex positive feminists encourage it. So moot point.

All these three situations are still NOT rape.

I didn't actually witness this but I heard about it: Wet tee shirt contest with many buzzed/drunk girls participating. The "winner" stripped off her shirt hopped down into the crowd and let any guy who wanted to touch her breasts. She laughed as she walked through the crowd being groped all over by horny guys.

The next day she felt humiliated. What would you call this?

If she was of age to drink - her mistake. If she was underage, a crime by her and her servers. The touching people? Close call. Way too weird an event. Look yes. Touch? Wellllll, no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a teachable moment for sons, but it goes far beyond "avoid crazy chicks." Avoid having sex with any drunk chick. Avoid having sex with other people watching. Avoid having sex with someone you just met.

It really is on the boys to not rape.

None of those are rape

Sex with a drunk chick is absolutely rape. And sex with people watching can easily be called gang rape.

The last one is just common sense.

Sex with people watching is called public exhibition. That is pushing the definition.

Sex with a drunk chick is not absolutely rape. Its an grey area. When I was a junior in college after a night of drinking I invited another drunk boy up to my room and had tons of fun. I was not raped, I did not raped him. Still a fond memory today. This would mean many boys raped me in school, which I reject. .When people initially thought of raping drunk chicks it was at a club where a person who purposely ply a woman with drink to render her black out or drug her. But this definition has been brought to many grey situations where two young people with liquored up courage have sex. Its ridiculous

The last one may be common sense but people still do it. In fact sex positive feminists encourage it. So moot point.

All these three situations are still NOT rape.

I didn't actually witness this but I heard about it: Wet tee shirt contest with many buzzed/drunk girls participating. The "winner" stripped off her shirt hopped down into the crowd and let any guy who wanted to touch her breasts. She laughed as she walked through the crowd being groped all over by horny guys.

The next day she felt humiliated. What would you call this?

If she was of age to drink - her mistake. If she was underage, a crime by her and her servers. The touching people? Close call. Way too weird an event. Look yes. Touch? Wellllll, no.

If a video was brought to court showing her as happy when being groped there would be no case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite. Make sure that your sons have respect for women. Don't let them play video games that glorify violence against women. Make sure they treat women and girls as equals. Show them you value women's feedback, contributions and talents as much as those of men. Make sure they experience loving, nurturing relationships with men. Make sure they see the men in their lives treating women and girls as equals/ Don't devalue "girl" things--colors, names, games, activities--as being less desirable or important as "boy" things. Make sure you teach patience, compassion, communication, consideration. Don't inadvertently glorify hypermasculine behavior. Don't mistake aggression for leadership. If you ever say "boys will be boys," you're doing it wrong.

+1. Big time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite. Make sure that your sons have respect for women. Don't let them play video games that glorify violence against women. Make sure they treat women and girls as equals. Show them you value women's feedback, contributions and talents as much as those of men. Make sure they experience loving, nurturing relationships with men. Make sure they see the men in their lives treating women and girls as equals/ Don't devalue "girl" things--colors, names, games, activities--as being less desirable or important as "boy" things. Make sure you teach patience, compassion, communication, consideration. Don't inadvertently glorify hypermasculine behavior. Don't mistake aggression for leadership. If you ever say "boys will be boys," you're doing it wrong.

THIS!!!! X10000000

You have missed the point completely.

How do you equip your son to avoid a certified crazy person like jackie. Doing all of the above things won't help you weed out a crazy women. They will help you act in a respectable manor.

Yes exactly. +1

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Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of crazy girls out there. As in, bat-shit, certifiable, cook-your-kids'-pet-rabbit, CRAZY.

The odd part about it is how adept girls have become at hiding their crazy side.

And men too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think this is a teachable moment for sons, but it goes far beyond "avoid crazy chicks." Avoid having sex with any drunk chick. Avoid having sex with other people watching. Avoid having sex with someone you just met.

It really is on the boys to not rape.

