Curious: how often do you have sex and what is your children's bedtimes?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once or twice per year. DW has low libido and mine is high. 1 kid under 5 with a normal and predictable bed time and wake up time. I feel sad writing this.

Hang in there. I went through long sexless stretches when my kids were younger. Exhaustion was part of it, I'm sure.

Now the kids are teens and sex is 2-3 times a week. Of course I may just be a proxy for the celeb she spends all day crushing on when I'm at work.

Another dude here. I hope we can get back to 2-3 times a week. Kids won't be teenagers for a while though...

I don't care who DW thinks about! Whenever there's an opportunity to watch Brad Pitt I encourage my wife to. Sometimes it works!

[Anonymous]

18 week old goes to bed at 8pm. We have sex every night or every other night. My beautiful boy has slept from 8-7 since 9 weeks.

[Anonymous]

4-year old goes to bed at 9 pm. We rarely have sex (nothing to do with him). DH has MS, which dampened the libido big time. Haven't had sex for 3 years since DS was born, have been making a little effort recently. I'm pregnant with #2, so that will probably invite another break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:18 week old goes to bed at 8pm. We have sex every night or every other night. My beautiful boy has slept from 8-7 since 9 weeks.

Go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:18 week old goes to bed at 8pm. We have sex every night or every other night. My beautiful boy has slept from 8-7 since 9 weeks.

We had the same fortune with our DS. Not sex every night but it was nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:18 week old goes to bed at 8pm. We have sex every night or every other night. My beautiful boy has slept from 8-7 since 9 weeks.

Go away.

Why should I " go away"? I simply answered the question. Don't be bitter because your wife isn't giving it to you much.

[Anonymous]

I'm also amazed by these numbers. I can go days without seeing my husband for more than a few minutes. We have 3 kids, all in elementary school. He leaves before I get up in the morning. He travels for work 3 to 4 days many weeks. We both work full time so most evenings one of us comes home late from work (close to 8). Then most nights that we are home we still have work to do and we sit at our desks for another hour after the kids go to bed. Then 2 to 3 evenings a week one of our kids has a evening sports or ballet (Nutcracker) practice that goes to 7:30 so we're not home until 8 on those nights. Right now 2 of the kids have basketball practice (different nights but both end at 7:30). Then about once every other week I try to go out with girlfriends in the evening (otherwise I have no friend contact). Then on Saturdays we're up at 7am for sports stuff and on Sundays it's church.

And I feel like we're 100% the norm of everyone I know in my neighborhood and at our school in NW DC except my husband travels a lot LESS than most of my friend's husbands and I don't travel for work!! Most of the families I know have 2 traveling partners and the kids are busier than ours.

I think maybe in part it's just the stage of life. We definitely saw each other more when the kids were younger (toddler/preschool age). Now our few spare moments are taken up with kid activity stuff. That and work travel.

[Anonymous]

Teens who go to bed 10 to 11. Sex every 3 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:18 week old goes to bed at 8pm. We have sex every night or every other night. My beautiful boy has slept from 8-7 since 9 weeks.

Go away.

Why should I " go away"? I simply answered the question. Don't be bitter because your wife isn't giving it to you much.

Partially wrong. I'm a DW, bitter because you have an 18week old STTN since 9 weeks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm also amazed by these numbers. I can go days without seeing my husband for more than a few minutes. We have 3 kids, all in elementary school. He leaves before I get up in the morning. He travels for work 3 to 4 days many weeks. We both work full time so most evenings one of us comes home late from work (close to 8). Then most nights that we are home we still have work to do and we sit at our desks for another hour after the kids go to bed. Then 2 to 3 evenings a week one of our kids has a evening sports or ballet (Nutcracker) practice that goes to 7:30 so we're not home until 8 on those nights. Right now 2 of the kids have basketball practice (different nights but both end at 7:30). Then about once every other week I try to go out with girlfriends in the evening (otherwise I have no friend contact). Then on Saturdays we're up at 7am for sports stuff and on Sundays it's church.

And I feel like we're 100% the norm of everyone I know in my neighborhood and at our school in NW DC except my husband travels a lot LESS than most of my friend's husbands and I don't travel for work!! Most of the families I know have 2 traveling partners and the kids are busier than ours.

