My wife attempted suicide last night

[Anonymous]

ask her why she wants to die, be blunt, clear the hosue of anything toxic and get her doctors involved not the hospital

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am so sorry they are releasing her - that is how pathetic our privatized health care system is right now particularly for mental health needs. You need to FIGHT for inpatient - she tried to kill herself - trying to harm yourself or others is still the act needed. When my sib tried the same thing your wife did, he was in patient for 2 weeks at least following the attempt.

She has those bastards convinced it was an accident and not a suicide attempt. How fucking stupid can they be?!

ER nurse here. Some can be pretty fucking stupid unfortunately. Also
Lazy idiots because they don't want to deal with the issues of involuntary commitment. She should have been held for at least another 2 days (depending on your state laws).

I'm going to be unpopular with this advice but I'm going to say it anyways. Get a record of her past attempts so you have them. Then drive your son somewhere where he can stay overnight. Then take your wife to another hospital (better if you can research ahead of time if they have a good psych unit. Then take her there and say she's been threatening suicide all night. Say she tried it last night. Your wife needs to be committed. It is not yours and especially not your child's responsibility to monitor her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ask her why she wants to die, be blunt, clear the hosue of anything toxic and get her doctors involved not the hospital

I asked her this last night. She said I broke her heart and she couldn't handle the pain.
It's always my fault. Always.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ask her why she wants to die, be blunt, clear the hosue of anything toxic and get her doctors involved not the hospital

I asked her this last night. She said I broke her heart and she couldn't handle the pain.
It's always my fault. Always.

It is not your fault. Have you told your individual therapist about this? You DO have one, don't you?

[Anonymous]

For now, release your anger in the therapist's office and show your support at home to your wife and son. Best of luck. How wonderful that she survived and you have the privilege to sort this out together as a family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ask her why she wants to die, be blunt, clear the hosue of anything toxic and get her doctors involved not the hospital

I asked her this last night. She said I broke her heart and she couldn't handle the pain.
It's always my fault. Always.

She is sick and not capable of being rational right now. This is not your fault. Don't let yourself think that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For now, release your anger in the therapist's office and show your support at home to your wife and son. Best of luck. How wonderful that she survived and you have the privilege to sort this out together as a family.

What OP describes cannot be sorted out at home.

[Anonymous]

OP, I ask this question as delicately as possible: How did she have access to 700 pills at one time?

[Anonymous]

troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I ask this question as delicately as possible: How did she have access to 700 pills at one time?

The pharmacy -walmart- gave her a 6 MONTH supply of sleeping pills on a 30dat script. All filled at the end of Oct.

[Anonymous]

1) I said find a professional therapist. social workers have limited scope

2) you really can't commit someone against their will. the solution must come from her. maybe look for partial hospitalization or a residence program at someplace like silver hill or gunderson

3) blaming you? you need boundaries and therapy for u and your son

4) sending her home is par for the course for uncooporative repeat patients. another week in patient isn't going to do anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:troll

Fuck. You

-OP

[Anonymous]

Do everything you can to have her committed immediately and long term, not only for her sake but for your own sanity and for your son's mental health. Don't quit. This is extremely stressful for you. You can't leave the house without the assurance that she won't try again. It is impossible to suicide-proof a house without someone on guard 24-7.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like the open marriage poster. Who is with your wife while you are posting on the internet now that she is home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like the open marriage poster. Who is with your wife while you are posting on the internet now that she is home?

She is still in the hospital. I'm at work for another 15 minutes.