None of those are rape

No (unless she's intoxicated to the point that she cannot legally consent), but if you want your son not to be accused of rape when he didn't, one way to do that is to ensure that the people he does have sex with are sober. That he knows something about them. And that he avoids questionable circumstances. And all of those are good advice anyway. As is--don't settle for a mere lack of a refusal. Only have sex if you are getting enthusiastic consent by word or deed. If you aren't sure, ask.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite. Make sure that your sons have respect for women. Don't let them play video games that glorify violence against women. Make sure they treat women and girls as equals. Show them you value women's feedback, contributions and talents as much as those of men. Make sure they experience loving, nurturing relationships with men. Make sure they see the men in their lives treating women and girls as equals/ Don't devalue "girl" things--colors, names, games, activities--as being less desirable or important as "boy" things. Make sure you teach patience, compassion, communication, consideration. Don't inadvertently glorify hypermasculine behavior. Don't mistake aggression for leadership. If you ever say "boys will be boys," you're doing it wrong.

THIS!!!! X10000000

What about this.

Make sure your daughters have respect for men. Don't keep showing cartoons that show girls and women as the smart ones and men as idiotic, dumb and evil. (ranging from family sitcoms to popular cartoons). Encourage both genders to be empowered. Make sure that boys are treated well in school and their energy feedback and contributions valued as much as the girl power song now adays and not just drugged up on ritalin. Make sure that boys are loved and have good relationships with their mothers. (did you know sex selection in the US is heavily geared towards females). Make sure they see the women in their lives treating men with respect instead of berating and nagging them. Teach patience, compassion, communication and consideration for both genders.

Lol. You sound so bitter and pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite. Make sure that your sons have respect for women. Don't let them play video games that glorify violence against women. Make sure they treat women and girls as equals. Show them you value women's feedback, contributions and talents as much as those of men. Make sure they experience loving, nurturing relationships with men. Make sure they see the men in their lives treating women and girls as equals/ Don't devalue "girl" things--colors, names, games, activities--as being less desirable or important as "boy" things. Make sure you teach patience, compassion, communication, consideration. Don't inadvertently glorify hypermasculine behavior. Don't mistake aggression for leadership. If you ever say "boys will be boys," you're doing it wrong.

THIS!!!! X10000000

You have missed the point completely.

How do you equip your son to avoid a certified crazy person like jackie. Doing all of the above things won't help you weed out a crazy women. They will help you act in a respectable manor.

No, YOU missed the point. You teach your boys how to give and receive respect. Men who know what healthy, balanced relationships look like aren't turned on by young women who are damaged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite. Make sure that your sons have respect for women. Don't let them play video games that glorify violence against women. Make sure they treat women and girls as equals. Show them you value women's feedback, contributions and talents as much as those of men. Make sure they experience loving, nurturing relationships with men. Make sure they see the men in their lives treating women and girls as equals/ Don't devalue "girl" things--colors, names, games, activities--as being less desirable or important as "boy" things. Make sure you teach patience, compassion, communication, consideration. Don't inadvertently glorify hypermasculine behavior. Don't mistake aggression for leadership. If you ever say "boys will be boys," you're doing it wrong.

THIS!!!! X10000000

What about this.

Make sure your daughters have respect for men. Don't keep showing cartoons that show girls and women as the smart ones and men as idiotic, dumb and evil. (ranging from family sitcoms to popular cartoons). Encourage both genders to be empowered. Make sure that boys are treated well in school and their energy feedback and contributions valued as much as the girl power song now adays and not just drugged up on ritalin. Make sure that boys are loved and have good relationships with their mothers. (did you know sex selection in the US is heavily geared towards females). Make sure they see the women in their lives treating men with respect instead of berating and nagging them. Teach patience, compassion, communication and consideration for both genders.

OP asked for tips for boys.