I think maybe in part it's just the stage of life. We definitely saw each other more when the kids were younger (toddler/preschool age). Now our few spare moments are taken up with kid activity stuff. That and work travel.

Some people are just always busy busy busy doing lots of stuff (like typing a lengthy response), but somehow they never accomplish their intended goal (like answering either of the thread title questions). Know anybody like that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife is constantly falling asleep on the couch after the kids have been put to bed but before they go to sleep. So bedtime definitely has an impact on our sex lives.

She's just a sleepy person - gets about 9 hours of sleep per night. She has also imposed rules on sex over the years where she doesn't want to have sex in the morning, doesn't want to be woken up for sex, and doesn't want to have sex while the kids might interrupt us. So, our window for sex is very narrow.

I could have written this, same story here for sure. When the miracle window does actually present itself - how is she in bed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teens who go to bed 10 to 11. Sex every 3 months.

Yup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm also amazed by these numbers. I can go days without seeing my husband for more than a few minutes. We have 3 kids, all in elementary school. He leaves before I get up in the morning. He travels for work 3 to 4 days many weeks. We both work full time so most evenings one of us comes home late from work (close to 8). Then most nights that we are home we still have work to do and we sit at our desks for another hour after the kids go to bed. Then 2 to 3 evenings a week one of our kids has a evening sports or ballet (Nutcracker) practice that goes to 7:30 so we're not home until 8 on those nights. Right now 2 of the kids have basketball practice (different nights but both end at 7:30). Then about once every other week I try to go out with girlfriends in the evening (otherwise I have no friend contact). Then on Saturdays we're up at 7am for sports stuff and on Sundays it's church.

And I feel like we're 100% the norm of everyone I know in my neighborhood and at our school in NW DC except my husband travels a lot LESS than most of my friend's husbands and I don't travel for work!! Most of the families I know have 2 traveling partners and the kids are busier than ours.

I think maybe in part it's just the stage of life. We definitely saw each other more when the kids were younger (toddler/preschool age). Now our few spare moments are taken up with kid activity stuff. That and work travel.

Sorry, but your life sucks. I have older children who play sports (two for one this winter!) and am a two income home and my life is nothing like you describe. My older child was at bball practice until 9 last night and we banged one out by 10pm and went to sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These threads always fascinate me because the folks here are having way more sex than all my friends.

+ 1

I also find it interesting that the ones who have sex everyday- especially in the shower or in the morning, and have little kids- aren't being interrupted all the time. For example, I know my three year old has a sixth sense as to when I am awake in the mornings, and she often wakes up if I am awake. Not saying its impossible, I just have a hard time imagining that. Or if you have teenagers who don't go to bed until 10 and you are having sex every night, don't they hear you/know what you are doing especially if you are doing it like clockwork?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm also amazed by these numbers. I can go days without seeing my husband for more than a few minutes. We have 3 kids, all in elementary school. He leaves before I get up in the morning. He travels for work 3 to 4 days many weeks. We both work full time so most evenings one of us comes home late from work (close to 8). Then most nights that we are home we still have work to do and we sit at our desks for another hour after the kids go to bed. Then 2 to 3 evenings a week one of our kids has a evening sports or ballet (Nutcracker) practice that goes to 7:30 so we're not home until 8 on those nights. Right now 2 of the kids have basketball practice (different nights but both end at 7:30). Then about once every other week I try to go out with girlfriends in the evening (otherwise I have no friend contact). Then on Saturdays we're up at 7am for sports stuff and on Sundays it's church.

And I feel like we're 100% the norm of everyone I know in my neighborhood and at our school in NW DC except my husband travels a lot LESS than most of my friend's husbands and I don't travel for work!! Most of the families I know have 2 traveling partners and the kids are busier than ours.

I think maybe in part it's just the stage of life. We definitely saw each other more when the kids were younger (toddler/preschool age). Now our few spare moments are taken up with kid activity stuff. That and work travel.

We both took slower paced jobs, and limit our kids' activities. I would be very unhappy not eating dinner at least 4 or 5 nights a week with all the family. My kids are teenagers.