His Family Bringing Up His Ex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:K. Not reading that wall of a reply. You're right, they are bad people! Happy?

Bless your heart.

[Anonymous]

I have not read all 5 pages, but if I understand correctly it is often your DH's SISTER who is always always asking about the ex, honestly, yes, that sounds like just trying to bug you or make you insecure. Especially if the sister is still in touch with the ex directly! Seriously, if I read that right, what other reason is there to bring up the ex ALL THE TIME with the new GF/DW unless you want to keep making a point that you either like the ex better, or you just are mean and like making others insecure? Note: my whole opinion on this so far rests on my understanding that the sister is still directly in contact with the ex and speaks to her frequently. There is no reason for her to ask her brother or his new GF about the ex in that case.

All that said, OP, the bottom line is still the same as those saying it's not a big deal. The bottom line is, unless you are comfortable asking the family about it (which sounds like it might disrupt a good vibe among all of you), you have to just let it roll off your back. You can know someone is purposefully being a jerk and still it's better to let it roll off your back if everything else is good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have not read all 5 pages, but if I understand correctly it is often your DH's SISTER who is always always asking about the ex, honestly, yes, that sounds like just trying to bug you or make you insecure. Especially if the sister is still in touch with the ex directly! Seriously, if I read that right, what other reason is there to bring up the ex ALL THE TIME with the new GF/DW unless you want to keep making a point that you either like the ex better, or you just are mean and like making others insecure? Note: my whole opinion on this so far rests on my understanding that the sister is still directly in contact with the ex and speaks to her frequently. There is no reason for her to ask her brother or his new GF about the ex in that case.

All that said, OP, the bottom line is still the same as those saying it's not a big deal. The bottom line is, unless you are comfortable asking the family about it (which sounds like it might disrupt a good vibe among all of you), you have to just let it roll off your back. You can know someone is purposefully being a jerk and still it's better to let it roll off your back if everything else is good.

Yes. His ex watches his sister's youngest child on occasion...they communicate frequently. I've been with the ex and seen his sister call her.

But overall, I'm going to go forward as though everyone else isn't meaning any disrespect or are wanting him to be with her, unless something blatant happens, more than what they are currently doing.