Telling MIL she cannot bring iPad to our house at Christmas?

[Anonymous]

MIL gonna turn into Beyonce you try to tell her what she can/can't bring

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While I agree what the MIL is doing is annoying, I agree you should just get over it, since this is a rare occurrence.

I also think people should remember that for a lot of people family time is doing just this kind of stuff, reading, watching tv, etc, just in the same space as loved ones. Not everyone wants to be a tourist in the city they are visiting. They aren't there to visit DC. Some people just want to be part of the home/family/routine. They don't want to "do" things together, they just want to be together. While there are problems with this being a constant, and while they should try new things, I think it's silly to take offense at such behavior.

+1
I don't get why people assume adult visitors should accept every toddler play invitation.

[Anonymous]

There are things that we all do that may irritate someone else. Yes, OP, even you may indulge in activities and behavior that others may not care for but we just make adjustments or accept the quirks of others.

Your wish to control the behavior of your MIL over something really trivial is outlandish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could the wifi in your house go down while she"s there?

This. There is no way you can ask MIL not to bring her iPad, but you can have a wifi outage.

[Anonymous]

Turn off the Wi-Fi. That will do it, unless she has one with a cellular connection.

[Anonymous]

The first night dunk it in water when she's not looking, hold it under until the bubbles stop. Dry it off. It won't work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While I agree what the MIL is doing is annoying, I agree you should just get over it, since this is a rare occurrence.

I also think people should remember that for a lot of people family time is doing just this kind of stuff, reading, watching tv, etc, just in the same space as loved ones. Not everyone wants to be a tourist in the city they are visiting. They aren't there to visit DC. Some people just want to be part of the home/family/routine. They don't want to "do" things together, they just want to be together. While there are problems with this being a constant, and while they should try new things, I think it's silly to take offense at such behavior.

OP didn't ask MIL to be a tourist. She wants MIL to hang out with her daughter. MIL just wants to hangout with her technology.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are things that we all do that may irritate someone else. Yes, OP, even you may indulge in activities and behavior that others may not care for but we just make adjustments or accept the quirks of others.

Your wish to control the behavior of your MIL over something really trivial is outlandish.

I agree and let me add that once your kids get older, you will likely view this very differently. Parents of little kids can be really insufferable with their rules about others' behavior. As kids get older and are no longer high maintenance and you have small blocks of time between hopping up to take care of them, it's easy to pick up things like ipads and books to fill the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While I agree what the MIL is doing is annoying, I agree you should just get over it, since this is a rare occurrence.

I also think people should remember that for a lot of people family time is doing just this kind of stuff, reading, watching tv, etc, just in the same space as loved ones. Not everyone wants to be a tourist in the city they are visiting. They aren't there to visit DC. Some people just want to be part of the home/family/routine. They don't want to "do" things together, they just want to be together. While there are problems with this being a constant, and while they should try new things, I think it's silly to take offense at such behavior.

OP didn't ask MIL to be a tourist. She wants MIL to hang out with her daughter. MIL just wants to hangout with her technology.

That's her choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While I agree what the MIL is doing is annoying, I agree you should just get over it, since this is a rare occurrence.

I also think people should remember that for a lot of people family time is doing just this kind of stuff, reading, watching tv, etc, just in the same space as loved ones. Not everyone wants to be a tourist in the city they are visiting. They aren't there to visit DC. Some people just want to be part of the home/family/routine. They don't want to "do" things together, they just want to be together. While there are problems with this being a constant, and while they should try new things, I think it's silly to take offense at such behavior.

OP didn't ask MIL to be a tourist. She wants MIL to hang out with her daughter. MIL just wants to hangout with her technology.

That's her choice.

Well as long as MIL is not watching porn with the kids around, how about letting her develop her own relationship with the kids and OP can step the freak back and get a life. Too many parents today try to regulars every dang thing and everybody.
Here's a Lexapro for you
Here's a Lexapro for you
And here is one for your friend
!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

In the moment, do you or you husband say something to her? Like, "OK, grams, dinner will be ready in five. Do you think you can wrap up talking with (other relatives) and join us then?" Even just awkwardly waiting for her to get off the phone to start the meal might cue her in to how rude she's being.

If that's totally unworkable for whatever reason, then yes I'd unplug the internet for Christmas day. I was one drama filled Skype call away from pulling the plug when my MIL stayed with us and FIL tried to start WWIII from thousands of miles away.

[Anonymous]

OMG!!!!!
People need to get a life!!!
Let the old ladies be!
They have to come take care of you cause you are having baby #683
They must psychically divine that your baby announcement you plastered all over a tee shirt and tokd 2/3 of the damn family, is not ready for prime time Facebook.
They must buy exactly what's on your damn Amazon wish list.
They cannot be closer to your sister with kids or your almost SIL with no kids.
Now they cannot even enjoy playing Candy Crush in their Golden Years.
I swear by everything that is holy, that if I was the mother or MIL of half of you crazy heffas, I would have jumped off a bridge by now!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While I agree what the MIL is doing is annoying, I agree you should just get over it, since this is a rare occurrence.

I also think people should remember that for a lot of people family time is doing just this kind of stuff, reading, watching tv, etc, just in the same space as loved ones. Not everyone wants to be a tourist in the city they are visiting. They aren't there to visit DC. Some people just want to be part of the home/family/routine. They don't want to "do" things together, they just want to be together. While there are problems with this being a constant, and while they should try new things, I think it's silly to take offense at such behavior.

OP didn't ask MIL to be a tourist. She wants MIL to hang out with her daughter. MIL just wants to hangout with her technology.

That's her choice.

Well as long as MIL is not watching porn with the kids around, how about letting her develop her own relationship with the kids and OP can step the freak back and get a life. Too many parents today try to regulars every dang thing and everybody.
Here's a Lexapro for you
Here's a Lexapro for you
And here is one for your friend
!!!!!!

Don't give away all your meds, you surely need some yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While I agree what the MIL is doing is annoying, I agree you should just get over it, since this is a rare occurrence.

I also think people should remember that for a lot of people family time is doing just this kind of stuff, reading, watching tv, etc, just in the same space as loved ones. Not everyone wants to be a tourist in the city they are visiting. They aren't there to visit DC. Some people just want to be part of the home/family/routine. They don't want to "do" things together, they just want to be together. While there are problems with this being a constant, and while they should try new things, I think it's silly to take offense at such behavior.

OP didn't ask MIL to be a tourist. She wants MIL to hang out with her daughter. MIL just wants to hangout with her technology.

That's her choice.

Well as long as MIL is not watching porn with the kids around, how about letting her develop her own relationship with the kids and OP can step the freak back and get a life. Too many parents today try to regulars every dang thing and everybody.
Here's a Lexapro for you
Here's a Lexapro for you
And here is one for your friend
!!!!!!

Don't give away all your meds, you surely need some yourself.

I surely would if I had to deal with some of these uptight biddies in real life.
Folks are raising a generation of weak spirited punks whose mommas have regulated every aspect of their lives down to their elderly grandparents electronic entertainment. Geeeeezzzzzz!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG!!!!!
People need to get a life!!!
Let the old ladies be!
They have to come take care of you cause you are having baby #683
They must psychically divine that your baby announcement you plastered all over a tee shirt and tokd 2/3 of the damn family, is not ready for prime time Facebook.
They must buy exactly what's on your damn Amazon wish list.
They cannot be closer to your sister with kids or your almost SIL with no kids.
Now they cannot even enjoy playing Candy Crush in their Golden Years.
I swear by everything that is holy, that if I was the mother or MIL of half of you crazy heffas, I would have jumped off a bridge by now!!!!

+1!