This is a tip for boys. Find women who grew up this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite. Make sure that your sons have respect for women. Don't let them play video games that glorify violence against women. Make sure they treat women and girls as equals. Show them you value women's feedback, contributions and talents as much as those of men. Make sure they experience loving, nurturing relationships with men. Make sure they see the men in their lives treating women and girls as equals/ Don't devalue "girl" things--colors, names, games, activities--as being less desirable or important as "boy" things. Make sure you teach patience, compassion, communication, consideration. Don't inadvertently glorify hypermasculine behavior. Don't mistake aggression for leadership. If you ever say "boys will be boys," you're doing it wrong.

Hopefully we all want our boys and sons to act like above. This teaches them how to be respectful good men. It does not teach them how to avoid the crazies like Jackie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite. Make sure that your sons have respect for women. Don't let them play video games that glorify violence against women. Make sure they treat women and girls as equals. Show them you value women's feedback, contributions and talents as much as those of men. Make sure they experience loving, nurturing relationships with men. Make sure they see the men in their lives treating women and girls as equals/ Don't devalue "girl" things--colors, names, games, activities--as being less desirable or important as "boy" things. Make sure you teach patience, compassion, communication, consideration. Don't inadvertently glorify hypermasculine behavior. Don't mistake aggression for leadership. If you ever say "boys will be boys," you're doing it wrong.

THIS!!!! X10000000

You have missed the point completely.

How do you equip your son to avoid a certified crazy person like jackie. Doing all of the above things won't help you weed out a crazy women. They will help you act in a respectable manor.

No, YOU missed the point. You teach your boys how to give and receive respect. Men who know what healthy, balanced relationships look like aren't turned on by young women who are damaged.

Exactly. I'm wondering why we are even bothering with this poster. This sounds exactly like the misogyny troll that haunts DCUM

[Anonymous]

I'm always fascinated that the cure for women getting sexually assaulted is generally something along the lines of "don't get drunk, don't dress like a slut, don't walk around alone," etc. Guys are never told "Hey, don't get drunk and sleep with some rando you met at a party."

So start there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm always fascinated that the cure for women getting sexually assaulted is generally something along the lines of "don't get drunk, don't dress like a slut, don't walk around alone," etc. Guys are never told "Hey, don't get drunk and sleep with some rando you met at a party."

So start there.

Exactly. It's so ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I'll bite. Make sure that your sons have respect for women. Don't let them play video games that glorify violence against women. Make sure they treat women and girls as equals. Show them you value women's feedback, contributions and talents as much as those of men. Make sure they experience loving, nurturing relationships with men. Make sure they see the men in their lives treating women and girls as equals/ Don't devalue "girl" things--colors, names, games, activities--as being less desirable or important as "boy" things. Make sure you teach patience, compassion, communication, consideration. Don't inadvertently glorify hypermasculine behavior. Don't mistake aggression for leadership. If you ever say "boys will be boys," you're doing it wrong.

THIS!!!! X10000000

You have missed the point completely.

How do you equip your son to avoid a certified crazy person like jackie. Doing all of the above things won't help you weed out a crazy women. They will help you act in a respectable manor.

No, YOU missed the point. You teach your boys how to give and receive respect. Men who know what healthy, balanced relationships look like aren't turned on by young women who are damaged.

Exactly. I'm wondering why we are even bothering with this poster. This sounds exactly like the misogyny troll that haunts DCUM

That is totally preposterous. Choosing good relationships is a learning process, both for young men and women. Even though I think I was brought up well in a very stable family, I made some mistakes choosing boyfriends before I ended up getting married. I have very stable female friends who otherwise make bad choices in relationship. Its not "healthy balanced relationships", its sometimes people get unlucky and it is a learning process. The same go for men choosing female partners. People sometimes get unlucky, this sounds like blaming the men again. As people navigate love and relationships inevitably they may put themselves in situations that may not be ideal.

I'm wondering why to bother with commentators which are just wanting to pin all the blame on the men without realizing that there are evil in people in general for both genders.